keep in mind, some girls do not produce as much natural lubrication as others, and she might be one of them.  Since you didn't dine, she might not be as excited to produce the natural lube.

As far as seeing her again, if you like her, see her again.  You might be able to make a better decision about future visits then.

Swim

If you had posted this to the Love Goddess, she could have given you a long list of reason why she needed to be lubed, that have nothing to do with you. Time to take a basic sex education class. She gave you a pretty good reason right up front. Some guys try to impress the lady with "really banging away for.....(fill in the blank, but it's usually at least a half hour), making it quite likely that the condom will dry out and break. You should be thanking her for taking the precaution.

Bottom line! You will probably never know the answer regarding if she's "really not that into it," or you. And, if you can't live with that, you're probably better off trying to find someone else. Hmmm! Even that sounds too much like looking for a girl friend to be into you. Try finding several ladies you enjoy being with. That's more like a hobby than a relationship.

Ok everybody, I have a question about lube.  A few months ago I was with a provider and as we were about to start the main action, she pulls out some astro glide and said something about how she hates condoms because they dry out.  So I'm wondering, was that just code for 'I'm REALLY not into you"?  Or do some women really just need lube when using condoms?

A little about me:  I'm no Brad Pitt but not ugly either, an average looking guy.  Not a 300lb fatty, decent build but could do with losing 20lbs.  Now trust me, I realize if I met her at a club she wouldn't wind up going home with me, lol.  But still, I've been with a few other providers ad never had the lube pulled out.

I didn't DATY so I don't know whether any natural lube was flowing at all.  

Any opinions?  I'd like to see her on a regular basis, but if she's really that not into it, I'd rather try and find someone else.

Seriously, her wet pussy is an involuntary response, not something she can will in order to signal her feelings. Women get wet from horseback riding, but that doesn't mean they're really into the horse. At least that's what they tell me.

Well, their you go!
Next time, do her a favor, lick her cunt!!
Maybe the lube is just a way of saying,,,"eat me please"!!!

I use lube with EVERYONE. I don't care what you look like, how much your weigh, how much are or not paying me. Okay, sometimes I'll use spit, but lube is lube! Condoms do seem to do something with natural lubrication. Don't take it personally. Watch what you say about "300lb fatty". He is probably better at you than everything.

that IS true.............but you didn't hear it from me.


Whoa Trigger!!!!

+1 this post lol

Posted By: KatieKatieNYC

I use lube with EVERYONE. I don't care what you look like, how much your weigh, how much are or not paying me. Okay, sometimes I'll use spit, but lube is lube! Condoms do seem to do something with natural lubrication. Don't take it personally. Watch what you say about "300lb fatty". He is probably better at you than everything.

most of the providers Im with use lube.  Not all, but alot do.  I usually don't daty, so it don't hurt my feelings when applying lube.

hormones, birth control, her own individual body chemistry, or even her build down there (surprised no lady has mentioned this)...   Several of my Favorite ladies (and a couple of SOs over the years) use lube about every time.  Too much lube can reduce the friction to zero...  no friction = nothing gonna happen!   But if she is too dry she can chafe on the outter surfaces...  that's gonna hurt her & she'll be distracted & less likely to focus on what you want her to.
I absolutely would not hold this against her.   In fact, kudos, for stepping up to ensure you have a good time.

Providers get paid for their time not to fuck you without lube.

Prostitution is illegal.  You should be just grateful that she chose to fuck you especially with your ignorant and immature mentality.

Hopefully everyone could translate what I wrote in to human. I had a few glasses of wine, but I meant everything that I said.

Posted By: TrulyMsMocha

+1 this post lol

Posted By: KatieKatieNYC

I use lube with EVERYONE. I don't care what you look like, how much your weigh, how much are or not paying me. Okay, sometimes I'll use spit, but lube is lube! Condoms do seem to do something with natural lubrication. Don't take it personally. Watch what you say about "300lb fatty". He is probably better at you than everything.

she would lay in the bed motionless and watch the clock  for the entire session, and refuse to do any other postions. Ask you are you ready to cum yet, cause your time is almost up?

