If you go into an appointment detailing your finances and resources, you're going to find that a certain kind of woman is going to zero in on that sort of thing and try to press your buttons.

There are a lot of guys in and around this business who are doormats for hos.

Personally, I never feel entitled to a man's money beyond what we've agreed upon professionally for my time ad in my personal life absolutely never.

But when clients come in bragging, talking about how much it costs to fly their plane from NYC to LA, flashing their black card over dinner or doing the I'm-rich-but-modest schtick I can't help but wonder if they're trying to get me to beg for additional goodies or because its the kind of thing that other providers find impressive or interesting.

If clients wouldn't come into sessions detailing their means...providers wouldn't try to tap into them.  

Future advice: don't tell a girl how much money you make unless you want to get looked at like a mark.

But, not passing judgement on the OP as I have no idea about him, it is ironic how many guys try to impress their "paid dates" with how rich they are and then turn around and call them "money grubbing whores".

Of course the irony is almost always lost on those that are the worst offenders. I am sure every guy guilty of this that is reading this thread is thinking something along the lines of "Well I would never do anything like that" lol

But like I've said before on other topics regarding gifting, all it takes is that one person to fall for the okie doke where others have not...hence girls throwing their "wants" and desired gifts out there.

Some clients lap it up, others don't.  
Spoil who you like but don't feel obligated to and no, her suggesting you buy her that gift on a third date is not normative...it is indicative of a lack of character.

A little severe in your explanations of your taste...but thats just because you're getting to be a crotchety old man .

The only way I can think of to possibly start over again with her is to sit her down and calmly explain to her "I like you, but....." and then honestly explain your feelings on the subject.I doubt anyone here really thinks that is going to work, myself included, but it 's the only thing that comes to mind.

and for those of you who are secretly (or not so secretly) laughing at me for suggesting an honest and "adult" solution to the problem, "You can all go fuck yourselves", how's that for honest and mature? lol

Seriously though, I don't see any other way to salvage whatever kind of "relationship" you want to have with this woman, aside from being a cross between a doormat and an ATM machine of course.

Show her by demonstration.
If she asks for something just laugh and move on.

If you express your thoughts it leaves room for her to snap or become offended when perhaps she saw your conversation as something different entirely.

If you're gracious about it and ignore it it can leave her dignity and ability to provide the kind of session that you've returned for three times intact.

it seems you asked her to. I don't tell the average provider what i drive, what i do for a living(basically nothing), and how much coin that field brings in. Why would you unless you welcome the stalking?

I met with a girl I've seen a few times last night, and one of the first things she did was pull out a magazine and tell me what she wanted for xmas. She told me the price (over $300) and said that I should get it for her. This was the third time I'd seen her. Obviously I realize that I don't have to get her anything, but is this normal behavior?

When we first met, I was pretty honest with her about my job and how much money I make. She's been telling me that I'm her favorite and even saying that I can call her when we're not at an appointment. Since I travel a lot, she asked me for my e-mail so we can talk that way, too, when I'm out of town.

I feel like she might be trying to take advantage of me, but I wanted to see what you all thought. Perhaps it is worth mentioning that we're both around the same age?

There is no "Rule number one" that you mention.

Part of the exchange that some men have with a provider is that of a confidante. You're jumping to conclusions, and that could be from a lack or trust or even a distain for providers or women in general.


HH

Do you really think she is trying to take advantage of you ?

Hell yes! ! !

Wanna give her a gift?
Put a bow on your dick.


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BTW  did you really tell her how much you make?

Not an actual figure.

I don't make that much money. I guess what I told her might be ambiguous. She asked a question about my job which lead to me saying I what I used to do, and I finished by saying I that I now make much more money than that -- I suppose that could mean all sorts of things.

I agree with you though. It was a mistake to say anything about it.

This type of post is why I'm all for the usage of aliases.

I was the only one she said it to that night! lol

flipping burgers, and how long I have to save up to see them. None of them ask me for expensive gifts, or to become their regular, and see them every week

I guess, I would like to propose a second question.

How do I get rid of the stigma I've created with her? Is it too late?

