I am self conscious about my age(55) in this hobby. I had mentioned this to a wonderful provider once and she told me I was much younger than most of her clients.

          Question #1 What is the age range and average age of your clients?

          Question #2 How many(what percentage)of you clients are able to come more once in an one or two hour date?

          Question #3 Does anxiety or being nervous  seem to have a great effect on their performance? (It seems to with me, and to this point I have not found the way to control it. The only constant seems to be that the anxiety is much less on the second meeting)

no need to be self conscious about age...I have seen men 20 tears older than you and still had a great time...i"d say 80% can cum at least twice in 2 hours anxiety is common on the first date...I do think is makes a difference in performance...so, just try to relax xxoo

Don't be concerned about your age - you are in the zone of gentlemen looking for providers.  It is natural to be nervous, and to some extend, she is also.  Here is what works for me:
Weeks before the date - exercise.  Eat healthy, get plenty of rest.  If you masturbate, stop.  Practice deep breathing exercises.  Slow, deep breaths.  At least five minutes, just find a quiet place, clear your mind, and breathe.
Research the providers website - know her services and limitations.  Get the gift correct.  Consider flowers, chocolate, finger food - some small gift to break the ice and start a conversation.
The day of the session - take a long shower and clean ALL nooks and crannies.  Floss and brush your teeth and tongue.  Wear clean clothes.  
Show up a few minutes early and just breathe.  Book a two-hour session at a minimum.  Use the first hour just to get to know her  - communicate likes and dislikes, hold hands, make some eye contact.  Tell her you are nervous, if you are, it is ok.  Breathe.  Hold the lady close, feel her breathing, and match your breathing to hers.  
You will do fine.

I know as a provider I am always hopeful a gentlemen will find me attractive and happy with my company.

One way I do that is by being honest about who I am and try to be sure we will be comfortable together.

Being an older more mature lady who loves kissing and affection that will change any uncomfortable meeting to instant comfort.

I have no problem with a gentlemen of any age as long as he is friendly.

I would say 50% can come twice within the hour and 90% within two hours..

My favorite saying is "it's not the destination but the journey that gives the most pleasure"

I would encourage every gentlemen to take more than an hour so you can take your time and enjoy the moment. I can spend and hour to three hours smoldering all over each others bodies. I love to makeout and nothing makes the time fly more than some intense hot and passionate foreplay. It will get rid of any anxiety you have real quick.

Kisses Haley

I guess you might feel old if you were dating a 22-year old.

Most of my clients are over 50 and they are great! Shoot! I'm in my late forties, hon, and it hasn't stopped me in life. Once you have met a few providers that put you at ease, you'll be fine. I think everyone is nervous at one time or another. Happy hunting!

Hugs,
Ciara


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We're just as nervous meeting you as well, i have no average age of the gentlemen i see, it goes up and down the ladder. I can only speak for myself here, but when your with me, you can pop as many times as your able, usually it's once, maybe twice on rare occasions. For some gentlemen, just being in the escort frame of mind, it can bother some but there are ways to overcome it, i've had gentlemen not up to the deed so to speak, but our job as providers is to be sensitive and calming and to make your experience a memorable one. I've had a few gentlemen come to me with the ED (erectile dysfunction) problem, and leave me with a huge smile on his face, it's all in how you handle the situation. I'm not bashing here, but the younger girls really don't know how to deal with an older gents problem sometimes, so their first time with a really young provider doesn't go well, until they find a woman a bit older to be with.
Bottom line is to try to relax and savor your time with the woman you've chosen.
Good Luck
Jay

I have wondered about this. I often masturbate every morning, although I have experimented with abstaining for a few days before a date, I cannot discern a difference. If stopping helps, for how long.

Completely?

A week?

Two weeks?

A month(seems pretty much the same as completely)

Thanks, I do appreciate the input.

I rarely masturbate anymore, but I do notice the difference in my "load" if I abstain from sex for 2+ days.

