She should have told you before you arrived. It was pretty presumptuous on her part that you would stay.
I disagree with a couple of the other posters who suggested that you should have tried for a two hour session. I can guarantee you that she would not have been happy with a reduced donation, and it probably would have been reflected in her performance.
You didn't reward her for her poor business practice. That was the correct thing to do.
I scheduled an appointment with a provider for three hours. When I got there and we talked a few minutes, she proceeded to tell me she had somehwere to be in three hours, it was not an emergency, and needed to shorten the appointment. I was not real happy and said lets just forget it and left with the donation. She had offered to cancel the other meeting but I did not think it was real profedssional and I thought she might want to hurry thru and get it over with so whe could still make the other meeting.
Was I just being to uptight? Just wanted some feedback
I dont think you are being uptight at all. You put aside that block of time for a reason. It would have been great to get a heads up that rescheduling maybe needed.
...you might consider posting a review about this on your local board, alerting your fellow hobbyists. This kind of unprofessional behavior shouldn't be tolerated where she had opportunity to notify you before you arrived.
for a session that didn't happen. He could let his local board know.
because I have read two reviews, one recently, where they met and then the guy walked out and took the donation due to an issue.
So it seems that you have to meet. What happens next is what goes in the review.
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I have met and walked out with the donation before and my reviews got rejected for the reason "not enough juicy details."
She should have let you know before you left. If she couldn't do that, you still had the right to cancel when you got there because she changed the deal. I know everybody has different needs, but I do wonder why you didn't want to do a 2-hour session. I've never done one longer than 90 minutes. But it's your deal and your choice.
out her on your regional board
and gone with 2 hours. If she was angling for less time at the full rate, that would NEVER happen with me. But if less time was not agreeable to your party plans, you were right to cancel. When I started, I found I needed 1.5-2 hours but more recently I've found less time is agreeable.
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Was I just being to uptight? Just wanted some feedback
IMHO, you must not have been that attracted to her, or you would have taken her 2 hr appt. So, I'm thinking, why did you book her in the first place? You have no way of knowing if her excuse was legit or not. At least she offered an alternative, some others might not have done that. While I'm not saying what she did was right, at least she gave you a choice. In your place, I'm not really sure what I would have done, but if I really wanted to see her, I prob would have done the 2-hr deal, depending on her price offer.
Why didn't you do that? You don't say why you left. Did you have to have 3 hours? Would 2 not have been enough? I'm curious about that.
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I probably could have done the 2 hours. I was thinking at the time she was going to try to hurry thru my appointment and it might not be ejoyable. I did not want to feel like I wasted my donation. So I just decided to leave.
If the donation was 900 for three hours and she waited until I arrived to tell me she needed to shorten the appointment, fine.
I'll give her a hundred bucks for 20 minutes .
She should have told you before you arrived. It was pretty presumptuous on her part that you would stay.
I disagree with a couple of the other posters who suggested that you should have tried for a two hour session. I can guarantee you that she would not have been happy with a reduced donation, and it probably would have been reflected in her performance.
You didn't reward her for her poor business practice. That was the correct thing to do.
While I can't imagine wanting a three-hour appointment to begin with, I'd probably hate it if she pulled that kind of crap.
I get pretty stoked for the start of a session. The last thing I want is to have to shift gears from making out to talking about a change of plans and the appropriate fee. Any good provider should appreciate that.
you're better off giving your money to someone who is going to acknowledge that YOUR time, money, and efforts have equal value to hers, and be appropriately appreciative. her behavior was amazingly unprofessional; i can't imagine treating a client -- who went out of his way to spend his hard-earned dollars and valuable time with me -- that way. yeesh.
Honestly, Maybe she did not like you .
If the provider booked an appointment with you for 3 hours and actually followed through with it . Then in my opinion she did value your time and money.
But maybe when you showed up she decided she did not want to spend 3 hours with you.
Perhaps you had bad hygiene? or Perhaps you were an ass and did something to upset her?
There are two sides to every story . It is funny how everyone jumps to conclusions and sides with the gentlemen that is using an alias.
