My ATF is an exceptionally beautiful 5'8" Korean girl with a terrific personality and a wonderful sense of humor.  She speaks good English, and she says she likes me a lot.  We communicate very well.  If she's faking it, she's the best at it I've ever been with.  I don't love her.  She doesn't love me.  I've been divorced for 15 years.  The only girl I really ever loved was my wife.  I just want that feeling of being loved by her.  We can role play loving each other for a weekend and enjoy each other's company.  That is not stalking.  If she agrees, I am not going to make her do anything she doesn't want to do. She has asked me, when we get in bed, what are we going to do. My answer is, we'll make love before going to bed, lay in each other's arms while sleeping, and then make love again in the morning.  She has no problem with that. Don't ask about the finances. She will be very well taken care of.  I know the guys are going to jump all over this.  But ladies, in similar circumstances, would you go along?

a great Asian gal, such as the beautiful mistress of your's that you describe, needs a Great Asian American hobbyist...  I think  I know someone, but if he is busy please let me know if a Great South Asian hobbyist will do? I know the latter one is not busy at all..

Somehow I doubt that any of the other ladies here are going to being standing in line, jumping up and down screaming "Pick me, Pick me!!!" lmao

Are you related to ROGM by chance, and please don't tell me that you are asian. Once I found out that ROGM was asian I knew exactly how the black dudes on this board must feel knowing that not only Dungy, but the Turdmeister is "one of theirs" lol

if you're talking about a stud, that's exactly what she doesn't want. she wants a nice, caring guy like me who will treat her exceptionally well.

In fact she either turned you down twice or two different ladies turned you down once. I think you are missing something here.

Steph-not the editor, whatever that meant.

The great Asian American hobbyist can be too.. unless he is blowing chunks after a night of heavy partying.. And chunks in NOT is dog BTW..  

One lady turned me down.  That was my last visit to her.  I went to a different spa and found this Korean beauty. We've talked casually about doing this.  I am just feeling her out.  I really do want/need the feeling of being loved by her in the manner that I mentioned.  Steph, would you go along in this situation

Or I suppose if it takes you two days to recover from jerking yourself off, it must take you even longer to recover from actual sex. Yes, I am sure she is "all wet" just thinking about the possibility of a life with you.

Your advice is good.  I've met many providers that I wouldn't do this with.  I do have  some feelings for her.

AS I said in my original post I knew the guys would give me a bunch of shit on this.  That is why I am ignoring their posts.  It is the ladies comments that interest me.

by responding to my posts.. Oh you guys are so easy and fall for every single bait...lol

No wonder you are constantly confused. lol

and yes, the ladies seem to be coming to your defense in droves.

I don't know you  that is why you are on permanent ignore-  a new feature of ter  now, if you're a lady and you wish to communicate in a sensible, manner then I'd love too do that

As TER's official linesman, I set those odds as "Off the board" lmao

We need to create a new category for the SPOTY's, How does an award for the "most unintentionally funny post of the year" sound  to the rest of you?  I am still literally LMFAO over this one. Can anyone else picture Steph and this loser doing an overnight together, with Steph cooing into his ear "I love you" all through the night.

I am sorry, but I am at a bar right now watching football, this one calls for a shot of tequila, BARTENDER!!!!

Courtney would you go along with my request?  Be gentle now.

Great sex is one thing.  The art of giving great sex along with the acting out of real love is something that I think most providers can't do.  You can't just tell me stuff.  You have to make it real.

Making love is a state of mind. There are lots of girls that can provide a very high quality and intense GFE experience that will FEEL like making love. SO if that's what your looking for it shouldn't be hard to find. However, if you're looking for someone to tell you they love you over and over again, well, that's just weird. Sorry dude.

Are you willing to pay handsomely....?

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yeah, I know it's fucked up.  But it is what it is.

I want her to hug me, kiss me, fuck me and tell me she loves me in a way that I believe it.

You're right, but I don't care.  I have no love in my life.  This is my only shot.

My present ATF is better than all the rest I've been with.  So I want her to tell me she loves me and make me believe it.  She's the only one.  If she a great actress and is only fucking me for my money as everyone says, so be it.

