Is he too young? I think it's really more a question of what he's looking for - don't think age has anything to do with it.

If it's just sex - a provider really is the way to go.  If you have the means, employ first rate professionals.  

My opinion -  I think he might be shorting himself if he hasn't experienced both making love and having seriously good meaningless sex.  The Providers I have had sessions with are good at sex - MUCH better than civilians - they have a lot more practice at it and their focus is on making you feel good.  

That being stated - making love to the mother of my children and deliberately making babies was an experience that I will treasure forever.  I don't see how I could have gone from making love one day to my mate to meaningless sex with a provider the next.  

As time went on, my wife lost interest in making love to me.  After I got over it - just found some providers to deal with the sex and remembered that my wife is the mother of my children and a friend that I have shared my life with for thirty years.   Get along with her great.   So I managed to get both the great sex and the making love done in my life that way.  But it was separated by some time - several years as it happens.  

Possibly your friend could compartmentalize and do both;  some guys can (or at least seem to be able to).  I can't.  My advice would be to pick a direction and once that's done decide whether a provider is a good idea or not

Damn, you are practically my mirror image on that philosophy.  Only difference is I am not at the thirty year mark.  Good for you.

The convenience and pleasure of being able to have sex with someone with absolute guarantee of NO COMMITMENT, NO GAME PLAYING, NO LYING, NO PRETENDING, NO WAITING (to get to know the girl, til she's ready...) ETC, ETC... is universal and has nothing to do with age. Or for that matter attractiveness or ability to conquer girls (which again takes at least some time/work).

Heck I wanted to fuck since I was a teenager. I just didn't know how to get it.

Basically the reason there are more older hobbyists simply boils down to: 1) money 2) knowledge 3) willingness for risks. The older one gets the more money he has to spend plus the knowledge and willingness to take risks for pleasure

Yore scenario is as plausible as enny.  Heerz wut I don't git? Why are people so fakking judge-mental?  Dude just wants to fuck hot chix with no drama.  Wutz complicated bout that?

I recently had a client that was 21. He was a gentleman, and simply enjoyed having companionship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this hobby, everyone deserves love, as long as they're over the age of 18 and meet my screening requirements! Lol

If/when he's interested in a committed relationship, he'll know what he's looking for.

As long as someone is of legal age and not trafficked, there shouldn't be any issue from the guys perspective due to merely his age. Yes, I understand some ladies have age restrictions which is, of course, their call. But paying for ass when you cant get good ass for free wreaks of stupidity to me. I certainly don't get any "excitement" over having to pay. If this "guy" you know gets that much thrill from paying for it when he doesn't have to, he can pay for my escorts as well! lol

your response is spot on. going on the forty year mark, grandkids are wonderful, however my life long vice has been sexual gratification. thank you for putting my thoughts to words.          mbs

Just to clarify in order to properly steer the discussion of the OP. This "guy" has not replaced hobbying for dating and relationships. Although single, he has "flings" with good looking women. In the civvie pursuits its all fun and games until she wants something more (ie be exclusive, emotional attachment)...ok give her what she wants and she gets complacent and her whole attitude changes, the sex weakens, etc.

...OK lets say you're able to part ways and are off to the next, most times it still takes the whole drudgery of getting to know someone before you can get intimate. With a quality provider of course it is exciting, its new, its what you want, when you want.  

Not to mention in "his" case he meets many civvie girls through friends and balancing being a true gentleman and developing a persona of asshole male chauvinist is a tedious act in its self.  "dont shit where you eat."  Of course the normal thing to do would be to date and find a nice girl, marry her, be miserable, then turn to TER and the likes.  

Thanks for all your comments, its always interesting to hear the point of view of others. The original question should more closely resemble: For a younger man who actively dates civvie women and is not tied down, should providing be an option...as far sexual needs

Young men often find themselves in socially restrictive "relationships." Maybe that's less so now, but you referred to meeting women through friends, so here are my thoughts.

There's this "Hell, I'll fuck anything" conceit that stereotypes how men view the women they date, and nowadays the term "date" implies the expectation of sex for many people. The college student who in years past met coeds and daughters of family friends and was expected to take then to concerts and the theater, but then to say goodnight with a quick kiss and return her unsoiled is probably anachronistic. I came of age in that era, and I really didn't want to get very involved with the socially acceptable girls, and after the goodnight kiss I'd drive across town and shack up my current mistress who was just getting off work at the coffee shop or factory. The social discrepancy probably gave me an edge with these beauties, but at the time I didn't see it that way. They were just more fun to be with and sex didn't imply that we were suddenly engaged to be married. Those days are gone.

So, now that we're all in a classless society (to the extent that's true it makes for a far better world), today's young men don't have the same option. So probably a session with an escort is the next best thing.

One example for you. I had a gentleman reach out to me last year who was travelling in for business from LA. He was an entrepreneur, very established, very wealthy and very handsome. In his late 20's he had alot going for him. And his references even warned me on 'how' hot he was lol. I was like ok (not a biggie to me lol). Anyhow, after some email back and forth, we agreed to meet at a bar for a drink to get to know one another before the festivities began. Well, I walked in and when I tell you this guy could have had any woman in the room, probably several at the same time lol, there was only one thing he was focused on, and that was the 'exchange'. The whole schtick for him here was the sole idea that he knew he could have any 'free' woman in the room. But the fact he got to 'purchase' one at his whim is what got him all hot and bothered.  

While the bevy of them were vying to get his attn, it turned him on like crazy focusing on me alone and what was about to happen later. Needless to say it was crazy foreplay for me personally, I mean hell, I am a woman still lol. And after a heavy makeout session in the elevator on our way up after hours of teasing downstairs, let's just say it was an evening I won't soon forget. The exchange between many things took place that night besides 'roses' that he enjoyed, but the exchange of dominance and submissive tendencies was my most fav.  

Anyhow, losing focus lol. I know he's still playing here because I've gotten hit up for a reference a few times. And I would say the same thing that was told me. Have a 'great' time lol. Now like you, he shared with me he does 'date' in the real world, but, he just can't contend with the BS of a relationship and what women put him through. And I don't blame him. Plus he has a lot to protect on his end doing what he does, so he's extra cautious on who he let's in. This world has become his safe playground in that respect besides on how he gets off on being a part of it. He can have fun and not worry about it he next day. It keeps things simple for many people here, single or married, and I think that is what keeps most coming back.  

Again, you're not alone, not by a longshot there hotstuff. So go out and have fun and not worry about all of this lol.  

xx kisses

I was just seeing a few ladies here and there, but as long as you have the funds I say go for it. Does it change you view on things in your civie relationships? Possibly. It did somewhat for me.