I found a new provider with a few stellar reviews. I saw her today. On opening the door, I was surprised because she was not what I expected. She was pretty but very plain jane with long straight hair and no makeup wearing jeans and a fitted t shirt.
She sat down and started talking. I had other interests so pursued her. Several times she would comment " It's your time, what do you want to do?" She was very skillful and felt great but needed direction.
At one point while still inside her I asked "what do you like"
"I'll do whatever you like"
"But what do you really like?"
"You really want to know?"
"Yes, really"
"I like women"
"So you don't like men?'
"I like men, but women turn me on"
I was somewhat distracted for the rest of the session and had trouble finishing. When I did, there was an awkwardness. I left as quickly as possible.
I don't want to hurt her business but feel others should know. Should I write a review? Should I include this?
I would say that she did not seem terribly into it, you did not really click and it was a little awkward. That should convey the message well enough without passing on what seems a bit of a private revelation, at least in your opinion. Plus I am guessing you will not give her a 10 for performance.
Some guys might find that a turn on, maybe???
Of course, you did ask, and she did ask if you really wanted to know before telling you. So one lesson is to be careful what you ask for.
Zig
Actually, I'm happy I asked. It made the puzzle fit together. The only part that does not fit now are the previous reviews.
So, you are saying the only way a woman wouldn't be totally satisfied and enamored with her time with you (that you paid for incidentally) is if she just isn't turned on by men?
So all women that don't wet their panties at the very thought of you are lesbians?
Here is thought, the previous reviews could have been totally accurate on the part of the reviewers that wrote them, maybe they had fun and got out of the session what was intended (their good time) instead of asking her questions and wanting to know what she really liked...
maybe she had an off day, maybe the two of you didn't click, there are a number of ladies that are "straight for pay" and a number of clients that would never know, a number of clients that think those ladies are the best, etc.
As for mentioning it in her review, I would strongly suggest against it, you pushed for an answer and she gave it... congratulations you got her to tell you something about herself, now keep it to yourself.
You wrote:
"She was very skillful and felt great but needed direction."
"Her performance was great"
"I had no problem with her looks. It just was not what I was expecting from the previous reviews."
If those statements are true, then put that in your review...add that you found "her attitude to robotic and distanced"
No need to share what she told you.
You are not TER's official closet cleaner that has to out her, so don't.
...and just keep telling yourself, that it all makes sense she wasn't screaming your name because she likes women...that is the only possible reason any woman wouldn't be tearing your clothes off and ravaging you...right?
clearly, for many reasons, this woman was just not your particular cup of tea. from your posting i gather that you prefer women who are "done-up", who take an assertive role in your pleasure, and who will tell you the things you wish to hear as opposed to the truth. the fact that you didn't get those things this time are not the fault of the provider, but yours for not doing the proper research or better yet, taking the time to get a feel for this woman before deciding to spend time with her.
do YOU feel that she did something wrong or inappropriate...and if so, what? because i am not picking it up from what you have described here.
My problem is with the previous reviewers who describe her as a playmate and gave her 10's.
I had no problem with her looks. It just was not what I was expecting from the previous reviews. Her performance was great. I found her attitude to robotic and distanced.
I think the problem is that her friends talked her up and gave her 10's to steer business her way. I don't think they were honest reviews. I think we have a lot of score inflation around here and it just makes the scores less useful for the rest of us.
perhaps her previous reviews were not honest, or not entirely so...but then again perhaps they were. appearance and performance are extremely subjective areas (yet another reason why i find the whole review concept pointless and disgusting, but i digress)...as far as attitude, that is a function of chemistry, which is either there between two people, or it is not. there are men i've met in life with whom i've been robotic and distant...because we had no chemistry and i'm not one to fake anything. i'm sure that the regular clients of this particular provider would not describe her as robotic and distant, because with them she isn't. and to be blunt, it sounds to me that a robot is exactly what you want...an emotionless, personality-less entity who performs on command. and that is not a negative judgment on my part, there are plenty of other men who enjoy the same and plenty of women who enjoy providing just that. this woman just wasn't one of them...move on and better luck in the future.
You asked the lady and she responded it sounds truthfully. It seems maybe you had a problem with the fact that she prefers ladies. If she is doing everything you had hope for WTF?
Dude you asked, you got!!!
Go ahead and write a review of HER performance and appearance and leave the small talk out of it.
Next time, shut up do the deed without the cross examination. Concentrate on what you are doing and stay out of her mind. It sounds like you made the session awkward for yourself and were probably getting on her nerves at the same time.
Sheesh!
Don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer. You were having a good time until you started trying to get inside her head. I never do this with a lady especially not on a first appointment. It's not that I don't care if she has a good time but my experience is that the ones who are interested in really letting go and enjoying the sex will tell you, or show you, what they like. The ones that just want to let you fuck them and accept your money have every right to do just that...and only that.
You should write a review but you should not include details that are irrelevant to what the two of you agreed to-sex for money. You paid, she provided. If you enjoyed it then say so, if you didn't then say that. Her sexual orientation is unimportant. Frankly, I'm a little surprised that she told you but I wasn't in the room so I don't know how much of a PITA you were being about the whole "what do you like" thing...
Why on earth do you feel that others need to know that she likes women?
You should write a review, but you aren't capable of doing a fair one. That's clear.
