I got a PM today from a new would be SD asking about SA and what advice I could give him for a married guy. After I answered him I decided to post it almost verbatim here since it could be useful for others considering jumping into the Bowl. Are there any more newbies on the TER discussion boards these days? No idea.
SeekingArrangement.com has been my go to place to meet local women for years and it is awesome. There's a learning curve, and it takes more time and effort than dating escorts. But I feel it's well worth the effort. Go back and read as much as you possibly can on the Erotic Highway discussion board. Every topic relating to Sugar Dating has been discussed in detail and you'll find a wealth of information.
As for advice for a married guy, well, that's hard for me to answer for you. I think at least half the active SDs are married, maybe more, and hide their activities from their wives. How they manage this in terms of time, money and their own emotions is hard for me to say. So read up on the board!
My own personal advice is way different from most guys'. About 15 years ago I simply told my wife I needed to talk to her about something of great importance to me. I told her I loved her and would never leave her and loved having sex with her. I had achieved everything in life I ever wanted, except the one thing I wanted most of all! And that was to have some sexual variety in my life, to be intimate with other women. I'd been monogamous and faithful for many decades, and we were able to talk about anything. She knew I'd been feeling depressed and unhappy and now she knew the reason why. I felt life was passing me by.
She reluctantly gave me her permission to date professional escorts. I dated many women off of TER for many years. My wife was fine with it, since I always came home happy, always practiced safe sex, and she had a significantly happier husband to live with. And my activities with escorts spiced up my bedroom life at home too, so she was happy about that!
When I switched to dating SBs I discovered I liked that better than escorts. But the bottom line is that my wife became interested too! I encouraged her to live her own life to the fullest. She now has a fine BF she's been dating for about 2 1/2 years! I'm very happy with it and continue to date my SBs as often as I like. My wife and I are closer than ever and have been together for 50 years.
I know that many people, maybe you too, feel they cannot discuss their sexual needs with their wives. I don't understand this, but I know it's true. If you can't get your wife's permission, if even broaching the subject with her would spell disaster for you, then you have a moral decision to make. Do you lie to your wife or do you continue to do without life's greatest pleasure?
And from the SBs' point of view, your marital status won't matter at all. OK, some of them refuse to date married guys, many just don't care, some have their own good reasons for wanting the arrangement to be discreet, and some actually prefer the sneaking around! They think it's exciting! So be honest with any SB you approach and find the ones who like you for who you are and accept you. Dude, you got me going! I could write books about Sugar Dating. Thanks for seeking my advice, ask me more any time, and let me know of your decisions and your experiences in the Sugar Bowl!
