I don't know where the stereotype is coming from dude, your judgement that most providers are involve in drugs or alcohol is somewhat misguided/just plain ignorance to me. Majority of the ladies have plenty of reason why they choose this profession whether for a long term or just temporary, just to be in this industry and sometime they do it for financial reasons or just for fun. ie college, family emergencies, divorces, children, rebellion, social experiments, hobby, independent business owner, or just because, challenges and many other reason etc, etc and BTW let me remind you that some of the ladies that you directly pointed out, are those people that had been abused and mistreated by their pimps/handlers, and be dependent, not capable to recognized the risk involve that their into. They have a disease and manipulated taken advantage by nasty, mean people for their on profits and show of power over someone. IMHO, Don't be to quick to judge people. Just sayin....
Would you stay if you can tell if your provider is out of it? Or would you take a risk that she won't make a scene or just fall asleep on you?
I can only imagine that more women who are providers need to blunt the trauma of fucking some of the guys they have to see.
Would you stay if you can tell if your provider is out of it? Or would you take a risk that she won't make a scene or just fall asleep on you?
About two years ago I went to see an independent provider that was visiting in a hotel and when I got in I noticed that she was drunk,I decided to leave because I was afraid that instead of blowing my dick she will bite it!!!
I did more drinking and drugs before I ever became a hooker lol.
Did you know too much drinking and drugs can shrink the average cooter depth by 40%? LOL
Why am I telling you this? 
Barely lol. Shit head. Wuv you.
Why am I telling you this?
Get on a plane to La Guardia and toss me some ass!
I would have left also. if she is visibly impaired I feel I wouldn't get the best session from her, besides she knew she had an appointment she could have held off on the drinking. It would also be very doubtful that I would schedule with her again.
With so many requirements on the clients its only fair that the providers hold up their end of the bargain as well.
... but it was an abnormal amount and as it turned out somewhere into the time I was spending with her it was very clear from certain symptoms that she had an opioid craving. Eventually she told me she had developed a dependence on percocet as a result of thinking she could recreationally enjoy the remainder of her prescription after having a wisdom tooth pulled. Nothing like quasi-heroin addiction to boost big pharma's bottom line. Maybe she got clean or maybe she moved on to heroin like too many do. What a damn shame.
Of the providers I've seen over the past few years, I only experienced one who seemed out of it. That's a smaller percent than the population at large. Of course, I personally don't take risks by seeing non-reviewed providers, so my experience may be skewed. That said, the one exception was a doozey. She hid it well at the start, but got more sloppy as the session went on and nodded off. I cut the time short and left.
When those issues effect your time with that person, then they're your issues.
I would fully expect a client to leave if they showed up to an appointment and I was visibly intoxicated. 100%, no questions asked. It's bad business not to be 100% present and with-it for an appointment; it's also a safety hazard for everyone involved.
I don't see clients who are visibly intoxicated. I wouldn't show up to an appointment that way either
I guess my concern would be that if a person has a serious issue with substance abuse, that it could inadvertently cause problems. If a person is in a mind altered state on a regular basis, I would worry that they may not be using the best discretion, or making smart decisions, and end up getting busted. If that happens, have they put in the necessary safeguards to protect their clients. That of course is a two way street.
A provider or a client occasionally imbibing is one thing, but one who is being reckless could have some serious legal side effects for those they spend time with.
you are in the wrong line of work. Maybe some providers get into this hobby to support a habit. However, if this job turns you in an addict maybe it's time to move on to something else. Your soul doesn't have a price. I've seen providers get high before calls and it's a bad sight, however, I don't feel bad. Are you doing this job to get high or do you get high to do this job either way it's wrong.
Use to be a teacher hated it and left point blank the day I have to do drugs to tolerate anything in life is the day I should put a bullet in my head. Point blank. My humble opinion.
Amen Roxie. A provider would not want to see a drunk or drugged up client so why would a client want to spend time with a provider high on those same things. I wouldn't.
the very first provider i was with insisted on drinking her vodka during our session. as a recovering alcoholic i found it quite irritating that she would not abstain for the hour i was with her when asked. i found myself wanting to take a sip of her drink while doing things with her, which was not a good thing. i saw her again a few weeks later, and when i opened her refrigerator to get something to drink, the only thing in it were some oranges and a gallon of vodka.
i thought the same thing, roxie: if you have to get drunk to do your job, get another job.
what's wrong with them? What are you trying to avoid in life that to have a good time with me you need to be under the influence of something. It's sad.
in my old days roxanne, i smoked the weed to make everything more fun. and it did.
and i saw more than a few providers when i was high. and i had fun. but i don't think the providers did.
so now i'm clean and haven't smoked in years. and trust me baby if i ever saw you you would be the only drug i would ever need.
i'd be high on roxanne!
I don't know where the stereotype is coming from dude, your judgement that most providers are involve in drugs or alcohol is somewhat misguided/just plain ignorance to me. Majority of the ladies have plenty of reason why they choose this profession whether for a long term or just temporary, just to be in this industry and sometime they do it for financial reasons or just for fun. ie college, family emergencies, divorces, children, rebellion, social experiments, hobby, independent business owner, or just because, challenges and many other reason etc, etc and BTW let me remind you that some of the ladies that you directly pointed out, are those people that had been abused and mistreated by their pimps/handlers, and be dependent, not capable to recognized the risk involve that their into. They have a disease and manipulated taken advantage by nasty, mean people for their on profits and show of power over someone. IMHO, Don't be to quick to judge people. Just sayin....
