I am completely new to this hobby. I have been with low rent streetwalkers before, and always protected myself. Now I am seeing a high-end escort for the first time who is gorgeous,healthy and expensive. I have seen her three times. For some reason, I was able to convince her to allow me to have bbfs the first time we were together, and she agreed. She is telling me she has never done this before, but allows me. Something isn't adding up. She is a low-volume provider who works out of her home. I come over in the morning after her children go to school.She acts as if I someone special to her,texting me daily. But that doesn't add up either. What is going on here?

Well then, kingofsharts,

Why the downturned face? You should be cheering! You managed to "convince her" to have unprotected sex! In all seriousness, however, I'm not sure what your complaint is. Are you unhappy because you got her where you wanted her and now you are receiving some "special" unwanted attention? All I can say is, becareful what you wish for, because you may get it!

It seems you both have unintentionally violated a whole host of boundaries here, beginning with the unprotected sex. What precipitated that? Some death wish on your part? You barely know this woman, except that she engages in commercial sex, and here you go asking to have unprotected sex. Why? Because you can? On a lark? Quite frankly, I find this behavior so lacking in logic that I am almost tempted to just dismiss it by telling you to go blame yourself.

I fail to see what's "not adding up" here. If she consented and allowed unprotected sex, if she is now texting you daily, then yes, chances are that she is genuinely attracted to you. And if you don't want that kind of attention, then SAY SO and QUIT THE UNPROTECTED SEX. And if you aren't capable of engaging in that kind of request, then STOP SEEING HER ALTOGETHER.

You violated one of the unwritten laws in this hobby by asking for unprotected sex. She violated it by granting it. Now she is emotionally involved on some level, which is also a violation. But you are equally "guilty" because you keep seeing her. So the law needs to be laid down, the boundaries need to be observed and some firm action needs to be taken, otherwise this is going to end up in the gutter which is where you started looking for women, no pun intended.

MAN UP,PLEASE!
The Love Goddess

thanks for the straightforward advice. I guess I am refusing to accept responsibility for my own actions. Since she is the pro, and I am the newbie, I was expecting guidance from her. And I also assumed everyone tries to do this, but knows that the answer would always be "no'!! And then go from there. But I found someone who would say yes, and that's what doesn't make sense to me. I am very attracted to her and it seems to be mutual. But as a pro, I just didn't think any of this was possible,..i.e- that she would say yes, and that she is attracted to me. Now I am seeing her Wednesday morning, and I wanted some perspective other than my own desires. Thank you again for setting me straight.

which shows that once you go beyond the paltry street sex and begin to lay the proverbial cards on the table, all sorts of unexpected things can happen - including mutual attraction that goes beyond the moolah.

AND NO MORE UNPROTECTED SEX!!!!

Good luck on Wednesday,
The Love Goddess

kingofsharts wrote:
" ...I also assumed everyone tries to do this..."

regarding BBFS.

I would politely say that that is an erroneous assumption.  Take a look at the various boards and see the reaction anyone gets when they even HINT at wanting or receiving BBFS.  There is almost always a huge pile-on of negative, preaching, flaming responses.

Sure, maybe some of these people are being disingenuous, but I have to believe most mature adults are rational enough to see the major negative consequences associated with BBFS.  Being a newbie doesn't excuse you from being responsible for your own actions.

Some might think you hit the jackpot.  Others might think you managed to dodge one bullet in russian roulette.  Gonna go for another round?

yes, I do feel pretty stupid, and I shouldn't feel defensive, but my initial response was "jackpot". She is beautiful and sexy and..."boy, am I lucky!", is what I immediately felt. It wasn't until after the fact that I started to get scared. I thought it was the woman who was taking the majority of the risk, and the man's risk was marginal, at best. But I can see how everyone is put at risk if I don't stop.I have to assume that she isn't being truthful when she says," you're the only one" i do this with.
I wonder why she does this...with whomever!?

And with this admonition, I urge you to visit this here link I've attached. If you think the woman is absorbing "the majority of the risk," think again.

Don't repeat this behavior, please - for your sake and others,
The Love Goddess

Everyone is focusing on the possibility of an STD.

Please!

You should be worried about knocking her up. What are you going to do when she comes to you and says "I'm pregnant, it's yours, and I'm keeping it?"

She will be a part of your life for the next 18 years. Is that what you want?

Sorry, I gotta cry B.S. on this. Don't buy it.

The hobbyist has stated that both of them find each other quite attracted to each other. So, besides the risk of contracting a STD, the chances of the provider conceiving are the same as any other female that has unprotected sex. Whether or not there are any other kind of contraceptive involved. In my experience, conceiving a child is a very very powerful emotional experience. Since this provider is already attracted to the hobbyist, she might think of possibility of conception as a means to solidify the relationship. I'm not saying that this is for certain but clearly there is possibility of this. Thus, there are two reasons for not doing BBFS.

unprotected sexual relations without taking an STD/HIV test. You want to play Russian roulette with a fulling loaded gun, be my guest, but don't try to rationalize this very irresponsible behavior.

Both of you are not in any exclusive relationships. So she does not know what you are up to, and you do not know what she is up to. Until both of you get into a committed and exclusive relationship, condoms are a must.

Having been offered bbfs many times, and doing it a couple times, it's NOT worth it.

Not only can you die, you can pass on diseases to girls you really love when your in a relationship.

Not worth it at all man, this is from a guy whose done it before with providers in LA!  Get tested too!  I came out clean after doing tests, which is reassuring.  However, it's not worth the hassle or mindgames.  Get tested often if you're concerned, be safe!

She fucks other men bb if she fucks you bb.  She texts you and makes you feel special because she likes your money.

It's a simple equation.  The more special she makes you feel, the more you want to see her and the more money she makes.

This is a simple business rule.  Make your customers happy and they return to spend more money.