While i was being entertained by a young lady of the female persuasion, i mentioned that if she make sure that A, B and C were performed to a satisfactory level, my pockets would find themselves a little lighter. Well she did address a, b and c to what she probably thought was the best of her ability. not mine. We finished up and i excused myself to the bathroom to wash up. I then left with a small peck on the cheek. No more than 5 minutes later she sent me a text stating "you fucking lying cheap ass limp dick". I responded by saying that she hadn't perfomed to my satisfaction like i asked her to. she is now threatening to out me to all of her provider friends and locals so i won't be able to get another date. Did i handle this situation incorrectly? Is she a lady with sorry ass business skills?

To expand a bit:

Getting into offering more $ for certain things without some clear deliniation of requirements is a recipee for disaster.

Further, your admission that she at least tried, and then your subsequent refusal to pony up any extra $ was disrespectful as well as cheap, IMHO.  Your reputation on provider boards is going to take quite a hit, I fear.

The $ part of any session should be set before the activites begin, and maybe except for buying more time, discussion of extra $ for extra services should be avoided until the next session is planned.

Based, of course, only on the sketchy information you provided.

It's your lack of effective communication that caused this...and you just stroll out of the room like some judge on high deeming who is worthy of what.
It's probably the ability to make people jump through hoops and degrade them that gets your little dick hard. Cheap, pathetic, arrogant, chickenshit fuck.

We can only hope that she blacklists you...reads this...then outs you as well!

Just sayin'

Just pay her rate and stop trying to be a smart ass. Never, and that means NEVER tease a lady with the promise of something that you, most likely, had no intention of delivering!

Now, you are probably fucked and not in a good way.
Everything in life is not a negotiation. If you see a lady and you feel, at the end of the session, that a tip is on order then go ahead and do it like a gentleman.

Yeah, That was not cool, man.

First, with the whole 'oh if you do this good, you'll get this.' That was just stupid and childish really IMO.

Second, when you said that, it probably turned her off and she was probably thinking bad thoughts about you.

Third, You should have just given her what you said but it made it clear to her that you were not fully satisfied. But like I said in the first place, you should have never even brought it up cause now you're screwed (no pun intended.)

You should try and find a way to fix this with said lady before she outs you or blacklists you

GL

~Guz~

you put a very vague condition into your offer. there is no way to verify anything about your level of satisfaction. it's all subjective. so you set things up for her to get POed and disappointed. your business skills suck bat guano. so do hers. she should never have agreed to anything so vague since she is setting herself up to be ripped off.

naturally since each of you is perfect in your own mind it's all the other's fault.

vague unverifiable agreements are the primary reason for business disappointments.

You never state whether you paid the correct fee for the time you spent with the lady. Were you insinuating there would be a tip if A, B and C were performed? My advice, keep your mouth shut, read the juicy details of the reviews and you won't have to mention anything about A, B or C. Finally  pay the CORRECT amount for the time spent with the lady.

You told you would pay for a, b, and c, she provided this to "the best of her ability", but "didn't meet expectations".  It is you who are wrong here...without knowing what a, b, and c means here (something outside the norm?), it sounds like you pulled a fast one, and she balked when you provided your lame-ass excuse for effectively ripping her off.  She is right, and she SHOULD blacklist you!

From your description you asked for extra services, she provided them, and you refused to keep your end.

To justify your actions by claiming her performance wasn't up to your subjective, undefined, probably undefinable standards is bogus.

I'm sure her thinking is "I did what he asked, did it as best as I could, but the cheep bastard knew all along that no matter what I did it wouldn't be 'satisfactory'".

Seems like her description of you is about right.

While I have to tell you that I'm flattered with your new-found attention to me....I respectfully have to let you down easy by making it clear that you're not my type.
I find brains and class very attractive...and unfortunately you fall intensely short in both areas.

I also was not aware that you've been added to the moderation staff. My mistake.
Fortunately for the world at large, your "vote" and opinion, carry no more weight than anyone else's. You'll have to find a way to deal with that sting of reality on your own.

If I was mistaken about something else, that being your participation and pithy comments earlier, you'll have no problem posting below on johngaltnh's self-named "train wreck" thread using your real handle.
Because unless you get a pass from both real mods...you can't do that without breaking the rules.
So just prove me wrong. That's all.