I have had a gentlemen whom I screened show up for our date. He had horrible hygiene. I couldn't stand to even get close to carry a conversation with him , much less kiss him.
He actually did book a 3 hour appointment as well. I tried everything I could think of to get him to shower or at least freshen up. Of course, when I was trying to convience him they were suttle hints.
But he would not shower or even freshen up.
So I made up some excuse and told him we had to shorten our date to 60min and I took only what he owed me for 60min and I gave the rest back to him.
A so-called gentleman showed up with horrible hygiene, and you agreed to be intimate with him for an hour? I don't see any reason to use a revolting experience you consented to as the basis for inventing an alternate version of what "really" happened with the OP.
...to tell the TRUTH if she did not like him. you cannot magically transfer responsibility for what happened to him just because there may have been a chemistry issue.
what exactly is so difficult about the TRUTH? i just don't understand this. in my experience, hobbyists are decent men and, being decent men, are not afraid of the truth, even if it hurts a little.
you don't need to use subtle hints when it comes to hygiene. i've done it before. it is not that hard. you can be honest. granted, i would never say to a gent "you fucking stink, i will not touch you until you take a shower," because, quite frankly, i am a just plain nice person and don't care to needlessly hurt peoples' feelings -- but you can be honest AND diplomatic.
sure, it IS a little embarrassing for a guy to be asked "sweetie, could you do something for me? i'd like you to hop in the shower, please" - that's the truth. however, i have found that they usually acquiesce to this direct request without any resistance; and when you reward them by absofuckinglutely rocking their world after they take that shower, believe me, they get over whatever minor embarrassment the initial request may have caused. in my experience, no man has ever refused to take a shower when i have asked him, nor has he acted offended. a little sheepish, sure, but not offended or upset. most men are happy to acquiesce to a reasonable request so long as they can walk away feeling that they got their money's worth.
OK, I gotta know! He was so disgusting you could not imagine being with him or even kissing him. But you were still willing to keep a 60 minute appointment with him? Please, details! How the hell did you get through even an hour?
Come on, you brought it up. Let us know how you survived the ordeal, puhleeeeeeeze!
That was going to be my response also. Sometimes something isn't right, we feel something a little off and a 3 hour appointment isn't going to happen.
Unfortunately hygiene sometimes is an after thought for some clients. Not saying that is the reason but there are alot of things that go into the mix for us. I'm just giving you a providers perspective.
But you had a choice to stay or leave. I am not sure why she said she had to leave after the appointment, I would never say that to a client. I give everything I can during the time I am with my guy that I am with. You might have stayed and had a wonderful 3 hour appointment. I'd give her another chance. Good luck..
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She probably a mistake in her booking. However, springing it on him upon arrival throws him a curve ball. She SHOULD HAVE stated honestly, "I messed up my schedule." "Could you do me a favor & we shorten this appointment AND the donation be reduced." She should then INSIST that the donation be reduced. Otherwise it smacks of a scam. He is giving up time, but the appointment is at the correct rate. Leaving HIM to decide how to resolve this puts him on the spot & wondering what is expected of him. He chose to walk away rather than try to negociate a minefield. It is his right to do so.
SHE messed up twice. First in the booking error. Second in not making clear that she was (presumeably) suggesting a shorter appointment for lesser donation.
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Its not like she turned him away completly. Maybe she felt they didnt have chemistry or really did have somewhere to go. 3 hours is a long time to spend with someone u don't vibe with. Why the heck would u make a 3 hr apt with someone u have never met in the first place? How do you know u even want to spend 3 hrs with her?
Providers are people too and don't have to fuck anyone they dont want to for any reason just like if you showed up and didnt feel like fucking her it is perfectly within your right to say so. The classy thing might be to leave a tip for wasting her time but at the end of the day nobody has to fuck anyone thay dont want to fuck for any reason, were not talking about sex slavery here.
leave a tip for wasting her time? how exactly did he waste her time? and how exactly was he asking her to "fuck somebody she didn't want to fuck" if it was he who walked out? he took his donation and left. how does that equate to sex slavery?