Yes, absolutely it is, AndropauseMan,

But of course, not all men act on it. As far as your situation, you've already been using commercial sexual service providers for 18 years, so this isn't anything new for you. I don't really see any difference between what you are doing now and what you've been doing for years, so that one's out of the way.

What I would suggest, however, is that you get with an andropause specialist who can put you on a testosterone/progesterone regimen. Andropause isn't just about loss of libido - it's a whole host of other functions that decline, including mood [which gets you into thoughts of self-doubt, etc]. If you can't find a practitioner in your area, you might want to consult with Dr Uzzi Reiss. He is in Beverly Hills, CA, but people pilgrimage to him from all over the world. HIghly recommended.

No more andropausal suffering!
The Love Goddess

This is probably a sad tale but there is a question at the end.

I'm in my mid-fifties and have been in a sexless marriage for 23 years.  As a way to still have a sex life, I have been an avid hobbyist for about 18 years.

Now I am finding that my libido is very much less than it ever was and my urge for sex has diminished significantly.  That does not make me happy.  I no longer awake with an erection and I don't have that high sex drive that I did for years.  It all started decreasing about a year ago.

I now find myself wanting to test my ability to have sex by seeing providers.  With the help of one of the ED meds I can still have adequate and satisfying sex.

The question is: Is it typical for a man of my age to want to test his ability to have sex?  It's not like I'm really driven to have sex, it's just that I want to make sure that I still can.

Self-doubt is creeping in, apparently.

You might want to see a doctor for a physical, there might be an underlying physical problem that needs some attention. seriously. Good luck.

go get a check up!!!    depending on what you find out.....there is testosterone therapy that can do wonders!!!!    there's also just plain working out and having the right frame of mind..........and a smile on your face!!!

I called my physician today and I'm seeing him tomorrow morning.  We spoke by phone and I mentioned that I believe I'm in andropause.  He's planning on checking my free and total testosterone and then prescribing replacement if necessary.

As for other, underlying medical conditions, it's somewhat unlikely because I am that rare man that goes for an annual physical without fail and I have done so for at least 20 years every February.  It's likely that my testosterone levels are low.

I already knew I needed to address this when I wrote the original post but discussing it here was just the push I needed to make the phone call and get started with the testing.

As for going off to Beverly Hills, Ca., it's not convenient since I live on the opposite coast.

Thanks.

I suspect you have low T

By all means get a check up and those similarly situated like myself (30 years married with no real sex life in past 20 supplemented by hobbying for 15 years) would surely be interested in the result. I have had the same experience as you but have mostly chalked it off to boredom.  Hobbying is great and I have met some wonderful providers. But after a certain age I think sex without love just gets a little boring. No rush of anticipation to see someone who wants to see you, no real exploration, no real intimacy.  At the end of the day pay to play offers only a limited glimpse of Eros.

(my first post on this site btw)

Not answering the question posted but I want to offer some advice to anyone who may read this and feel the same about their libido. First, my story. I am 30 yo and I noticed a big drop in my libido at age 27!!! Way too young for that to happen. It happened out of nowhere and it alarmed me. At the the same time my lifestyle let me be lazy and I went from 190lbs to 230lbs in a year and went from a 36 waist to 40. And, there were times when I had trouble rising to the occasion so to speak. At age 28 I did something about my weight gain. I joined a gym and hired a fitness trainer who I met with for an hour once a week. With in two months of working out ( focusing mostly on cardio) 5 times a week and with one of those with a trainer, I literally felt like I was 16 years old again. -Where your sex drive is so high you literally don't know what to do with yourself (pun intended)

At 30, I stand just shy of 6ft. weigh in at 175lbs, and fit into size 34 jeans. By no means am I athletic, i don't have the genetics and my diet is not disciplined enough to have a six pack. I maintain myself at a gym 3-4x a week. However, my sex drive is still just has high as it ever was.

My advice is to simply maintain an active lifestyle and limit food/drink you like. You don't have to go out and be a body builder or become a vegan. Just limit. I still consume stuff that isn't good for ya, just not as much. The original poster didn't say weather they are fit or work out but I would be curious if he weren't very active now if after a few months of exercising if he noticed an increase in libido.