Give her the moral support that any lover would give to their beloved and you'll be fine.

Remember that her job doesn't mean beans when it comes down to how you two relate to each other.

I wish you both much happiness.

Dear Wesstone:
I fair question is how secure are you with respect to her occupation? Also how many times did you ask that question when you where in contemplation of being with her? Finally are you ready for all the questions from outsiders and have you figured out how to answer them when they do come up?

Never make any implicit promises or passive aggressive remarks.  Be absolutely sure you can accept her job and do not allow her to quit unless you are ready and willing to support her transition.

You never know what's in her heart or how she will interpret your words/actions.

Few months down the road you may end up having rather unpleasant conversation.

Unfortunately, should things go wrong, she will be the one who'll end up having to pick up the pieces.

Although who knows?

I have known her for almost a year. Met her as a client. Didnt see her but maybe 4 or 5 times for business. We did go out for a drink a time or two. Hooked up with her recently and we became inseparable for a couple weeks. We talked about it and now we are together.
   Any thoughts or advice from anyone in a similar relationship? So far it has been a wild ride and I have loved it. Hope it works out because I love the lifestyle that her job can create. Thanks in advance for any responses.

Are you allowing her to continue as a provider ?
How do you feel about that ?

Your relationship is up to the two of you to define, and should NOT be subject to the imposition of the ideas of others.

Each person is an individual, and occupation is just a small part of it. Don't assume anything based upon her occupation. Observe or ask.

Keep who she is a secret from other providers and hobbyists. If you don't, you'll regret it.

You're gonna hear ALLLL about what it takes to make a relationship work with a provider, lol!

But it's cool. He's proud of his wife as well he should be. He's a happy camper, and you might learn a thing or two from him whether you want to hear it or not.

Just don't take any recommendations from him about taking your lady out for the night in an ice cave.

Trust me.

Do you talk like you type in real life? Just wondering....

What? Does this 'lyfestyle' that her job creates mean you're swingers, or some shit like that?

I'm curious cuz it sounds like you have the best of all worlds, lol!

is an invitation to interference from jealous clients and providers. i hope you haven't reviewed her. if you have reviewed her i hope no one can tell that she is special to you by reading the review.

I'm curious as to what you mean when you say the following:

my thought was: hope he's not a sponge.... or a parasite....

Too many sponges and parasites out there; and they give legitimate boyfriends a bad rap.

i've heard some interesting stories.... best not retold in any detail. leave it at several ladies have a habit of being disappointed by picking up stray dogs.

Honesty and openness are key. Lies are even more damning when you add in the nature of her job. A no lies policy is key, stick with it even if it is hard. If you both follow it things can work. Dishonesty will doom your relationship as it will allow for a lot of doubt. Thing will be difficult enough without the lies.

Try not to compare yourself to her clients. Don't read her review, they can add needless jealousy. I know this can be hard but remember, they are only getting the fantasy version of your GF, you get the whole lady. Remember you are the one she loves and if this progresses the person she comes home to. In the end her clients are her job not her love. You are her love.

I find it helpful to go on regular dates with my wife. Time to just enjoy each other, no kids, no work, no distractions. Just go out and have fun and talk like we are dating. You also may want to try that. It has helped me and my wife a lot. Have fun with her. I know you are doing this now but keep it up during the whole reationship

Never use her job as a weapon. It will hurt her and it will poison your relationship. Take time just to talk. Communication, respect and honesty are paramount.

Make a set of ground rules for your relationship. Is she going to continue toe escort? Are you going to continue to hobby? If she is going to retire how is she going to support herself? Are you expected to support her financially? Know what your walking into.

It was real rough going at first for me but with work things are working out. It can work. I wish you luck.

Hot sex in a cave made of snow is great fun. Snow is a great insulator.

I was hoping to hear form you. Thank you. That was fuckin beautiful! This helps a lot. I am comfortable with everything she does. I thank you for bringing up some very good points. This is the first post I have responded to. I will try to get to the rest soon. She is about to arrive from a trip and I cant wait to see her. She is going to continue to escort and I totally support her. I actually work with her and I enjoy it. She says I can see other girls, but only if I pay for it! lol Sounds good to me. Thanks again for everyones response. It helps

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Please, I'm still making alimony payments.

Bev and I are just real sweethearts and nothing more.

No harm in that.

It's like how some gals/guys love to marry cops and firefighters.

so, so should we.

I have no advice for the OP except to enjoy himself and his newfound gf.

There are no guarantees in love or in life, and dating a provider has it's own unique set of challenges, but if she is the girl for you, then I am very happy for you. If not, well that's the risk we run anytime we enter into a relationship, and it's certainly not unique to dating an SP

Any preconceived biases by posters here, either for or against dating an SP should be disregarded. The only people that need be happy about this are you and her. Good Luck

I think it's pretty clear from the number of "I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" posts made on this board, that the chances are that the guy is going to be the one to have to "pick up the pieces" if things don't work out.

Actually I think my statement is almost as unfair as yours, neither of us know a thing about their relationship or what if anything may cause them to end it. To surmise that one of them will suffer more than the other is patently unfair, and only goes to show the bias of the author.

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Then that's all that matters. It sounds like you're a very open person and one who is at ease with what she does. Obviously that's what it takes to be in a relationship with someone in this business. We (husband and I) have such a higher level of trust and communication here and it's a beautiful thing.

I hope everything works for the two of you! Best of luck

You're still all cuddly, though!

I normally do not reply to post on here but, I have to say I have not read a post that hits it right on the head.  This is the best advise I have read on here about relationships.

Thanks for sharing Scoed
Tori

True,  Problem is when providers do "fall for the client" they fall hard and they fall fast.  I am not talking about glorified gold diggers who take the guy for all his is worth and move on to next target, but rather about REAL relationships.

When I say "pick up pieces" I don't mean just the heartbreak. Usually, when a provider gets involved in serious relationship it adversely affects her career, while rarely has any effect on her SO's carrier.

So yeah, when things DO NOT work out, she is the one left trying to figure out how to piece things back together.  Add to that that deep emotional involvement and ensuing heartbreak make it a little harder to be that perfect GFE everyone wants.  So if she has to return to work, she has to be the perfect and enthusiastic lover while all she wants is to crawl somewhere and bond with Ben and Jerry.

Posts like OP made tend to bring out people's personal issues and of course they are going to write about their personal experiences rather then topic in question.

your biases are showing as well.

I don't think either side has a monopoly on heartbreak, financial ruin, or any other side effect of a failed relationship.

While all "posters" might be biased, not all posts are, but your's certainly is.

I admit that MY posts are biased and reflect MY current circumstances.  Hopefully, in few weeks I will be able to get a handle on my emotions and post in more unbiased manner  

Until then, I will stay away from relationship threads I think. Even under alias.

Thank you very much sir. And I thank everyone for their responses. It has been very helpful. I am currently on vacation with her. I am sorry I was not ableto respond to all of the responses I got.

I am very secure withher occupation. I actually work with her. And we have discussed and have been actively dealing with the questions from outsiders. we pretty much have it worked out, but thank you for asking.