Are you wondering about being able to perform or how long you will last? If it is the former, I would abstain for at least a couple of days. If it is the latter I would suggest either having more frequent sex or masurbating the morning before your session.

Money talks - age walks

However, if they are under 30 - they keep walkin-
cause i cant deal with immaturity -

you at 55yrs are smack in the middle of my average client...and I have to say right where I like them. But everyone is different, so it all depends who you are really. To some age is insignificant.
Now I agree that nerves can create a great deal of difficulty in how well you enjoy your first session with someone new to you, just try to relax is all.  Everyone is different.

all gents (and I do  mean ALL) act like 14-yr old kids with the new found pleasure of a boner!  lol!  Crude - I know, but the picture is accurate...

Your age is right in the middle of my average.  

Talking,laughing and getting to know each other helps bunches and bunches with getting rid of anxiety and increasing performance over a 2 hour period of time.  Time well spent.

Raquel
XOXOXO

...but, given all the responses you've already received, you know that by now!

Also know that nervousness does not by default make for less fun... in fact, I derive true pleasure from taking plenty of time to put my friend at ease.  I get a little tingly just thinking about how nice it is to slowly work through the anxiousness and then... suddenly, we're having lots of fun!  The journey is just as nice as the destination.

1. 40- late 50's

2. I ALWAYS try to but not always able. I definitely have. I would say about 20%.

3. Yes anxiety has been a contributing factor to a less than wonderful performance on several occasions. It's ok though. The next appt. rocks!!!

1) I've seen gents from 20's through 80's, but 40s and 50s is average.

2) I think one cup in a shorter session is most common, although circumstances can affect this.

Now, if it's a lunch or dinner date, where we go out for a meal in between two rounds, two is often standard, although this too can vary and be more or less. Another exception is often if the gent specifically wants to try for two, and/or we wind up going at it in a hurry at the start of the date, then again towards the end- this requires one to set the timing somewhat though, which can make the date feel unnatural, but if you know one another it can work. But with a first date especially, there is often a need for some get to know you/get comfortable time, and even then it is nice to not feel rushed.

In many one and a half or two hour date, we often do have enough time for some more play after the first cup, but that often involves reciprocal oral, manual stimulation, massage etc. and while it is pleasurable, doesn't necessarily result in a second orgasm- if it does great, but if not it is still fun!

3) I do think if a gent is nervous it impacts his ability to get to that point, as it would for most any man or woman. Sometimes it can help to feel more comfortable by reading reviews and feeling confident in your pick of providers, to take some time at the beginning of the session to go in the bath or jacuzzi, chat a bit, and relax, and to let the provider know that you are a bit nervous so it's not hanging over your head and she can try to make things less nerve-wracking. However, I think your point, that a second visit tends to be the best way to lessen this, is the answer. If you can pick several providers that you know you mesh well with and get comfortable with them, you will likely avoid this problem for the most part. However, I know for some the hobby is about variety, and while you can take all the precautions, there will always be some nerves in meeting a new person. I suppose some of that is inevitable, but I also think that as you hobby more, you may get more comfortable meeting providers for the first time? Don't mean to imply anything, as I have no idea how long you specifically have been hobbying- just that while it will never entirely go away, it may lessen with time.

It can also help to remove the focus from orgasming. Obviously we want to bring you pleasure and release, but it can become a negative cycle if a man anticipates being nervous or worries about his performance. Just try to go with it and allow yourself to be pleasured without distracting thoughts of whether you'll be able to get there or how you stack up. This can take practice, as retraining the mind to change any thought pattern does, but is worth trying.

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Ive met men from 35 to 72, most are in the later 50's  About 60% romp twice or more but that never matters because its all fun.  Perhaps you fear the younger woman not enjoying an older man?  Dont worry about it!
Yes anxiety does affect perforance but take your time and have a laugh or two and the edge is taken off.