The Erotic Highway

Blocked vs Ghosted
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Is there a way to determine if someone has blocked your number vs. not returning your text messages?  While the short-term results are similar (no communication), long term being ignored or ghosted leaves the door open for future communication (i.e. BCD's activity) whereas being blocked does not.

Wondering because of a particular young SB I was seeing last winter leading up to the pandemic.  College cutie, smart, sexy, drank and partied excessively (her words).  On our 4th BCD meeting, she abruptly halted the fun stating she had a recent traumatic experience with someone (not a SD).  Long story short is after a few months of texting back and forth, she has gone radio silent.

Of course, my sugar life has gone on.  Not loosing sleep as there are a gazillion reasons why SB's move on.  Just curious if there is a way in which one can tell wether their text messages have been blocked...or simply ignored.  Sweet young lady and hope she is OK.

There’s not a definitive way to tell for sure but one way is to actually call her. If she hasn’t blocked you, the number will ring for a few times and go to voicemail. If she has blocked you, it will usually kick over to voicemail after just 1 ring. Keep in mind that doing this may prompt her to actually block you. Ghosting is a fairly regular occurrence in the bowl and it’s not all that uncommon for someone to re-appear after several weeks or even months of radio silence.

Since you often don't know  if the end of an arrangement is permanent or not, always keep the door open.  One fantastic young woman I dated heavily for a year ghosted on me.  I didn't blow up her phone with texts every day, and I found out online that she was working on her sobriety and not socializing.  Time passed, and every few months I'd send her a nice message, wishing her well.  Over 2 years (!!) after she ghosted she finally replied! We had a lovely long conversation over lunch, and just might get back together.  I've had this happen with several SB and have wound up back in bed with them. So it's worth putting a bit of energy in to keep those doors open.

This is exactly what I've been doing and have had 2 similar experiences.  Actually just went back BCD's with a 24 yo SB whom I initially met 3 years ago.  We had a short run when she took a semester off of college.  Now a college graduate, she just broke up with her SD of 2 years because he proposed marriage.  Boom, she texts and wants to have lunch.  Lunch turned into day drinking and a late afternoon romp.

I've learned to always keep the door open.  I'm curious about the particular from my initial message, but will not call.  Hope she's OK and will send a Happy Thanksgiving message.

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