It starred Dustin Hoffman and Ann Bancroft and involved Dustin getting seduced by the sexy cougar Bancroft.

I saw it when I was about 17, and it got me started on a lifetime of seeking older women.

I think it has something to do with the wanting to be taught by an older experienced woman.

I don't think incest enters into it, at least not for me.

Dear sensualcleoforyou,

It has very little to do with incest and more about short term mating strategies that will yield some advantages for the young man. One is that most likely, it will not result in offspring (from an evolutionary standpoint.) So the benefit is sex without parental or material investment. The other benefit is that the young man will learn a trick or two [no pun intended here] and really witness women in their sexual prime. Please remember that younger women take some time to figure out their own sexuality (since most female sexuality takes place between the ears and not just the genitals). For a young man, it's definitely pleasurable for him to be with someone who is multi-orgasmic and can "demand" some pleasure. Oftentimes, there is restricted access to young women [again, evolutionary concept] due to potential offspring issues - their sexual favors are doled out with much greater discrimination than someone who has already made her "parental investment." So it's a happy confluence of higher sex drive, minimal cost, greater short term benefit - Mother Nature is wise again.

Will it pass? Yes, it will...and that's when older women start complaining that they are being passed up by men their own age - who seemingly prefer YOUNGER women.

Very common, no mystery, it's certainly a passing stage,
The Love Goddess

I'm asking this for a very personal reason that I'm not willing to expose here so sorry to be vague but I'll say that I'm very concerned about this fixation. It has nothing to do with my work as an escort (although I don't entertain younger men as I really don't care for show and tell) but rather my very private life. Why would a teenager be fixating on porn (and only that type of porn, nothing else) that involves boys and milf or cougars? Does it pass at some point? I know they all think we can show them as sorts of tricks but I'd like a more in depth explanation on what happens in their heds and reassurance that it will one day pass maybe? To me when a boy in his teenage years fantasizes about that it rings incest bell in my mind like he is turned on by older women in his family?... Am I mixing it all up? Thanks in advance.

No I don't Mr. Fisher as I'm a little younger than you))

LG will be able to read between the lines of why I'm so concerned I'm sure. I'm not concerned about you horny dawgs on this site but this is a very personal matter to me. When I'm referring about incest it's more about if a teenager would feel attracted to members of his family because of this cougar attraction. I don't have anything against a man dating older women it's not what I'm asking.

Personally playing teacher is very annoying. Reminds me the episode of Sex in the city where the red head is dating a guy who is bad in bed and agrees to teach him but it becomes so technical so she gets completely turned off. I don't mind hinting some directions but not full fledged verbal classroom during the act, what a turn off for me. Been there done that yuk!

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in his family?

I think it is possible that for some young men, the sexual attraction to older women has less to do with sex and more to do with feeling nurtured and/or accepted by a woman who represents his mother, from whom he may feel he did not get these things (which is not to say that she did not give them, but only that he feels that he did not get them from her).

If you are asking if the boy in question might come on to the older woman in question, the answer is yes, it might happen. So the older woman in question might want to think in advance about how she will react if it happens.

When I was younger, I would fuck anything with a hole. As I grow older, and I can't fuck 8 times a day, I have learned to be a bit more discerning in who I sleep with. If I could still ejaculate seven or eight times a day, I would probably still try to nail everything with a pulse.

Not everything is emotional, some things are purely physical.

When I was 17 I adored 30-35 year old ladies.

Now I'm 72 I still adore 30-35 year olds!

It's the age that women come into full bloom.