Have a wonderful day, grumpy.

If you offered it up then you should probably give what you said. If you thought it was better give her a tip but make your judgment quietly in your head. In my opinion, clearly, you don't understand how this game is played and what the general rules are.

No disrespect intended to the provider you saw. I can only speak to your description of her. That may have nothing to do with the lady in fact.

then fine but if she gave you something not posted as BBBJ and you gave her a usual donation shame on you.  Yes, that is taking advantage and you should be spanked.

She should have been smarter but was just taught a lesson that will make " I forgot it was a service " much harder for gentlemen to feel and her to give.  Shame on you

Kisses Haley

which is probably why you used an alias

good luck getting more dates in your local area!

It is something you give, of your own free will, after the service has been performed and if you feel like you got above and beyond the normal service. It is not something you dangle in the hopes of getting something extra.
I worked as a server for many years and every single time I had a customer tell me how well they tipped, before they even sat down, I knew they were cheap asses who just liked hearing themselves talk and wanted to sound like a big shot. If I had a client say someting like that to me now I wwould leave before the session even started.

if he was not fully satisfied because her skills weren't up to his standard but she was really TRYING then perhaps on exit he should have stated that and offered a decent tip that was about 1/2 of what he might have had the skill been better.  The problem is that you guys don't TELL us when you are not happy, you say nothing.   You have to speak up!

I guess are trying to break all records as of late.

I see nothing right about what the OP did, however most everyone else on this thread can express themselves with out calling someone a "arrogant asshole" then concluding with "Cheap, pathetic, arrogant, chickshit fuck". Gee, that does sound sort of MPesq.

Sure I vote you be moderated. Why not? It all has to be dished out evenly you know.

No alias needed.

And skip your lame PM's to me. I have no idea what you are talking about.

you should have compensated her fully.  However, you would be free to decide to not offer that deal again or to not see her again.  
Next time make a request but keep your mouth shut anout a tip or other compensation.  You should never have to pay extra (except for anal, if offered).  Tips should not be dicussed.  
skb

Live and learn!  But, you should make an attempt to make it up to her!  I'm a newb but, that's what I would do if I was a putz like that.

Same thing happened to me. With an alias no less!

Go figure.

HalfHour

What a couple of maroons (not morons, or that too)!

May they get shipwrecked together for life.

Shit! You know how much crap I have to put up with Smarty? THEN get moderated cuz I fight back? It's fucking bullshit.

But oh well. If it's what gets him out of his bed every morning, so be it.

I do what I do to entertain myself, and not intentionally cause harm. Some people appreciate it, he clearly doesn't.

The difference is, he's a mean mother-fucker and he's the one that has to look at himself in the mirror everyday.

We get a few posts or PMs here and there and just like a fart it's gone. But he has to live with himself.

That's the way I see it anyway. Thanks DD!

Since I see that this post still remains up, the moderators apparently are okay with it and Mikey has chosen to chime in, let me stoop to your levels.

GO FUCK YOURSELVES!! And, piss up a rope whilst you are at it.

I must say you both have converted me to the dark side. So I guess, I can tell ya to suck my dick, that I will punch you in the throat, or hope you do not meet me in a dark alley and other such nonsense. Oh, and I’ll save the Cheap, pathetic, arrogant, chickenshit fuck for a better time when it is more fitting. Rofl

Gee, then they can refer to us as the “Three Amigos”. lmfao

Have a great day, we all deserve each other. And no, I do not have a crush on you DD. The crush is on myself.

It sucks to be me.

I was minding my own business and leaving you alone. But fuck no! Here you come again!

Smarty, I don't want to fuck with you. You're a big boy, and you know the ins and outs of TER better than I do.

But I'm not scared of you. Never was, never will be.

Like I said. You're a big boy. Bigger than I am. We share some of the same friends and we might actually meet in person. I won't back down.

Got it?

If you dangle a carrot and she completes the task ............. then maybe she deserved a little something for the effort. Perhaps a taste of the carrot, but not the whole thing.

Don't be like this guy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QgdTymCZowU

If ya'll wanna half a pissin contest, why dontcha'll takes it somewheres else?

Some of the posters are bad enough without having to watch a bunch of dogs getting lathered up because they're on leashes.