Curious how common.

Out of the last several girls (two last week, 9 this year), not all, I have had great BCD sessions, with enthusiastic promises of future meetings, only to never hear from them again.

All are first date BCD.  All are local.

Is it me?  Just curious how common.  Anyone else experience this?

Fwiw, most don’t go that way.  Some last a few months, and some years, and some I choose not to see again for various reasons.

Thoughts?

No arrangement lasts forever. They all end. Some sooner than others.  

I'd say maybe 30% of my 1st time BCD's don't repeat or may only repeat once or twice more. Almost all of those who don't return are BnB (Bang and Bail) SB's, meaning they declined any non-BCD activities like dinners, shopping, wine tasting, or other out-of-the-house experiences. In other words, they are only there for the cash.

 
Why? Hard to really know since they generally end the arrangement by ghosting. But I can speculate:  

 
1. Maybe they just didn't like sex with me (old, fat, and I sometimes take a while to finish). Maybe she just thinks I'm too much work. (No matter how much you enjoy eating pussy, let's keep those egos in line, Gents.)  
2. They may have found a guy with a much bigger... like maybe 8-10-inch... wallet.  Why fuck me for $400 when she can fuck some other guy for $800+?  
3. They may have a personal crisis of conscience and conclude P4P is just not for them.  
4. Perhaps they get a decent job in their chosen field and no longer "need" the cash.
5. Perhaps they get back with an old, or start with a new, BF or SO.  
6. Maybe she got arrested for something (like soliciting).
7. Maybe she got diagnosed with something (like pregnancy!).  

 
For me, I'll be happy that I got to bang a hot chick for a reasonable allowance and I can look to my schedule to see when the next SB in my rotation is due. Honestly, the most difficult part of scheduling is ensuring that I DON'T schedule SB's for back-to-back sessions. I'm too old and out of shape to bang every day... (sigh.).  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I've had the same experience. I think Herb has nailed it for possible reasons why. I've had wonderful initial BCD's go great with plans of meeting regularly, even setting up the date/day/time and she's been enthusiastic, only for her to ghost. The nature of SB's [and I think this is true for SD's both SB's] is that these are temporary experiences and tend to be ephemeral overall.  

As for reasons why, it's impossible to ever really know. Even if they don't ghost but give a reason why, it may not be a truthful reason. It could be she is just trying to let you down easy or it could be she doesn't want to create friction or bad feelings. It really doesn't matter as the end result is you've had a great time and now you must move on to your next great time with someone new.  

This happens to all of us in the bowl, regardless of age, location or whether we are SD's or SB's. It's the nature of what is essentially a transactional sexual experience and there are a million ways for it to end. Humans are flighty and always trying to avoid hurt and pain, driven by guilt and fear and desire. In some ways it's better for SR's to end sooner than later, since the more time you spend with someone the more attached you may get and then it makes it all the more difficult when it ends. I think it still gets down to compatibility, and most people aren't for most people even in vanilla dating.  

Communication can end at any point in the process, from the initial reaching out all the way to the other person ghosting after a ten year amazing run! It is baffling when the other person pulls out with no explanation. It leaves us questioning ourselves and beating ourselves up with self-doubt. We try to second guess and backtrack and replay the scenario trying to figure out what we may have done wrong or said.  

Ambiguity and sugaring go hand in hand. You never really feel like you have firm footing. Structures may appear stable but they are in essence a house of cards waiting to fall. Embrace ambiguity and try to stay in the moment of now to enjoy what you can hold in your hand.  

When it comes right down to it, the 'now' is all we really have anyway.    

I've been lobbying pretty actively for over 40 years, and if I had a C-note for each time a gal disappeared unexpectedly, I'd have enough for a pretty fantastic date.

 
Consider how many times a gal disappears unexpectedly after you've known her for many years, expecting that your relationship will be a forever kind of thing.   Now you expect a gal not to disappear after one meet?  Come on!

 
Also consider how many times we guys pull the same trick on them for one reason or another.   I've done it, and anyone who has been at this for a while has also done it.   There's always a good reason, but telling it isn't always in the cards, is it?

 
Just be thankful that there's a big ocean out there.

Happens to me a lot.  Herb hit a lot of possibilities.  My thoughts are the most common reason is.....

Her shit is not together enough.  I've had a lot of amazing 1-2 date arrangements then she's abducted by aliens.  Sometimes they come back a month later wanting another date.  And maybe half of those really happen.  It has nothing to do with us.  

The reality is, most of the women on the site are there mainly for financial reasons.  Most don't think long term enough to have the stability a regular SD can offer.  It's usually, let me get this car payment.  Then maybe, I'm short on rent.  Then maybe......  If they thought more consistently about their money they'd probably get out of the shitty job they are in and not need us at all, lol.