I am looking for some advice on what a normal relationship is! I have been involved with the same woman for over 10 years now and I really enjoy the sex with her. I do from time to time see professional providers and hook up with a random woman here and there on short business trips. The hooking up part is a challenge thing and I just want to see how far I can get a woman to push her limits. The sex is incredible and mutually satisfying. With providers I search out fantasy women that I see and really move me in a deep sexual way, it could be their look or body or nationality. I love my wife and our sex life is good but I cannot ever see myself being 100% faithful since I just love the variety. I am even considering bringing up swinging to her. Any thoughts?

Why don't you amplify upon what you think may be wrong with the picture.

So you suspect that you're getting to have your cake and eat it too, and maybe that's wrong?

Or is it something else?

Yes, kmtoplay,
Your actions are "normal" in that they represent a segment of the male population in physical need of sexual variety.

Sure, you can bring up the "swinging" to her...just don't expect her to be overjoyed, unless she too wants to go outside the marriage for varietal sex

Don't worry, be happy,
the Love Goddess