to actually want to undress the girl?  It is kinda of like Christmas, I get to unwrap the present.  Maybe I'm wierd but I like to carress and touch.

No, you aren't alone.  I like to start out fully clothed and make out like a date and slowly unwrap the present...just like a real date.  It adds a lot to the fantasy.

and it's a turn on for me too

so, how do i portray that to the providers?  Do I just come out and tell them what I'd like?

Undressing each other is incredibly sexy to me. I really get into the progressive intimacy. YUM!

Of course you tell them!  That's usually the first thing I say... of course after telling her how happy I am to meet her, how hot she looks and taking care of business....

"Hey, its great to finally meet you - I've heard great things about you (places envelope).. You look so beautiful today...do you need to call in? (takes her in his arms) You know what I like?  I like it when a woman undresses me and I'd like to undress you too..Is that OK?"

What's so hard about that?  It shows that you have a personality and can communicate.  It shows that you can ask for what you want, but that you are also ready to hear what she wants.   It shows that you want to savor and enjoy the moment with her. I've always thought that the kind of woman I want to be with, on some level, understands and appreciates this.  It's all good!

Have fun and be safe.

filmat11




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Many of the gents I see prefer this....so do I.  Undressing myself and climbing in the bed naked feels soooooo clinical; like okey dokey...down to business.  Hard to get in that hot, sweaty, passionate mood like that.  I much prefer necking with slowly removing each other's clothes.  Of course, if I've seen you before, and the sex was really good, I might prefer just ripping your clothes off...LOL

I like to take a moment and look at the lady before any cloths come off.  She spent time wrapping herself and it is incumbent on me to enjoy the package before the unwrapping.

excitement. Rather arousing for me, I might add.

I don't fancy the lingerie. In fact, I'd prefer the girl-next-door look with jeans with zipper, bras, and panties. I love unclip the bras and have become real proficient doing that.

...I always wear latex gloves before touching the lady.  And I make her wear them too.  Can't be too careful in this day and age.  But I cannot condone your risky behavior.  You should be ashamed of yourself and treat women as people not Christmas presents.  What is this forum coming too!!!!

I like to WANT to see the girl naked before she gets that way. I used to go to strip clubs a lot when I traveled and there was nothing worse than walking in and having the hottest girl there standing naked on a stage right as you walk in the front door. I didn't get to build up any desire. Same way in the hobby. I want to build up that desire so that I am excited when the clothes start to come off.

Seconded!