Aaah, my dear InsaneForProviders... THAT is the $69000 question. How can we tell what ANYONE means when he or she says it in an intimate situation? Both men and women say the darndest thing in the heat of the moment. And, when all the juices and hormones are flowing, damn if they don't mean it! But what about in a non-sexual situation, when the going gets rough, or when things are not on any kind of romantic or sexual level? I believe that you need to start thinking with your big head right there. I don't know what providers have been saying to you, but if it's not during between-the-sheets time, then ask yourself about your mutual involvement and the meaning thereof. I've always been very clear on never mixing pleasure business with business pleasure, if you get my drift . Providers are engaged in the business of providing pleasure in a pleasurable way, and if they are good at what they do, the interaction becomes precisely that. But when the interaction veers off course, e.g. turns to pleas for financial help or insinuations as to extending the boundaries of your relationship in any way, followed by some kind of conditions that you'll need to fulfill, then back off. These are but examples and I'm certainly not casting aspersions on providers as a whole, but you need to be careful as to where the relationship is going. The provider-hobbyist equation is an old and time-honored formula and its basic premise is sex for money. Not love for money, or emotions for money. So if its pleasant small talk, then just enjoy it. If it goes beyond and you begin feeling manipulated emotionally, then find someone else...preferably on TER, after reading the reviews very carefully.
Good luck to you and many fun times,
from the Love Goddess

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