I wonder if any of you have encountered something similar, and what you did.
Once upon a time, far, far away I had a very pretty Latina SB. A student at a leading university, 21, with a rocking body. She did not look like your typical US, Latina, more Spanish or Italian. And oh, did I mention? - great in bed.
One day, while playing with her very beautiful breasts, I made a nasty discovery - a very distinct lump or nodule in her right breast. After I pointed this out, she checked it out as well, and had to agree. No doubt.
She was distressed. I tried to reassure her at at her age it was probably benign, or a cyst. But she was clearly worried, and she agreed that she would have to get it checked out. Of course she had the mandatory health insurance that all university students are required to have.
While I think I did a good deed in discovering this and pointing it out, I never saw her again. Maybe she associated me with trouble, maybe she disappeared into the health care system. In either case, a loss of a very nice SB for me.
I lost my mother when I was 18 years old. She'd had an 11-year battle that started with breast cancer. So when I detect an unexplained lump in an SB's (or any other date's) breast I make sure to let her know and (gently) insist that she get to a doctor for a mammogram ASAP.
I can understand why your SB may have ghosted on you. When a woman gets a positive test result and is looking at surgery up to and including a mastectomy, they often feel like the very essence of their womanhood - their breasts - are under threat. She may very well have feared that you would see her condition as making her "less than a woman" and would ultimately reject her. Or she simply decided that she wanted to focus on other priorities and left the Sugar Bowl behind.
You were right to let her know, as well as to reassure her and offer your emotional support. It's always correct to do the right thing, even if it means you lose something in the process.
Life is good
The Cat
Very insightful and considerate, Herb, and an excellent reply. Often in dating it's a selfish, winner takes no prisoners attitude on both sides. We as men can choose to take the high road, as many of the members of this forum do, to treat women with consideration, compassion and respect.
When it comes to this situation on the breast lump I think you've nailed it. OP might consider sending a thoughtful note to the SB with a follow up expressing concern and also that he would not see her condition or subsequent treatment as a cause for diminishing her sexual attractiveness. [If that is indeed the truth].
Posted By: BdrmFun48
Re: Been there. Did the same thing.
OP might consider sending a thoughtful note to the SB with a follow up expressing concern and also that he would not see her condition or subsequent treatment as a cause for diminishing her sexual attractiveness. [If that is indeed the truth].
Not really an option. As I said, this was long, long ago, and far, far away....
More seriously, she sort of disappeared, and dropped off of Seeking. I have no idea what happened, may have been completely benign, may not. The timing was probably awful for her - not long left at college. And she wasn't local.
