It OVER dude....MOVE ON ....or you will become a stacker
What should I do?
I had a ongoing relationship with my very UTR ATF for 2.5 years. We saw each other several times a month. Would get together for dinner, movie, coffee and private time. We knew about each other civilian lives. We were friends with a business relationship.
On one occasion I went to see her and the money machine near her in all apartment was broken. I called and informed her and she told me to come on up. We did the session and she told me just to bring the money to our next date.
Here is the problem. It's been 8 months since I've seen or heard from her. We emailed for a while and she had issues with someone stalking her. She had to leave the business. I don't want to be a stalker. I feel bad that I owe her money. I know we both cared for each other and not living up to my end of the arrangement doesn't sit we'll with me. She has gotten rid of her hobby and private cell. She doesn't use either of the emails I had for her. I do have her home address, what do I do? I'm not comfortable placing a handful of $100 bills in a envelop and saying here is what I owe you thanks for the memories.
How would you want a client and friend to handle this? Remember we were friends. We did have several off the clock dates and even times she contacted me for seeing her as a FWB at no charge. Our last date wasn't that and I owe her the donation.
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Get a bank draft for the amount, put it into an envelop with a formal letter stating
Dear Ms. Anchoo,
Enclosed please find a bank draft in the amount of $X,XXX.00. This is payment in full for the personal loan which you provided to me. I greatly appreciate your assistance.
I hope you are well, and I look forward to our paths crossing again.
Sincerly,
John.
What if she is in a relationship and the guy gets the mail ? I say , just let it go. She gas his info. And maybe based on what he write will get in touch with him someday. He misses her and why not ? I think he wants to know if shes okay . She knows he's good for the $ s.
Dear Ms. Anchoo,
Enclosed please find a bank draft in the amount of $X,XXX.00. This is payment in full for the personal loan which you provided to me. I greatly appreciate your assistance.
I hope you are well, and I look forward to our paths crossing again.
Sincerly,
John.
Then I would think it would be fine to buy her a card and express to her your thoughts and insert money in the card and mail it to her.. If it were me, I would be grateful and pleasantly surprised...
If she ever does get back in the biz, then you can settle up, but for now the last thing she wnts if she's in a relationship/arrangement is for her BF/SD to find a money order/gift card/etc. in the mail from you or even from an anonymous dude.
Let it go for now, and pay her back with interest if she ever reaches out again.
I had a ongoing relationship with my very UTR ATF for 2.5 years. We saw each other several times a month. Would get together for dinner, movie, coffee and private time. We knew about each other civilian lives. We were friends with a business relationship.
On one occasion I went to see her and the money machine near her in all apartment was broken. I called and informed her and she told me to come on up. We did the session and she told me just to bring the money to our next date.
Here is the problem. It's been 8 months since I've seen or heard from her. We emailed for a while and she had issues with someone stalking her. She had to leave the business. I don't want to be a stalker. I feel bad that I owe her money. I know we both cared for each other and not living up to my end of the arrangement doesn't sit we'll with me. She has gotten rid of her hobby and private cell. She doesn't use either of the emails I had for her. I do have her home address, what do I do? I'm not comfortable placing a handful of $100 bills in a envelop and saying here is what I owe you thanks for the memories.
How would you want a client and friend to handle this? Remember we were friends. We did have several off the clock dates and even times she contacted me for seeing her as a FWB at no charge. Our last date wasn't that and I owe her the donation.
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Take that money and invest it somehow. If she does get back in touch you will still have the money with interest. Maybe enough for another session.
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It OVER dude....MOVE ON ....or you will become a stacker
It's not like you're avoiding her and she doesn't know how to contact you. There may be a good reason she is not asking you for the money, so for your sake and hers, I would let it go until further notice. I really think this... be smart, not because of the money, but because of the situation.
Good luck, and I hope you really think it through, but not too much. Openly sending money somewhere is not a good idea IMO. Again, she knows how to contact you and hasn't. That should be enough to tell you she's not too worried about it.
I'm really Smitten with my Provider. She treats me so Nice during our Sessions. Sometimes she asks me for help when things are slow. I don't mind helping her out "Off The Clock" when she needs to pay her Bills and buy things from the Store. This Hobby is really getting Fun.
She may not want to see you or anyone else, which is why she has not called about the money, but I am sure she probably could use it. Do the right thing, but don't make her HAVE TO see you in person to do it. You can greendot her or mail a money order to a P.O. box. She may have personal issues with an ex boyfriend, baby daddy, etc. and clients are not the best thing for her to be worrying about at this time.
I would love to do just that. I do t know if she moved from that address. I'm sure as hell not going and knocking on the door. I've emailed the two email addresses I had, work no longer functional and private I received no reply. Her business and private phone have both been turned off. The only thing I have is the address. I am not comfortable sending money to a address if she might not reside there. It's been 8 months. I'm good for the money. If she contacted me tomorrow I would wire it to her with extra for a late fee. I just don't want money floating out there. I hate owing someone and it makes it worse that it is someone that I think is truly a nice person.
A thank you card.
Thank you for your trust.
It is very important to me to honor my commitments.
Enclosed is $$$ P O money order
Signed with a first name only
you can see if the money order was cashed
Here's what I would do;
Go to her place and post a message on her front door with your number so she can contact you. If she does contact you, meet in a public place and give her the Money. I'd also ask if you can still see her in the future. I would try to keep in touch with her. Sounds like you really like her ALOT.
