I've seen this requested posted many a time and have found almost as uch variation on who is considered a M.I.L.F.

technically - it would mean any woman who has had a child. But I'm sure there's more to it to you men than that.

So tell me. what does M.I.L.F. mean to you? Or better still, when looking for one, what do you look for?

~Bella

mothers I like to fuck....

but when looking for a MILF... what are you looking for?

My personal defination is any hot woman in her mid 30's or older....and I seek to turn as many MILF's in MIHF's as possible (Moms I Have Fucked)!!

What do I look for????  BBBJ, DFK, DATY and anytime Greek is on the menu as well as those items....WINNER, WINNER, CHICKEN DINNER!!

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I'll take a stab at it.  Age: mid 30's to mid 40's.  Preferably divorced, no current SO. Turns your eyes when you see her in the market or a restaurant.  Sends the eternal signals that I should be bold to approach her.  Imagine if she approaches me, subtle but unmistakeable.   Recovered from her delivery with minimal damage.  Not only in good shape, but at the peak years of her sexual desire.  Exudes lust. Multi-orgasmic.  Loves her job and the $, while perhaps necessary, are not her driving force.  Genuinely loves sex.  Communicates passion, delivers eroticism, fun, intelligent, flirtacious, educated, and makes me feel like a stud-lover. Expects me to pleasure her and appreciates it as much as I do.  Low volume provider, perhaps just a few clients a week.  I seek them out and utterly immerse myself in them, but not to violate the ground rules.  I have known a few and identified some quintissential "I can't define it but know it when I see it."  Miki the Milf on the east coast, and Ciarra Phx.  Perhaps another hint, the daughter of the horny hippies I loved in the 60's, waterbeds, lava lights, dark side of the moon, and other forbidden delights. The young hard bodies and eye candy are fun, but a true MILF is priceless.

One of the most erotic notions about sex with a MILF is that she is a sexually repressed housefrau who has decided to break all the rules and become an escort so as to liberate her libido with us, the enthrawled hobbyist.

It's a marketing buzz word bascially like GFE or PFE or whatever.

Define it as you will.

a MILF is "Mother I'd Like To Fu_ _."  I'm not a mom but I do have a cat and she is like my baby. Hey! I guess that makes me a MILF, eh?

I can tell you I totally agree with everything you have said in regards to CiaraPhx.
Although she is not a true "mother", she is a beautiful, intelligent, sexy woman who does have her own "baby". And I am honored to be able to know them both and call her a dear friend.
I don't care for the term "MILF" as I feel that and other terms, can be used in a derogitory manner, and I don't use them, especially for the ladies I have seen or become acquainted with.
I prefer the moniker "mature", as in.. experienced in life and love.
Hell, most ladies here who are considered mature are still babies to me........LOL.

Just my opinion...
B

I've done my fair share of reading about the origins of this term.  Needless to say there are many claims and arguments surrounding this but most renditions carry a common theme.

The term was coined by horny 15 - 18 year old teenage boys.  In their ealry adolescent years most young guys find it incomprehensible to think of their parents as active sexual beings and in the vast majority of cases they almost never view their own mom or their friends moms as being sexy.  However one day it just happens. Perhaps it is at a school function, an athletic event or a supermarket.  So and so's mom is with him/her and she is hot and induces all sorts of wood and fantasy.  The whispers start with other friends, 'did you ever see so and so's mom?  She's totally hot!.  Well before long MILF is coined and every young, horny guy can instantly relate when he eventually hears the term.

As the term gained popularity, debate would often crop up over its literal meaning and proper use.  Some literalists will say that a hot 35 or so lady that has never given birth cannot be described as a MILF. Others will point out that there are many young mothers who do not fit the MILF bill.  For example a smoking hot young 19-year old who has had a child at this young age does not fit the MILF perception for many.  And so as bellad's  very question pinpoints, MILF represents a personna of sorts that means different things to different people.  Some think about the soccer mom image while others think of women in the 30 to 40+ age bracket.  High school and college guys will use it to categorize what they perceive to be hot 'older women' and clearly they do not know (or care) if she is actually someone's mom.        

I kind of laugh at arguments about this subject.  There was a thread on the Porn board a few months ago and some guys got pissed if others did not see as they did. In any case, for me I relate to the conceptual image that the term was meant to describe.  At 53, MILFs are younger women to me but there is still an image that comes to mind. Even though the term was not used by me and my buds when we were young, I can relate to the concept.  I vividly recall the first time I viewed someone's mom as being someone that I thought was hot.  Like many categorizing terms, I find it easier to know when I see it then to describe it.  'Girl Next Door', 'College Coed', 'Country Girl', 'Stripper Type', 'Business Woman', 'Cover Girl', 'MILF', etc. are all examples of terms that conjour up a particular image of a woman.    And in my mind the images for each and every one of these terms is different but all good.