The girl is nice and I don't think she's entirely gold digging me. I just feel like if I want to continue seeing her, I don't want this expectation to grow that I'll spoil her beyond the time we've reserved together.

PM me No Kids?  Got a question for you.

A lady opening a catalog and a pointing at a $300 item to a guy she's had 3 "dates" with is tacky as hell.  You should of said at the time,  "yeah thats nice, you should go buy yourself that".

Just being honest with yourself did you say anything where she might of thought you like to spoil rotten girls and like a little bit of diva behaviour?

Rule number one in this hobby is to know keep your boundaries and not to blabber. It is cultural thing, people grew up here has a tendency to disclose to much personal information, share many things they should not share, etc. In life there are certain information no one other than you need to know and one should learn to keep it to yourself.

You can be nice to everyone without blabbering about your job, how much you make, how many times you have been married, how many you have fucked, who you fucked yesterday, where do you live, how many kids you have, how much you hate for wife (if you have one), you get the picture.

and circle 3 things you have on your list in the same price range that should send the message loud and clear......would love to her expression  seriouly though lose her # she is a user.......

If she gave you the best sex you've ever and blow your mind - maybe the gift could be something to improve relationships.   But since she didn't wanna go out with you on a drink, I say she's just playin.

I had one girl like that .. asked me for a laptop. She was one of my best bang. 2-3 pops in a row most of the time. Well, turns out I spent the money ($300) bailing her ass outta jail.  She gave me the best fuck after that and she went out with me to lunch, but then had problems after that.  Eventually, she run away with the session money I handed to her in the parking lot to pay for hotel room.  I was pissed. She's a felon and ended up in jail.  She is still in jail now and maybe out  in 3-4 months.  Can't trust her, but the intensity was good while it lasted.   I say the time I was with her was worth it.

To request a gift after three visits sounds tacky to me and not "normal" behavior (though normal is a over rated societal construct).....

HOWEVER, the situation seems pretty simple.

Only you and the provider know what really happened here. If you are comfortable getting the gift or have alluded to gifting in the past, then get it and suffer the consequences later (if there are any). If you feel she is using you, then forget the gift and stop seeing her as these tactics will, most likely, only get worse.

You opened the proverbial can of worms by telling her more about your life than necessary. Some people (in all walks of life) may take that as an open invitation to get further into your life and business than you would like.

Good luck!

I'd still like to meet you so I can see what you look like, but I doubt you will give me the pleasure, because you are a coward.

Pretty tacky the way she went about asking for the gift.
Doesn't sound like a top tier lady to me. Not very professional.
Try sticking with ladies that have class, she obviously doesn't.

First of all, her website should have a page that tells you what kind of gifts she likes, lingerie size, favorite wine, etc....if you feel inclined to buy her a present then that is your decision.

It is very poor manners to ever do what she did. A woman never asks for a gift or implies a gentlemen should buy her one.

I would lean towards she is trying to make you her way out of the business....just fair warning.

I mean what do I really have to fear from you? Are you going to ugly me to death? lmao

Sorry, but while beauty is only skin deep, in your case ugly goes clear to the bone. You are as ugly inside as out.  Of course that is just my opinion, but I could be wrong. Yeah right. lmfao

You are wrong.  I don't want to see you to provide.  I want to meet you to see why you are so angry at me and to see what YOU look like, since you call me ugly and old.  Angry  for what I'm not sure....  Oh, that's right, for being vulnerable and expressing my feelings for a cleint on a discussion board dedicated only to sex.  What a crime I committed!  So you're an angry dude and I cannot change that most likely.  BTW, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, since some think I'm fabulous, some don't.  But I do have a big heart for people, which makes me more beautiful.   I made a mistake and after introspection I shouldn't have let my client/friend upset me.  Escorting is a business after all.

NO!!!  I told someone that and did mean it.

Agreed, but I think that the client should be sure to keep any personal information away from the provider unless she proves to be a good friend.  A friend is someone who has your back and you can't be sure someone is a friend except for time.   It's not good to trust people too much too easily.  I've learned this already. I think that a confidante is fine, just as long as it is in generalities that cannot be used against the man if they part ways.  Providers need to do the same.