You weren't there for "mindless fun", you just can't help but try to figure everything out. What makes them tick, what do they think, what are they "really" like, blah blah blah to the point of vomiting.
What does she "like"? She likes to get PAID, limpdick. Do you think she's there because you are so freaking charming that she'll see this as a different experience? Will YOU be the one she secretly thinks about? The one who really made her day?
Oh wait, you probably do think just that.
What others need to know is her performance on that level of what this is supposed to be. You are clearly incapable of writing such a review.
Best thing you can do is not write a review, try as hard as you can to grow a set, and not subject anyone else to your pointless probing questions.
If you don't want to know, don't ask. If you can't handle the answer, find another hobby.
it is really how you approach it, and how you use that fact matters. I have had the best services from Bi/Lesbian providers.
One case I remember fondly, was with a 20 something beautiful lady a while back, as I entered the room she seemed distant, and nervous, we sat on the bed talking and I assured that she is safe, she told me that she is a lesbian, but she will do what I paid for.
I responded; well that is great, because I am a lesbian too. I love women, and I have been told that I do a very good DATY, just think of me as hot flaming lesbian chic that is sporting a mustache. She started laughing, shed all of her clothes, assumed the position, and said show me!
It was one of the best 90 minute session I paid for. It was a no-hole-barred session, but I did not take advantage of her willingness, and she had seen me on more than one occasion since.
Obviously, you felt awkward, by her response to your questions, you really cannot fault her for answering honestly, I commend for that. As for my self I would like to know what is the ladies sexual orientation, so I could adjust my approach.
As for the review, I would only concentrate on the performance/services provided for the $, anything else concerning her sexual preference/orientation is irrelevant, and I would exclude from the review, as obviously did not effect her services.
Don't ask a question unless you already know what the answer is going to be.
I guess the rule applies to the hobby as well.
In any case, why not give her a bit of credit for answering straightforwardly*, or would you rather have pretense be what you purchase?
I like the former, but to each their own poison.
*longest word in the English language without an "e", by the way.
Personally, I think he should be happy the lady was at least honest; but it is better not to ask questions for which you do not already know the answer or, barring that, are prepared to accept even an unexpected answer in stride.
I am not a lawyer. I use language to communicate. Lawyers use language to manipulate.
Communication is a great way to enhance and improve relationships, both in the hobby and out, at least for me. I have also found it to make for some incredibly erotic experiences.
When you contacted her, did you tell her what you liked and things you didn't?
1. Discuss what she should wear?
2. Did she match her pics?
3. Did the reviewers provide an accurate description in the data stats part of the review?
Many, if not most ladies will look for some direction, especially when meeting someone for the first time.
The ladies I have seen generally ask what I like and dislike.
YMMV also is a factor.
The number of roses could be a factor, but not always.
How much time you were together is important. One hour, two, three, all night.....
I do find longer times benefit me and the lady, but that is more to do with that like longer dates.
I tend to not write a review after a first meeting. I like to see someone at least two times, if not more prior to writing a review. This can't always happen, but then I do not write a review if I feel I was "off" that evening. If something is blatant, like it is not the lady in the pics or if the services are not what was in the TER review and her site; then I would(and have) written that up.
Balboa
I had a wonderful time with her. I mean a really good time.
I now do my best to arrange threesomes with her and trust me, we all have fun.
Make the most out of whatever life sends your way...
Balboa
I usually don't care what they wear. I would rather see them naked. The reviews say she was out of Playboy. Now it makes sense to me, she had more of butch look. I've never seen a girl with a butch look in Playboy. The truth is she did look hot naked.
I do not like to rush thing, especially on a first date so scheduled a 2hr meeting. She cut it off at 90 min. Thats when it started to get uncomfortable. The full 2 hr donation was still on the table when I left after 90 min.
if she had a friend in the next room and made it a three some.
what I expected". Didn't you look at the pics on her web site?
Since she stated she likes women, she will make a great doubles partner for a FMF.
There were no clear pictures on her site. She was either in the shadows, behind curtains or highly processed photos. Now it all makes sense.
disclose any private info she revealed to you. Your review should only focus on her looks & her performance as you perceived or experienced at the time of your visit. Leave the private information out of it.
To a point, EVERYTHING in this lifestyle is YMMV. Ladies have their own vibe, their good days, and their bad days, as do we. That's why numbers are so irrelevant. By reading reviews and websites carefully, you can often develop a profile of the lady's personality. And, if you have questions like those you said you posed during your time, ask them in advance by email or on the form on the lady's website!Remember, one guy's 6 can be another's 10!
If you write a review assess her appearance and her performance up until the point where you blew up the session because you pushed her beyond her skill level.
You put her on the spot. Even seasoned pros get antsy when you press the "how do I please you" "what do you like" button sometimes.
She blurted it out likely because you just went too far, she was uncomfortable and didn't know how to talk you into thinking that she enjoyed being with you or men in general.
Why should she be punished for your misdirection of your own session?
She may have needed direction and you may have had getting right down to fun from the start in mind..
Sounds to me like she failed to pick up on a few clues from you. You did manage to lead her towards the bedroom and you did get what you came for? On the first visit with someone new I will always chat with them for a few and get to know them better.
Once in the bedroom, The fun begins...
you only had a problem finishing because you did not like her answear.. That is your problem not hers..
Actually you could have turned that into an opportunity...I like women as well. Does not mean I want to be a full time lesbian.. I just like women and I like men too..