Lack of truthfulness from a SB goes with the territory, I've learned that much, but this is a new one. I met a smokin' hot SB on SA, late 20s, one of the hotter ones in my area, looking for one SD, says no one young, no one timers but also lets meet sooner rather than later.  We messaged a bit and did a M&G over coffee. It went well, she said she is a widow with 2 kids and her husband was killed in a car crash overseas.  She recently moved back to the area from FL to be closer to family.  We then texted a bunch and she sent me a sexy pic for my birthday. We met for drinks again (yeah, I play it slower than many here, but many of my SBs have really appreciated the low key approach), have another good time, and make plans for BCD for our next date.  She is good at keeping in contact, friendly little texts now and again, I did try to setup BCD last week but she admitted to having her monthly visitor so we put it off. That did trigger the "how much" conversation and she didn't even balk at the offer of 2-300 (profile text even said she just wants a practical allowance).  Promises to bring the outfit from her sexy pic and a few others to model for me, so I am excited, just trying to get past the holidays so we can meet up.  Sounds nearly perfect, I am bracing for BSC or something.

I'm bored at work today and decide to check up on a swinger site I joined years ago, which has never panned out at all.  I am scrolling through their suggested matches and what do I see but the same sexy pic she texted me for my birthday!  The profile is for a couple, members for 2 years, guy is 39, and there's a "verification" review from another member at an event just a month ago!  They have no clear face pics but she used another picture in both profiles, so it is her.

Do I bring this up with her?  I think I mentioned she is smoking hot, so I will see if BCD happens first.  I am not positive if the guy is her husband, I didn't keep close track of her timeline as it was irrelevent at the time.  Potentially just a bf, or FWB.  I can't say as I care, although if the profile is accurate she is bi, which could be a bonus!  Just wondering what the more experienced here would do...

Her stalker.  
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Every SB lies. They need to manufacture their lives in a way that let's them be comfortable fucking you for sugar.  Just like you do.  It's part of the sugar bowl.  
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She's DTF for a good value. Enjoy yourself and keep your snooping to yourself.

In my experience there are few smoking hot women as swingers that aren't pros.  
Single guys can't go alone so often they buy a "date"
For me a woman with that kind of activity exposure opens the floodgates for all kinds she f diseases.  
Remember that condoms don't protect you from herpes and HPV

.. I'd get with her three or four times, and then let her know that one of the things on your bucket list was to have a play partner for swingers' events, and see what happens. You might even reference a different site from the one you clocked her on - say LL if you were on SLS or the other way around.

While I do like to know as much as possible about my SBs simply to protect myself, this wasn't from any research. It was purely accidental that I stumbled on her.  Had she not sent me that birthday text, which was very memorable, I would've never known.

My inclination is to do like I usually do with my research, and keep it to myself. Knowledge is power.

Interesting.  As I said, it never panned out for me so I only know what I find online.  Most of their "reviews" were from 2+ years ago, it's the one from a month ago that caught me off guard.  I didn't get a pro vibe, but I have never hobbied outside of sugar so I don't know what I don't know there, either.  Hence asking the hive mind here!

Interesting approach. I need to get BCD with her first and see how that goes!

as to how condoms don't protect you from herpes and HPV.....I'll get some popcorn.  This should be good.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but while condoms are highly effective against many STD's, Herpes and HPV are often contracted despite the most careful condom use.

Not sure how old you are, guy, but this shouldn't be big news to you if you're hobbying.  
And both of those STDs are incurable, btw

I have known escorts and SBs who were/are also on swinger sites. I wouldn't call it a lack of truthfulness, unless she told you explicitly that she wasn't on a swinger site. They are experimenting with various approaches to sex the same way many of us are (after all, we are on an escort site talking about sugar babies). If you are really curious or care about it, bring it up indirectly. If she wants to talk about it, she will; if not, don't push your luck. A lot of them are happy to open up about their sex lives (be prepared to reciprocate though) because their coloring-outside-the-lines dates are about the only people they can be open to in most cases. I have had interesting conversations about swinging, sugaring, and escorting this way. We also end up talking about our spouses and children fairly often. If you are into multi-date experiences this is a nice way to bond.

I just found out recently that a slim and athletic young black escort I met a couple of months ago had also done professional porn videos. I e-mailed her that I wanted to talk with her about her life as a a porn actress the next time we met, as well as her escort experience and her real life. She is open to talking about all three.

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yeah, great scientific article with no references to studies.  I bet the probability of that happening when using a condom is less that 1/100th of 1%.  Show me some numbers not anecdotal evidence.  Of course every one knows there is only one way to ensure you don't contract any type of STD.....abstinence.