Willing to pay.  That's funny.  I've probably blown 20,000 in the last 2 years.

If she was gfe instead of a kspa girl and you built a real trust and bond I'd back you but…dood it's her job to be smiling and sweet and caring and most kspa girls do that ten times a day. Literally.

What do you see the outcome being if you met a woman in your mundane life who, despite the shape the world's in, wanted to have a relationship with you. And you with her, etc., etc.  How do you imagine your arrangement with the K girl going on? Would breaking up be easy for both of you? Or would you continue on with your ATF on the side?

I thought he was saying he made friends with a provider who plays along with his girlfriend fantasy in the bedroom, but is a good friend when not in that mode.

All she can do, or any other hooker is make it feel real. It never is real. How can it be when you are paying her to be there. It is a service and she is an actress (in this case would have to be for the "real emotional love thingy).

I mean, there have been threads about people's kinks ranging from sticking vegetables in places Mr. Greenjeans never imagined, to getting pissed on, licking assholes, and being in handcuffs the whole time.  No problem.  Not an eyelash is batted.  And why should it - to each their own.  

you are smart and helpful  but you just said it I want to be  a guy she actually likes  trust me if she's with me for the weekend, we need to have sex  she has to tell me she loves me  after that she can do whatever she wants  why can't you ladies accept that

I don't know what you look like, I don't know how you feel about me, but I don't care.  Your level of illumination has me.  Call me on my private cell.  I want you for this weekend.

You hit it right on the head.  I am lonely- very lonely.  This girl is beautiful.  But that doesn't mean anything to me.  The point is that I love her -not really.  Sure I'd want to keep it going.  Yes, I am flawed.  But I am sure that  everyone already knows that.

You know, This girl has given me so many compliments that I'm out of my mind.  I am hooked, I am stupid, I am out of control, I am everything I shouldn't be .   I know it and you know it.  So why is it that I can't stop thinking that I want this to happen

Hey, I couldn't hustle a girl when I was younger.  Match.com ladies would want nothing to do with me.  Yes, I have very low self esteem.  I am sure that doesn't surprise you.  What is so difficult here.  Tell me you love me and make me believe it and everything you want is yours.

You're smart and I think you are a genuinely nice person so I respect your opinion.  So, please tell me.  Is my situation something you would go along with?  It's okay if you say no.  At this point my chances of succeeding seem  very small anyway.

kiss me, hug me, fuck me tell me you love me and convince me you mean it is better  than any cucumber or handcuffs. thanks for your comments

You're over thinking it. Enjoy what you have. If you push it.too far you're going to fuck it all up.and end up disappointed. Just enjoy the ride...it's better that way.

I apologize but your post is even more amazing

I have " ridden " 100 girls.  This lady is by far the best.

maybe, maybe not.  But if it's a new guy for you, feelings could develop later  Every guy I know who did this had feelings for the girl.  They got burned in the end, but they had a GREAT time during the event.  And I'm talking about personal conversations.

I'm almost speechless! :-/

Please look at his responses. I think he's got some issues with anger. And he won't be able to leave the fantasy when it's over.

Do you just want someone to come along and rip you off? Seriously please go back and spend more time on the Newbie Board.

Steph

If some of the greatest minds alive struggle with the question of what is real and what isn't, do you really think the degenerates and whores on this board have all that figured out? No, of course not. We're all splashing around in fantasies so we can avoid unendurable reality at any cost. Any cost.

And it will be what it turns out to be. You probably don't have free will anyhow, so the outcome is predetermined. It's futile and pointless to advise you on what to do. We can guess about what's going to happen, and that can be fun, but I've found that such amusements aren't as appreciated on this board as elsewhere. Have you considered pestering some other ship of fools? That's a possibility.

oops... no, I missed it but maybe i should have read it... apparently I was absent that day It looks like I need to get a beer (or 6) and read it though.  Thank you for sharing, we need a better cross reference system for lazy posters like me.

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I think you just answered Scarsdale's question.  And not in a good way.

Yes, I'm afraid I have to agree.  Silly me.