I have a tendency to appreciate, care for and about the ladies I have seen. So fucking what. I don't have the ability to bang and run like a lot of fellows do. So fucking what. I am fucking tired of being called a mangina simply because I care about people as we were designed to do.

LG; I get very upset when someone I have seen suffers misfortune(for a variety of reasons I assure you), retires...etc. Am I a human paradox within this community?

Glad my missus is far down.

And, it actually takes more balls to care than not. The mangina label is decidedly inappropriate.

Really? Mrs OSP decrption of you is so far off from your self serving potrait.

I must confess that I'm a mangina too.

I believe the urge to care for your sexual partner is a neurophysoiological response to sex.

I am too lazy to google and write. Perhaps LG can elaborate.

Excuse me, OSP, but I am a little confused here,

Who exactly is "chastising" you? Your family? Your friends? People on prostitution discussion boards?

If you are having problems in your home life, then I would suggest that you begin some coaching or psychotherapy. Perhaps there are deeply rooted issues that you are not aware of. If you are talking about discussion boards on a prostitute review site, then quite frankly, what do you expect? This is a site that endorses and promotes social deviance [this is the social science definition of commercial sex activities]. The fact that people are as sane as they are on these boards is surprising, in some cases.

Obviously, you are not a human paradox within this community. But you will need to understand one thing, and that is that these boards - with the exception of the Erotic Highway, which is NOT an opinion board but a Q&A board staffed by a professional clinician - are dedicated to an activity which is not predicated by psychological emotion, but on physical expression of sexuality. As such, there may be unemotional aspects that may become offensive to you.

On the other hand, some people out there might find YOU very bizarre and offensive for engaging in paid sex, no matter how sweet you may be. According to a social deviance perspective, and according to a feminist-abolitionist perspective, you are a predator and a pervert who should be locked up. So there are all sorts of people out there with all sorts of opinions. I wouldn't get too bent out of shape about it. If you are, then it's very simple to just click out of the site and not bother with any of this.

PS - What is your "wife" - if it's really her, and not you pretending to be her - doing on this site?

Just asking the obvious question,
The Love Goddess

Mangina, for me, is someone who defends a provider on a message board, even when the provider has become unreasonable, unruly, and argumentative.

For example, a provider once lambasted me for using an alias.  There are reasons why I use an alias. And I ask what the problem was for using an Alias and asked her if she never twisted the truth in her favor, and she admitted she did. Other guys came to her defense. I thought those guys were Manginas, because they sided with her for no logical reason other than her being an owner of a vagina. BTW this happened in another Board (not TER), and I don't go there anymore.

participants as gospel.  Many clients do care very much about our lady friends.  Sometimes it is difficult to be their friends if they make choices we don't consider optimal.  I have had to step back & recite the Serenity Prayer on occasion.  That does not mean we don't care.

There may be some who prefer the personna of screw 'em & don't look back.  There may be some who actually think that way.  I feel sorry that anyone would be so devoid of human emotion that they can not "care" about another human being.  If so, they are beyond my reaching them to be sure.

I certainly don't feel alone in caring about my chosen companions.
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There is nothing wrong with caring for your fellow humans.  Do not allow others perception of you, and their poor judgment get to you.  Be yourself, that is all any of us can do.

Sincerely,

Veronique

I've been calling my belly button my mangina.

in far too many people to be critical and condesending to others who do not fit in their own predefined behaviors.

I am the same way about caring for people, even providers that I have seen. I don't think you are a human paradox. There are just a lot of loud mouth assclowns making themselves feel better by putting others down.

I don't consider being caring the same as a mangina, either. Those who do? fuck 'em.

I hear ya dog. My hobbyist experiences where I try the 'screw-em and forget-em' approach were failures.

I need a better connection. I try not to harbor any false hopes of a different relationship, but when I connect with a provider on a personal level the experience is so much better.

Even in the hobby world.