I'm a few weeks into SDM. Will post a full report after 1 month. So far I've had some hits and misses. Had one pot this morning that definitely set me off for being a bitch. Enough for me to report her behavior to SDM.
In chat she autoreplies with her cost per hour at $800. I said I'm not paying that much so we are probably not a match. She sent me her number anyway. So I text her. She then replies with $800 per meet instead of per hour. I asked her what $800 got me. She said CFS no BJ. 1 round. I told her no, I was not paying near that for that service. She then agreed to more stuff for a lower price but would not budge on BB sex. I then asked her if she would be driving out to me or had a place. She told me I can uber her. It's about a $70 uber each way. I told her no, we are clearly not a match. She replied calling me a cheapass motherfucker. Said she was going to find me for wasting her fucking time and take her money. I got a chuckle out of it. I live in a gated area with security guards. I sent her a reply stating this was enough evidence to have her arrested. I made it clear she should calm herself down and be realistic on her expectations with anyone she meets. Even if her threats were not real, she can get herself in a lot of trouble if she's doing it to a lot of people. Then I reported the chat to SDM for making threats. Her profile is not yet banned but it usually takes them a week to review.
Started on the site. She said 800 in her reply to my intro. I told.her I don't start there but she gave me her number anyway so I texted her. I assumed it was the typical, start high, but move down to what I'm open to bargaining.
One of the things SDM has over SA is you can have these talks. There's even chatrooms which are titled PPM Daddy's. In the subtitles it says "we all know what we want"
Thanks for the context. My first thought is that it sounds nice to be able to stop walking on the "eggshells" of Seekings rules about excluding all P4P references.
But my next thought is that allowing this discussion on site, not to mention hosting chatrooms about it, makes me wonder how much that changes the nature of discussions and negotiations from "budget vs needs" on Seeking to all out "bidding wars" on SDM. I really don't want to be forced to do a real-time "price match" against other SD's.
But on seeking I want to say the entitlement quotient has been going down a bit
Maybe it’s the economy, maybe ppl need extra income more desperately who knows
But I have been able to snag a couple for 500 ppm (2 hrs bcd plus dinner or something, so like 4-5h total) — and have been seeing them regularly (once a week, or 3-4x a month)
Say last y, such types would probably have demanded 700-800
I tried to sign up with them a few years ago, and after completing a profile, they immediately kicked me out as "suspicious". As what I wrote was just the usual boiler plate, I can only guess it was because I was using a VPN.
I can't remember if I got to a "verification" stage. What they require for verification is my main question - on their front page they say verification is required for all users. No way am I giving them my real identity, so am I out of luck?
Verification is you will have to send a short video to the site with a specific expression they tell you. It matches your pic. You can have that pic as a hidden one. You do have to have a pic, but mine is with my face turned away.
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