I think the incredible abundance of readily available, customizable porn, is creating a problem different than what might be called "traditional" porn addiction or sex addiction.  It's crossing over to create the "atypical arousal pattern" for many men because recession or not, most men will never be able to afford real women as often as they need or want sex.  Now this has always been the case, but in the past there wasn't an easy way out- now there is.  

The unusual behavior that I think is emerging is that internet porn is so easy (the definition of instant gratification) that an entire segment of men is taking the easy way out and substituting it for interaction with real women.  In other words, they're no longer trying very hard to have sexual relations simply because it requires so much effort, along with risk of rejection, expense etc..  Or stated another differently, they take the easy way out because it's easier to turn on the computer than it is to turn on some woman you just met- and it takes far less time invested.

Here's another unintended consequence of on-demand, 24/7 porn availability, and it has a name in business- mass customization.  The fact that a guy can pull up any, and I mean ANY, type of porn to satisfy his craving du jour means that he gets conditioned to expect exactly what he wants on a given day.  As a result, he eventually gets conditioned to respond only to what his craving at that moment.

From small tits, to teens, to Japanese bondage, to upskirt, to oral, anal, facial, or lactation, it's possible to satisfy absolutely any whim that pops into a man's head in a way no 10 women could ever do.  

So why is this a problem?  Because it makes it even more difficult to respond to real women that you meet while (attempting) to date.  If she's not exactly what you're looking for you just move on.   You no longer feel the need to make any effort to compromise a little bit, like millions of people have always had to do in the past as fantasy crashed headlong into reality.  And the reason you don't is because fantasy is waiting for you back home, no matter how things went at the club.

The girl at the bar may have been too short, or didn't have nice enough breasts, but the ones online are perfect.  The girl at the bar probably won't do anal, but you can experience as much anal as you want online.  In small doses, this wouldn't be a big deal.  But the phenomenon I think we've uncovered is that many men are way past small doses, and it's now creating real problems with the relations with the opposite sex.

If I were a sociologist, I'd research the heck out of this one before it becomes widely recognized.  This subject may be somewhat of a surprise to women, but the men on this board know what I'm talking about.

Who knows, the way they're giving out Nobel Prizes these days, I could see you bagging one for your mantle.  

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Thanks for all the replies and advices... it is really bothering me so I am going to do whatever it takes...
Happy new year to all !!