"To my knowledge, I personally have only seen be woman who had a boyfriend and that was when I first started out. She was a recommended second,  but I haven't seen any who were married."

 
Most people have a S.O. at least some months of every year, providers included .

Ever since I was 16 , if she was attracted to me and me to her , her cheating on him with me was fine , especially when  I didn't know him personally.  
If he was my  friend and mean to her via physical or mental abuse ,married or not ,I would go out of my way to be nice to her every way I could ,and find a better friend .

Civvies that are married will usually say so in conversation ,whether they want to cheat or not .

I've never had a provider tell me she is married, though I've never thought of asking .
   
  Doesn't matter in the least to me if a provider or civvie is  married or has a BF,  I love the one I'm with at the time .

No sense throwing away a good hand .
 

 

I just had a fascinating conversation with a provider who told me a surprising number of provides are married or are in LTRs.  Is this true?

session with a married woman. I tried setting up a session with this incredible woman, and noticed her wedding ring in some of her photos. She emailed back and said she usually does, but her husband a company's her to other cities. She was touring from one city to another, and was willing to stop by my little town on her way to another city. Really cool, but I couldn't get over her hubby sitting in his car in the parking lot. I emailed her telling her that I didn't want to be in the "the other guy" position, and was wondering if they could make an exception, to which she replied they could not. She DID enlighten me, however. She told me(I knew this already, but it had slipped my mnd)that if two people are happily married, as they were, and discuss this kind of thing and are ok with it, it's not really considered cheating. Man, I just couldn't bring myself to do that. I had to remove myself from consideration. Bummer.

To my knowledge, I personally have only seen be woman who had a boyfriend and that was when I first started out. She was a recommended second,  but I haven't seen any who were married.

You know, some couples agree to that. I couldnt agree to that. I sure don't judge, though. Not my place.

emotional and physical wants and needs that we do?

Of course a significant number of them will have SOs.  And also they are not about to announce this fact to their clientelle for reasons that should be obvious from just reading a few of the strong reactions found on here.

To tell you the truth, I find it kind of hot to be doing someone else's gal, but that's because I'm a sick fuck.

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More then you think do have a LTR. Many will not admit it to their clients though, that they have someone in their life, as it is bad for business. Ask most of my wife's clients and she is single after all it is their fantasy after all, LOL.

Two providers I see all the time have SOs', & it does not bother me a bit.  In fact if I could, I would buy those dudes drinks, for allowing me to have sex with their women.

I would agree that a provider talking about her relationship with a client could be bad for business, but I'm not so sure that the mere knowledge of the existence of an SO is.  I think the conventional wisdom is wrong on this one, but who knows.

Despite the stereotype that the married providers are doing this without their SO's knowledge, more likely the SO not only knows, but is supportive, and maybe involved in her business in some capacity.

Does this surprise you?  It shouldn't.  After all, aren't most hobbyists married as well?   Most of the top-shelf ladies have lives outside of their profession, and  that in many cases involves relationships.  Would it surprise you to discover that most of the ladies have children as well?   Also, many of the ladies are also into the swing scene, as would be their SO's as well.

There was a very hot mature lady here a couple years ago that I REALLY wanted to see. But she made it clear SO would be on the other end of the house and was perfectly ok with it. Just for her safety. I certainly understand it but no way could I do that, so I missed out.

I know that I can't book with a lady who is married or has a boyfriend - if she calls him that, I mean.

I had crossed some ladies off by bucket list when I was made aware too.

So, how many guys are like that, you can never know really.

Not long ago I had a session with a well known provider that travels and I arrived at the hotel a little early and was waiting in the parking lot listening to the radio when an SUV pulled in and I recognized the provider from her photo's- she was driving-there was a man riding shot gun-she parked-they both got out-he got the roller bag from the back of the SUV and they proceeded to the desk and checked in-etc...So I let a few minutes go by-went in to the atrium area and waited until the appointed time -stepped away from the atrimum area and made my call for the room number-the whole time the male SO who I recognized was sitting about 2 tables from me.  I went up to the room-went in-we chatted a few minutes-she made the call to the SO that all was okay-ultimately the time was up-I left-the SO was in the gift shop as I exited.  I had no problem with it-he was a middle aged guy-I perceived no threat as this gal is as I said well reviewed-but it is the first time other than an obvious pimp somewhere that I actually encountered the SO in that environment-obviously he was okay with it as was I-had a terrific session-glad I didn't let what I happened to observe interfere with my decision to go ahead with the appointment!

Yeah. See, I'm the same way with it. If she's THAT friggin hot, and I REALLY want her, even though she's married, I couldn't do it if he were waiting for her anywhere close by, whether it be for her safety, a ride, or whatever. I used to do it when I was much younger. Made for interesting trips the the mall/movies sometimes too. LOL !!

holly halston is married to a porn star..she has four kids..she looks fantastic..her lifestyle is her own..she loves what she does..it doesnt bother her..it doesnt bother her husband..and it surely doesnt bother me..she is one amazing woman..enough said..

I know quite a few and have spoken with more then a few providers. Many are in committed relationships and/or married. I know many men seem shocked or surprised, but really why? We are people too. Regardless if the providers' better half knows or not, really what's the difference? I have heard that a client would pass up seeing a married provider be ause it doesn't feel right or they are  afraid of that dreaded knock at the door.

 Again what is the difference? Imagine if we as providers, refused to see married men? Or we said No to the men that were in committed relationships? Doesn't make sense does it? This is why I say we are all in the same boat really.

 It would be nonsense to think that providers are all single and just laying around all day wearing lingere and stilettos, waiting for the next call.