Sorry if this has come up before.  

Now that we are all on lockdown or should be, I have been thinking about why we are engaging in SD/SB and client/provider activity at all as an alternative to jilling or jacking off.  

For those with a Y chromosome: is it the divorced, sexless and touchless marriage, or just looking for something new? And what is it that gets your motor running: the lady next door who only walks her dog when in tights occasionally showing a camel toe or her late-teen daughter? If you could have an affair with the mommy, would that quell your interest in other women?

Similarly for the double XX set: young and need money, divorced, kids to provide for, sexless and touchless marriage, or just looking for something new? The neighbor who keeps obviously checking out your ass when you go outside or looking at your tits rather than your eyes when you get sort-of-close. Do you just do it for the money and hate what you are doing or is it more complicated? And what is it that gets your motor running: the compensation or just being paid for it? One lady told me that the amount of compensation was irrelevant, but that it got her wet just to think about being hot enough to be paid for it. Another told me that her SO was routinely cheating on her and she wanted to both get even and feel like she was full (she said that I was a lot thicker than him -- she held up her index finger and insisted that that is how big he was erect) from a new penetration.

I will start: for me, a sexless marriage for over 20 years, and I am attracted to the woman that my wife would be in my fantasies (professional, petite, Asian, but hot in bed). She is all but the last.

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Whatever the reason is, if it makes you happy, then it's the right reason.

 
Everything else is just noise.

I do enjoy comparing ideas about motivations.  First of all I agree we all need to be covid safe, whatever safety protocols you feel are necessary.  For me, that meant total celibacy last March, but reconnecting with my favorite SB in May.  We agreed to become exclusive with each other, which has led to an amazing deep emotional bond as well as sex that's off the charts.  In your what if scenario, it's def the teenage daughter that gets my motor running.  What can I say, I'm fixated on the youngest SBs.  Interestingly, I too have encountered one young SB who told me she gets hot by getting paid!  It turns her on to know she's desired that much.  In fact, she had a BF her own age and started making him pay her for sex too!  And I'm very ok with any girl who wants to get laid and get paid!

"Exclusive" because of the pandemic  and we were trending toward each other anyway. We have moved from SB/SD to BF/GF and she now wears a wedding band that I bought for her with both of our nicknames engraved inside. We plan to go together to her home region as my wife.

The pandemic is awful of course, but the lockdowns do seem to be cementing relationships or finalizing dis-relationships. A Chinese (not GF except in my fantasies) friend of mine told me that the backlog in her home city on divorce cases is a few months for what used to be same-day or close to it  service.

I like pussy, ok I LOVE pussy. Lot's and lot's of pussy, girls of all races, religions, colors, but kind of similar in areas of age and race.  

 
How else is someone who is not a rock star or a star athlete supposed to get thousands of women, hot women, to sleep with him over a lifetime?

 
As for "lockdown" please speak for yourself, and no "shelter shaming" if you want to keep this board civil. TYVM. I am NOT about to lock myself in my basement until the likes of Dr Fauci gives me the all clear. NOT going to happen.

 
Back to the "why" I have never had a problem with "paying for it" I lost my virginity at 14 I saw my first hooker at 15, getting civvie pussy and paying hookers/SB's are not mutually exclusive, I have enjoyed a very happy mix of both for many decades now with no end in sight

We all have to make our own decisions regarding covid safety and the risks we are willing to take.  Gambler, I think your comment about shelter shaming was directed at the OP not me, which I appreciate. I did  try to be clear in my post that my decisions are what I consider best for me, not trying to lay a trip on anyone else. I think catching this virus for a guy in my age group could well be a death sentence, which is why I'm staying and playing exclusive with one extraordinary SB for the time being.  But here's one more fact about this pandemic which is worth considering as you make your own decisions. Fully 59% of all covid cases were contracted from carriers who were themselves asymptomatic. So even though someone feels fine and has tested negative, they could still pose a health risk to you.

I hope that you stay healthy and I also hope that anyone you date does so as well.

But just as I  started to compose a message I got a text from my newest 23-year old Latina SB that read:

"Daddy im horny"  

 
25 minutes later I was tongue deep in her freshly showered pussy while she was loudly moaning things like "Mmmm.. yes daddy... make me cum on you."   She left my place a few minutes ago weighing slightly more than when she arrived; specifically, about 2 tablespoons full heavier.  :p  

 
No real point here..... just bragging because...

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I do love the daddy-daughter fantasy, but I have never been able to make it work (for us , it was niece rather than daughter). Once that we got about half a minute into the role play, we both started breaking up in laughing.

Just kidding! It's delightful to break up laughing.  You're doin it right!