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You could ask him to pay your expenses
That would make the reason for the "deposit" clear and would not be any gain to you if YOU canceled.
There are times when I require deposits, and sometimes when I inform a gentleman a deposit will be required he acts as if it is an insult to his manhood. For example, there was a gentleman in NYC who requested I see him for outcall in the city. Such a request requires me to travel from DC to NYC, though not a problem and something I do often, I do require a deposit for arrangements made so far from my home area.
Well, he responded saying, "Nor do I wish to give you a 25% deposit. None of the many delightful women with whom I have been have required that and as you can see, my reviews are many and varied."
While it is great that he has many reviews, but what if I travel to NYC and at the last minute he has to cancel. I am left with bearing the expenses of a trip I was only making because of him. The same principle applies to those situations when myself or another lady reserves hotel accomodations especially for a meeting with one gentleman.
Guys, you have to realize, a lot of reputable ladies ask for deposits to make sure they are not constantly losing money, as no show and last minute cancellations are common. Please do not be offended or put off because a woman is smart enough to plan and prepare for a possibly unfortunate situation.
Kisses,
Vanica
"Exceeding Expectations"
It a special arrangement - you're travelling to
see him specifically. If he doesn't want to
give you a deposit, tell him to see one of those
wonderful local ladies that he described.
Merry Christmas.
That would make the reason for the "deposit" clear and would not be any gain to you if YOU canceled.
I don't know you personally, but after seeing your reviews and reading many of your posts, I would have no problem giving you a deposit. You seem very reliable and honest.
If I was requesting that a provider travel hours away to my location I would definitely expect that a deposit would be required.
I usually have a problem with deposits, but that is when we are talking about unreviewed providers charging rediculous amounts of money. If the provider is well reviewed and respected and I am requesting something special then I see no problem with the deposit.
it really depends on the form of payment you require. would it be through moneygram? western union? credit card?
Agencies that have providers visit customers via travel to the customer's location require subtantial fees up front. They are justified in doing so if they are legitimate. A popular lady can earn hundreds in a single day staying in her home location, if she is going to travel, she need something to make a potential loss of local income acceptable.
You can try establishing regular touring visits to NYC. My sense of the city is that it is a good visit for top flight ladies. As a hobbyist, I have met ladies there that have provided my most memorable sessions.
to travel to come and see me.
Makes perfect sense.
I see a number of girls who require deposits and screen very carefully. It has always been my personal policy to adjust and agree to the requests of the ladies.
I know a rather noted girl, personally, who requires a $1000 deposit and will not even move from the easy chair until it has been deposited in her bank account. I happen to agree with her philosophy and support her policy.
I find that the girls that require deposits, in my opinion only, also have good business sense and are only protecting themselves from no-shows and cancellations.
Happy 07 and Merry Christmas!!!!
Tra
I think if a gentleman specifically requests a lady to travel to him, or if the lady books a hotel specifically to see one person, than a deposit is certainly reasonable. I wont pay a deposit if the lady is already in town and I have not made any special requests.
That goes against the fundamental principle that the provider's time has real value. Don't accept his request for an appointment.
I am assuming that you have publicized your deposit policy ahead of time? If so, you are right to require it under these circumstances, and to keep the deposit if he cancels.
If YOU cancel, however, you need to refund in full with an apology.
I've paid deposits many times and have never had a problem. As stated by others already, I will not do so unless the lady is well reviewed and has a stellar reputation.
In my experience the deposit was part of a longer date that was arranged for a future time sometimes several weeks or even a few months in advance. The lady is reserving my scheduled time on her calendar and turning away other appointments that come after my request. So I understand the risk of lost income that could occur with no-shows or late cancels.
However when making this agreeement it is important that there is a clear understanding of what happens in the event that either party has to cancel. Under what circumstances can the deposit be held for a rescheduled date? When can it be returned? When is it lost and non-refundable? It is important to know these things because despite the best intentions of either party and their respect for the other person, shit happens and postponements may be necessary. I advise that everyone know the rules of engagement relative to the deposit before sealing the deal. Different providers may have different policies on this subject matter.
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If he's not willing to pay a deposit I would write him off as not worth the bother.
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