for the time being why not tell your regulars that you've put the hobby on the ice for now? North American men seem to have such a hard time to voice the most simple things, beats me.

some providers i have known are pretty drama free and can take a no BS approach. tell them you are dropping out for the time being.

OTOH i know of one or two DQs few who will go all ballistic if you even hint that circumstances in your "real life" require that you cool it. with the DQs it is best to just drop out quietly.

consider your audience. can you tell the difference?

If she is still with him there is a reason.  You Are attached to her now.  Poviders are like the girl that cuts your hair, if you go somewhere else your cheating.  Regulars are the same, do they know you have more than one? If you have good ones just tell them you are out for a while and you will call them if the nead arises. But be ready for some unwanted calls. Back to the fantasy girl Good luck she has got to trade up to you or what happens if you get caught?

are you kidding me?

This is a joke or an attempt to get some discussions going over a completely contrived story, right? This lady has a great sex life with you but stays with a sexually indifferent bf she has been with over 5 yrs? LOL! Really?! You still pay providers even though you have this wonderful "sexually starved" woman who is a 9, a 10 and a 15?

Yeah, OK.

But my congratulations to you for stepping into some of the sweetest smelling doo-doo I've ever heard of.  You must have some karma.

As for how to tell providers you are going to stop seeing them, first of all, you have no moral or other obligation to have to say anything.  That's just one of the rules of the game.  I've seen some providers for years and then one day they don't take my calls or emails and that's that.

If, however, you do feel the need to say something, then keep it very short and sweet with no explanations or apologizies.

Something like:  "I've had a wonderful time at our sessions but circumstances require that I not see you for the time being."

Now, they will know at least that you didn't get hit by a bus or some similar circumstance.

This is, after all, a business and a fantasy; it is not a real life relationship as we have with our SOs and families.

I hope your affair lasts forever.  You ought to think about keeping a diary of it.  It could make quite a study.

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have met a lot of great Ladies and I don't know anyone who would object to you seeing someone else or moving on. Its the nature of the business.If you are dealing with someone who is so possesive, you are seeing the wrong ppl.
I have though met many drama kings stalker type clients whom I wish I had never met.
There are crazy ppl everywhere this business is no acception.
I wonder if you are running into a lot of Ladies who are drama filled, you must be attracted to that type. Its not the norm. Change what it is you look for in a Companion and you may avoid this situation all together. This can be a very drama free playground! Its all in who your playmates are.
if you want to stop seeing someone, just stop calling her. There is no reason she should assume callingyou is ok. Unless you allowed that and set it up that way to begin with. Now to break that habit just don't answer the phone.
If you have a hobby phone, change your number or drop it all together. Drama can only exist in this rhelm where you allow it.


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I have not been hobbying for almost three years because of a new friend with benefits turned lover extra-ordinaire.  I am almost 70 so my drive is less than it was, but we still see each other regularly and the love making gets better and better and this has replaced the considerable pleasure I found in the charming and wonderful professional ladies I have met.  i don't know how long this will last but it has lasted for almost three years. I also stopped seeing a number of regular friends with benefits as well.  

It is not that I have lost interest in seeing others but this lady is very jealous and I don't want to lie to her so just as I am ready to see one of my old friends or one of the professional ladies who seem so appealing, I back off.

You think this is gona be less drama than seeing providers? You are seeing a woman that's in a relationship but who has told you "she does not know what she would do, if I were to drop out of her life"

Less drama, I've got two words for ya...........TRAIN WRECK!!!!!!