If she doesn't contact you in a timely manner, then I'd say you've done all you can. Nothing else you can do.
Doesn't seem like she wants the money right now and if she does she'll let him know! She has HER reasons whatever they may be . Maybe she doesn't want anything to do with him ? Who knows . But go to her house with a post it ? Fucking stupid !!!
Go to her place and post a message on her front door with your number so she can contact you. If she does contact you, meet in a public place and give her the Money. I'd also ask if you can still see her in the future. I would try to keep in touch with her. Sounds like you really like her ALOT.
If she doesn't contact you in a timely manner, then I'd say you've done all you can. Nothing else you can do.
Go to her place and post a message on her front door with your number so she can contact you. If she does contact you, meet in a public place and give her the Money. I'd also ask if you can still see her in the future. I would try to keep in touch with her. Sounds like you really like her ALOT.
If she doesn't contact you in a timely manner, then I'd say you've done all you can. Nothing else you can do.
I understand that , but we don't know the whole story . But going to her house ? Think about it . That's really crossing the line . Sorry guys showing up at homes ???????? No way
WTF, I might be the King Of Idiots but I'm not fucking stupid. No way am I going to her house, leaving notes, knocking on doors. Maybe she has something good. Why would I want her to answer questions about me? What if the guys she's with didn't know she was a Provider? I cared for her and I still care enough to not fuck up her life!
She owes him NOTHING...he is the one who owes her. If the ATM by her place was not working, why not go to another one? She gave him a freebie under the presumption she would be paid later. Sounds like he creeped her out and the money is no longer worth it. If she is working out of her own home (stupid) then he should not go there at all!!!
...... she had issues with someone stalking her. ....... She has gotten rid of her hobby and private cell. She doesn't use either of the emails I had for her. I do have her home address, what do I do? ..........
I didn't creep her out. We had been seeing each other for 2.5 years. She had told me multiple times how much she cared for me. We would see each other off the clock. Movies, coffee, dinner. We enjoyed each others company. We traveled together. I'm a decent person and always treated her well. I didn't make any crazy sexual demands. We both had fun. She even invited civil girlfriends in to have threesomes with us! I'm not a creep and that is pretty fucked up London. If I ever saw you, you'd quit your job and move in with me!
Hers it two . Pm them and ask where she is ?? That's just another opinion . My question now is a simple one where did she go and why. So if you know her "civvie " friends ask them ! Sounds weird to me . Something ain't right . Good luck !
Maybe you are a great person, but this is really none of our business. Let it go. If she gives a shit about you, she will call YOU. I hope nothing happened to her, and I suspect that might be what you are worried about.
Take the win If you were truly friends she would've kept in touch If she brings it up later fine otherwise it's money in the ban
She had a high end one bedroom apartment she used for her dates. That is where the ATM was near. It was in a small area of DC with lots of shops and restaurants but little to no banking. Her home is about 15 minutes from there and I have the address to her actual home. She hasn't rented the one bedroom place since I've seen her last as far as I'm aware of. She tried to come back in business and contacted me but the Stalker threaten her with Police and all sorts of other stuff. I don't know the full story.
Her and I were friends. She trusted me and we had a next date planned and the money would have been given to her then. When the Stalker made problems it stopped her from seeing me and everyone else. I did see her once shopping and I tried to say something but she had her daughter with her and she waved me away.
I feel she knows I want to pay her the money. I don't send a thousand emails. I've reached out without crossing any lines.
I believe when she decides she is ready she will contact me and let me know the best way to get her the money!
If he gets your info ? So when she wants she'll call . But be careful with her new place if she does get 1. Good luck again .
Her and I were friends. She trusted me and we had a next date planned and the money would have been given to her then. When the Stalker made problems it stopped her from seeing me and everyone else. I did see her once shopping and I tried to say something but she had her daughter with her and she waved me away.
I feel she knows I want to pay her the money. I don't send a thousand emails. I've reached out without crossing any lines.
I believe when she decides she is ready she will contact me and let me know the best way to get her the money!
I believe when she decides she is ready she will contact me and let me know the best way to get her the money!
Maybe she moved or is no longer with us...
I had a ongoing relationship with my very UTR ATF for 2.5 years. We saw each other several times a month. Would get together for dinner, movie, coffee and private time. We knew about each other civilian lives. We were friends with a business relationship.
On one occasion I went to see her and the money machine near her in all apartment was broken. I called and informed her and she told me to come on up. We did the session and she told me just to bring the money to our next date.
Here is the problem. It's been 8 months since I've seen or heard from her. We emailed for a while and she had issues with someone stalking her. She had to leave the business. I don't want to be a stalker. I feel bad that I owe her money. I know we both cared for each other and not living up to my end of the arrangement doesn't sit we'll with me. She has gotten rid of her hobby and private cell. She doesn't use either of the emails I had for her. I do have her home address, what do I do? I'm not comfortable placing a handful of $100 bills in a envelop and saying here is what I owe you thanks for the memories.
How would you want a client and friend to handle this? Remember we were friends. We did have several off the clock dates and even times she contacted me for seeing her as a FWB at no charge. Our last date wasn't that and I owe her the donation.
I need recommendations!