When the session is over she jumps out of the bed, gets dress, stands next to the door, holding the door knob,  starts speaking on her phone, and says you need to hurry up and leave.....I have my next appointment in the parking lot now, and he's ready to come up.

lup helps the provider not draw out cause of the friction of the condom on her skin, it helps you cum, prevents the condom from breaking etc.

trust me if provider is not feeling you. She will give a bull shit session you will never forget.

but I have had gals - not into me- get worked up, not get worked up... heck sometimes it is just the circumstance... Personally - I like lube - I like the feel of slipping and sliding... have you ever rubbed your penis on the outside of her labia???? now that feels incredible, and can drive her crazy...

As others have pointed out, if she is not into you - you'll know!  and by into you i don't mean she is willing to quite providing, come live with you as a wife experience rather, she enjoys your company, has a good time with you and finds you tollerable on some level...

heck, who knows!???  maybe you were the 10,000 guy that day, and her juices were all gone!

lol!

Well, baby, I'm lil confused why you think she wasn't into you?
Personally, I have a pussy that is so tight that even wet I need lube, condom dry out it's true and get squeaky.
Also I use lube for hand job and BJ too, its more sensation for you, I never had any question on why I use lube... I use it with EVERYONE, wet pussy or not, Its my most important tool, makes everything glide like butter!
the provider who don't use lube are lucky but it really does make a difference vs spit.

Sometimes "getting the juices flowing" without DATY can be hard. Especially when some guys want to jump right from kissing to the main feature. Just because a girl breaks out the lube doesn't mean she's not in to you...but honestly....who cares?(if she's nice and you had a good time then that is all you need. We're not here to find our true love) Sometimes you are wetter than others, and yes, if it's one of those days a condom can not slide in easily if it is bone dry. I keep lube on hand but I don't like using it because of the smell and taste.(a BJ after lube application tastes nasty)

So all in all just relax a enjoy. If she needs the lube then she needs it.

Yep, I always bring lube, may just be hormonal (certain times in a woman's cycle she is dry, certain times she is more able to naturally lubricate) but even with that said, I do find latex extremely drying and uncomfortable after a couple minutes.

Also if a guy is thicker or bigger, or is at "half mast," lube can help with that final push to get him inside me where it might otherwise be a losing battle.

I've certainly never correlated it with whether I am turned on or not, we women just cannot always control our cycle hormonally and when we are prone to get and stay wet depends a lot on the day and time in our cycle, and like I said, even on the wettest days, the latex of a condom is extremely drying in my experience (providing on and off since 07, sexually active since 03 or 04 or so).

I have also heard it can be more pleasurable for a man, to put a little lube *inside* the tip of the condom too, so sometimes if I remember I will do that, for his pleasure.

Just my two cents, but I will say that when using condoms with civvie partners in the past (don't really have time/energy for civvie dating ATM!) I have also considered lube part of the standard sex "kit" due to the condom issue, so it really has nothing to do with the guy or our attraction/chemistry.

Although I will say that if the guy makes absolutely no effort to arouse me, or hasn't showered, and I am genuinely turned off, then yes, time to lather up the lube, in much larger helpings than usual, to make intercourse feasible lol... it's not an issue, no paying client is required to provide foreplay for the woman if he doesn't get off on getting a woman off, though I find most clients prefer a mutual session, but for my own comfort, if I have absolutely no lubrication or blood flow and there has been no foreplay or intent to work ourselves towards arousal, then yes, lube is what allows penetration to occur with minimal discomfort. That said, that is a rare occurence. (And actually, chemistry/attraction aside, our bodies are made to respond- touchy subject, but for example, in the case of rape, a woman may self-lubricate- it's biology- it doesn't mean she wants to be raped, but there are many things about our sexual response (perhaps similar to mens' control or lack there-of in getting or maintaining an erection?) but it's not always conscious...

But yeah-- for the most part I find my sessions are about mutual pleasure, and I generally do get wet when a man makes an effort to reciprocate, depending on the time of month of course, and certain meds can also cause a woman to have trouble lubricating naturally even though mentally she may feel turned on, but yeah- I still prefer to add the additional silicone/water based lube as a matter of routine for the maximum wetness to last longer as the latex dries out...

HTH! Have fun and play safe!

*licks*
xoxo,
Marea

In my experience condoms play havoc with natural lubrication. There's something about the latex that often just dries up a 'ready' girl so I ask for and use lube everytime.
Get a lube that is made for oral as well. It will taste neutral or have an ok flavor.
Or you can always use an old remedy - an egg white. Watch out for speed tho' - you may get an omelette!

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