... specifically, are you still messaging her through SA, or have you moved offsite to text/whatsapp, etc.
If you are still on Seeking, do not provide any number or ranges of amounts. I suggest you get her off (pun intended)
site in your reply. Something like: "Happy to compare notes on this, but let's do that by text please so we can talk in detail. Here's my (app name like text, whatsapp, etc.) and my number/id/handle is xxxxxxxx."
If you are already offsite, then you may have to start the early negotiations before you meet face to face if she insists. Not ideal, but workable.
The key here (at least for me) is to only use terms and phrases about YOUR budget. Never make this about HER worth. She's "worth" a million an hour to watch her fart - just ask her! :p So offsite you can reply with something like:
"My typical budget for a great date is usually between xxx and yyy and when we meet I'd be looking for us to do something fun like go wine tasting, or to a movie, shopping, or to a nice dinner, followed by more intimate experiences at my place."
The "x" value is not relevant, she probably won't even see it. LOL But for the "y" values, you will want to:
1. Make your best guess at what amount (y) will keep her interested
2. Be sure you can actually afford amount (y) and are comfortable actually paying that PLUS the incidental costs (dinner, transportation, tickets, maybe a hotel room, etc.) for each date. Nothing will kill a boner like worrying you may need to miss a car (or mortgage!) payment if you pay that much for a few hours of carnal fun.
3. Make sure you attach some type of recurring frequency to your expected date schedule - weekly, 2x a month, monthly, whenever you are "in town," etc.
4. MOST IMPORTANT: Be prepared to walk if she pushes back on (or scoffs at, or laughs at, or vomits on) your offer. I rarely see an SD who committed to an allowance 25% higher than his comfort level ending up with a long-term SB.
An alternate approach is to talk about your "last" arrangement:
"Well with my last arrangement, which lasted just over a year when she moved to go to school on the east coast, we liked to meet 2-3 times a month for dinner and fun. I would normally budget her allowance between xxx and yyy each time we met to help her cover bills and pay for things she needed to make her life more comfortable. How does that sound to you?"
How much should you offer? For my market in the San Fernando Valley north of Los Angeles, my budget is between $250 and $400. Most of my SB's land around $300-$350. Each market is different, but with enough practice and experience (positive and negative), you will find the sweet spot for your area. Please do not reward the wanna-be IG models with high-end ($500-$1500) allowances. I can almost guarantee you that there are some POT SB's in your area that will date you for less than $500 - IF - you are willing to entertain a fairly broad criteria for who you want to date and you are willing to wade through several dozen (hundred?) more profiles. (i.e.: IMO a 6-8 can fuck just as well as, if not better than, a 9 or 10). But that's ultimately up to you to decide if she is in fact, "worth it."
Again, use terms like YOUR BUDGET and not her worth or value, or what she deserves. You will never negotiate her worth down. Never. But your budget is you budget. She cannot control that - except by walking away. If she is ready to do that when yyy is not enough, she'll be doing you a favor by killing the deal before you waste cash on an SB who will never be satisfied with her allowance.
Please let us know how this works out!
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The Cat