Last note:

After the Soprano's finale last week I watched the debut of 'John from Cincinnati'.  Rebecca DeMornay plays the grandmother of a young and upcoming teen surfer phenom.  Rebecca remains very attractive in my books and this leads to the fact that yes indeed there are many using the 'GMILF' term...you got it 'Grandma's I'd Like To F...'                              


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At least I think that was the start for my generation.

Its stayed with me for all this time..that older woman thing. I can remember when it was the senior cheerleaders, female teachers ect. moved on to the college gals and now MILF. Hell now I even enjoy the "older" porno stuff sometimes when the gals sport their silvery grey streaks.

The only requirement seems to be that they are "sexy" whatever that means. I have been attracted to almost any body type or personality at any given time and have felt pride in the fact I seem to find something positive in them all.

One great thing about getting older is I can still live this fantasy thats been such a friend for all this time, and I have added the variety of those sweet ripe young things to my menu.

Great question, and thanks for bringing the memories back.

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For me, it's a woman about my age (mid-40s) to maybe the mid-30s.  They would be attractive, in a girl-next door look, but just a bit older.

I was a soccer dad to my daughters for a long time.  When my girls were in high school, I realized that I was more interested in what the kid's mothers looked like than what these young girls in their prime looked like.  I guess that meant I was getting old -- it seems like just yesterday I was chasing after the high school girls, but those days are long past.

Having said all of this, in this community, it seems like the term milf is often used as a euphamism for a mature provider.

The Mother part is integral to MILFNESS, Ciara is a hot babe, true lady and a so desireable but not a MILF...she embodies the spirit of MILFness but misses the the mom aspect which contributes to the fantasy...

A quote from my site:

maybe she's that mom across the street, or the one you saw in the supermarket with that tight sweatsuit...she stirs a primal instinct, you know she wants it.

I have 4 teenage kids and I often catch my son's buddies staring at my cleavage. I know that they would love an older and more experienced woman to show them what great pleasure is all about.

Or  you are a mature guy. The idea of spending time with a woman your daughter's age is a turn off. You are a discerning gentleman looking for a high class, top-notch experience.

After spending the last twenty years as a wife and a mother I am now fortunate enough to be living out my life long fantasy of being a courtesan or a geisha I have been very hungry girl since I lost my cherry when I was fourteen.

Welcome to your wildest fantasies come true, a mature experienced temptress with a vivid imagination and a hunger to match. I will captivate you with my sparkling green eyes, devilish smile and my lush female form.

it is tha fantasy of the soccer mom, the PTA mom who exudes a sexual vibe that even teenage boys can sense..

IT IS NOT AN AGE CATEGORY..ITS ABOUT SEXUAL CONFIDENCE ANS HUNGER...PASSION!
wHEN I STARTED OUT 4 YRS/AGO I WAS AN ORIGINAL, NOW WE HAVE BARELY LEGAL MOMS,GRANDMAS AND WOMEN WHO HAVE NEVER BRED CLAIMING miLfness.

MIKITHEMILF Always copied never duplicated!



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I would have to agree with this definition..Hit the nail on the head..

I AM A MILF..(LOL)

I like the way you thinkg DayDreamin. *wink*

It would seem that I need to add MILF to my description. Hmmm...

By example....cute, sexy and a mom.

A Spice Girls reunion in the nude.

a MILF is not self designated...one cannot call themself a MILF.  She must be designated a MILF by
at least 2 men who are about 10-15 years younger.

Mikki,
While we have never met personally, we have exchanged a couple of emails a while back.  Please don't change, you are the embodiment of what I think of as a MILF.  If you ever tour to Tampa, you could become, at least to me, a MIHF, much to my desire and enjoyment.  Love your posts.

Swim

Mikki IS a MILF!!!! See my post above about her.

Swim

I have always associated the term MILF with a woman who has obviously had children. In other words, someone who has kind of broadened at the hips over the years, someone who has spent so much time raising her children that she has not had time to make regular trips to the gym. Slightly overweight, very full figured and soft. In short, the wives of the guys I work with.

The MILFs that have been described above would be the kind of woman with whom I would dream about having "hot sex all night long." The MILF I describe would be a woman with whom I would enjoy cuddling all night long, with the occasional interlude of tender and sensual sex.

stop peeking

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2007=27

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and they are so different that I could not find anything to define MILF by looking at them.  Both have children... Both are very sexy, but they are just sooo different that I really cannot tell you what makes each a MILF... but they are.

hmmm...

I've first understood the term in specifics: had children, over 35, very attractive woman, looked exactly like she could easily have been your best friend's mom when you were growing up or the mom from the family next door; someone you always fantasized about being with.  

As time has passed though, i've come to understand it in a more general term:  a lady over the age of 30 who LOOKS like she could be a hot mom regardless of specific age or whether or not she really has kids.  

As MILF is a term of fantasy that we try to apply to reality, I don't think it matters anymore whether she's married or actually has kids.  So long as we view her as a "hot mom" type lady, she can be called a milf.  

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