Would you stay if you can tell if your provider is out of it? Or would you take a risk that she won't make a scene or just fall asleep on you?
Is the "trauma" of fucking some guy any worse than the "trauma" of getting butt-fucked by your boss, or having to deal with a raving lunatic customer?
If job stress makes a person do drugs or alcohol, the person has a substance abuse problem, not a job problem. This opinion comes from a recovering alcoholic.
if you are noticing a pattern, it may not be all those gals at all. Blunting the trauma on a case-by-case basis, you know.
We'll let you know when an intervention is needed. Meanwhile, I suggest focusing on personal hygiene, manscaping and getting rid of the stained tighty-whiteys
today i feel like getting drunk after certain jerks i saw today
but one must know that alcohol and drugs are not the answer, the inner strength and ability to move on...all of us have some kind of dramatic stories we encountered in the past...nobody's life is perfect...
what the world would be like if all of us turned to alcohol and drugs
what the world would be like if all of us turned to alcohol and drugs?
i just went through the worst holiday season of my life. won't bore you with the details of a car accident and lung cancer scare (no cancer thank god) and pending divorce from my wife of 31 years who suddenly left me...
but i didn't turn back to drugs or alcohol, which were my stand bys when i was a kid (20, 30, 40...)
the way i got through it was remembering this corny phrase:
tough times don't last, but tough people do.
i feel you
had terrible holidays as well
I have been sober for 6 years and in the hobby since August and FOR ME being sober makes me a better provider, citizen, daughter, friend, aunt etc. I find something appealing in all my clients so there is no need for me to imbibe! I feel for providers who are in active addiction or feel the need to alter their minds to be with a client. The only thing that pisses my off is and forever will be SWHEDDY BALLS!! LOL
Thank you for sharing that...and congratulations on 6 years...
Thank you sweetie!
Most of the time I don't think people can tell in an hour session if the girl is out of it.
Let's take my childhood friend for example
I grew up with Kelly (name changed) who is currently in this world who has mental health issues. She is on heavy prescribed drugs but she will blow you better than half the women on the eastern sea born. Bi Polar Depression and Anxiety its not pretty. She hides it very well and unless you know what to look for she will take your money and make you feel like her best friend. That's if she shows up for the session. It's like the professional athlete no one cares how messed up he is if he shows up and performs. When Kelly is on her A game she is the best provider in the world from what I hear. I know she is great in bed I have been with her more times than I can count. Everyone who meets this girl loves her. But she can't keep appointments is very flaky and has a tendency to disappear for long periods of time.
If you knew this before going into the date. Would it change anything?
If she is rocking your world and brings her A game your not going to care.
I know it's sad but that is the reality
I would say that it is likely that providers who are in this business because they have to be, or because they feel they have no other choices, have a greater chance of having alcohol/drug habits. Like you said, to numb the pain. I honestly enjoy the business, so I have never felt that way, and if I ever do, I'm quitting on the spot.
Unfortunately there is also still a revoltingly large sex trafficking industry in this country. Many of these women and men are kept subdued through artificial/chemical means. This is just one of the reasons that you want to do your research in regards to providers.
If you show up to an intoxicated provider, I would certainly consider leaving. Beyond performance issues, I would also worry about security issues with a provider who isn't in control of themselves. In other words, are they do things that might potentially get LE involved, and inadvertently implicate you? I will absolutely not see a client who is inebriated for the same reasons. A couple of drinks, great! Drunk...I will not risk it. The same goes for pot. I have no moral qualms whatsoever with someone smoking, but not while they are with me. It brings another layer of risk to the table, that I am not willing to deal with.
I would be concerned with consent issues and the potential for an overdose. How can someone really consent to something if they are totally out of it. I think that the client would be taking advantage of the provider if they were to engage with someone in such a condition. Bad scene! On the other hand, I can understand how some of these women may feel it necessary to drink or smoke after hearing about how they are treated like shit by some of the Johns. They have very stressful job. I have butterflies or knots in my stomach whenever I have to walk through a hotel lobby to meet a provider for the first time. I can't imagine what it must be like for the ladies on the other side of that door.
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There is a good chance I have been drinking as much as she has. This is how some of the best sex happens!!!! Two dysfunctional people having dysfunctional sex.
I will also throw this out there. If the hooker you are seeing passes out or falls asleep on you during your session what would you do? Please answer from a little head point of view and be honest.
Oh, and just a note. It's not popular for you to call her "your provider" because that indicates ownership.
but it's great to call her a hooker!
I have never hear of 'provider' having the negative connotation of ownership. The term provider is used in many different professions where a person *provides* a service. Doctors for instance are called providers. I certainly take no offence to being called a provider, and do not associate it with ownership in the slightest.
Oh, and just a note. It's not popular for you to call her "your provider" because that indicates ownership.
I had my fair share of other supplements when I was a cool chic. Now, I'm alot more fun without them. Wine is legal and the taste is sensational. Why would I want to give that up!
Would you stay if you can tell if your provider is out of it? Or would you take a risk that she won't make a scene or just fall asleep on you?
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Providers are just another sample of the general population, which means they're no more or less likely to have substance issues than anyone else. And yes, I have been in the unfortunate position of being with a provider who used. She was riding me cowgirl, but every time I was about to pop, she would stop and grab her coke for a snort. It was annoying, and I hope she goes to rehab. Especially since I do really like her.