I'd say all my Favs... seen more than a year, some several... have opened up to me. It's not during the action, of course, but might be between rounds or while we're getting dressed, slip out of persona & then back in for goodbye.
In one case, I learned too much... drama with a neighbor feud & another time drama with a sister. In both cases there was a melt down. The sister drama phone call) interrupted our session... I WAS going to leave. She DEMANDED I stay... fortunately I had time. She calmed down after a while but when we resumed the session it was mechanical. Had I not been seeing her over 5 years, I'd have not gone back at all. I do see her for old times sake, when I'm in her area but don't detour for her any more.
My current and past Providers have talked to me about things in their Lives. I always treat my Provider with Respect and make sure to always be Polite and Courteous. It seems to me that my current Provider (besides doing the obvious) just wants to vent and talk to someone. Has your Provider current and past ever talk to you about what's going on in their Life?
I know the clock was running, but listening while caressing their bodies was a pretty pleasant experience in and of itself.
If it got to the point of venting, that would be different.
I agree with you. My Provider and I just have small talk before the Action. In the case of my current Provider she talks about how she loves playing Pool and sounds good at it. In other Sessions she talks about how her Room Mates aren't paying their Fair Share of the Rent and Utilities. So I look at each Session with my current Provider as a Therapy Session for both of us.
It was with a guy I have seen a few times before.. and I thought that we were ok to talk about things if I had something I wanted to let go of, and I felt trust in him to talk.... that actually for mr is a compliment to the guy on how I like you in a regular friend way...
Anyways he very quickly stated " no offense, I do care but really, I was and am looking for you to just be my whore/slut tonight"
I got the message crystal clear. I could have been offended and been like "fuck you, you insensitive prick" but, it was a wake up call that not all, in fact MOST of these guys do not want to hear our yapppy yappy BS
They dont PAY us to listen to our bitching, moaning, and drama! They are trying to escape something themselves, so do they really want to have us load more onto them? nah
Anyways he very quickly stated " no offense, I do care but really, I was and am looking for you to just be my whore/slut tonight"
I got the message crystal clear. I could have been offended and been like "fuck you, you insensitive prick" but, it was a wake up call that not all, in fact MOST of these guys do not want to hear our yapppy yappy BS
They dont PAY us to listen to our bitching, moaning, and drama! They are trying to escape something themselves, so do they really want to have us load more onto them? nah!
I know he did not mean it in a insulting way, rather, he wanted me to be kinky, dirty, naughty in my talk, intensity, etc...
He did not have me over to listen to me talk, he was only in the mood to fuck, and be naughty. I cant at all be mad at him for that, I mean if you have a mindset, and all she does is ruin it by talking about drama, life, and un sexy stuff, for some men, they lose that momentum... and its like done!
If you're good with what he said, no Harm no Foul. As for me I would never ever call my Provider a Whore / Slut. To me that's a total turn-off. I guess it's in my nature to treat a lady with Respect and Courtesy even in this Business.
I think it mostly depends when during the session you want to just talk. If after everything is over so to speak then great laying together cuddling and talking for me is very nice-much better than being shoved out the door. But some guys are more wham bam thank you ma'am. As far as the whore/slut I,m all for it when the passion is highest between us especially if the woman says she is my little slut etc... WOW HOT!!!
If the guy wanted to listen to someone else's problems he could have stayed home with his wife, and saved himself a few hundred bucks.
Some guys don't want the "wife experience" they want it to be about them. That's why they PAY for it. Sex is easy to find, sex that is totally on your terms is what many guys are looking for, don't fuck it up for the rest of us by being a mangina and setting a "code of conduct' for the rest of us to follow.
I do think there is a tremdous difference between whether it is during the time I am paying for or after. I would be very happy to be trusted and have that discussion, but not so much to pay to have it.
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We are paying for "companionship". Granted that should encompass more that rabbit fucking, but what most men are looking for is the fantasy of a relationship, not an actual relationship (many of us already have one of those). I have really enjoyed getting to know the providers I have seen, but much of that time has been OTC.
Not sure if I am incredibly good at picking providers that "fit" me (unlikely), a scintillating conversationalist (even more unlikely), or if simply treating the lady with respect and being genuinely interested in them as person causes them to open up. Much of the "over time" was simply chatting about life and getting to know each other. The few times it has happened it really cements the memory of the other activities and establishes as connection that makes me want to see them again. However, to be drawn into drama or other negative energy would be major downer.
JB
If I wanted to pay for companionship, I would buy a dog. I pay for NSA sex, if more than that occurs fine, but that's the part I pay for.
I too become friends and even "date" providers, but that's a different story. What I "pay" for is the ability to have sex on my terms, whether that be GFE, PSE, or whatever "I" am in the mood for that day, without having to worry about being "selfish" in a relationship.
Seriously, ROGM, just what do you have down there? Now, I'll be the first to admit that I have mangina tendencies, but Holy shit, you are taking this to a WHOLE new level! You're actually apologizing to a hooker because one of her clients wanted what he paid for?!?!?!?! You like being a white knight???? Sorry, I rarely post and when I do, it's rarely confrontational, but I had to speak up. Let the flaming begin.
It may sound weird, but I was always taught that the object of any form of the verb "to be" is always in the nominative case, not the objective case.
But, boy, does it sound weird.
I'd say all my Favs... seen more than a year, some several... have opened up to me. It's not during the action, of course, but might be between rounds or while we're getting dressed, slip out of persona & then back in for goodbye.
In one case, I learned too much... drama with a neighbor feud & another time drama with a sister. In both cases there was a melt down. The sister drama phone call) interrupted our session... I WAS going to leave. She DEMANDED I stay... fortunately I had time. She calmed down after a while but when we resumed the session it was mechanical. Had I not been seeing her over 5 years, I'd have not gone back at all. I do see her for old times sake, when I'm in her area but don't detour for her any more.
Since reading all of the response from my posting, it seems to me that Married Guys don't like too much conversation. As for me I've never been Married. So my perspective of listening to a Provider isn't as Jaded as a Married Guy.
And most of my clients don't mind. I can tell very quickly if the client is a wham bam thank you m'am or likes to talk and listen. Most of my regulars take an interest in my life and shoot a text every so often to ask how this or that is going. I do the same. When it's appropriate I like to encourage a friendship between myself and my clients. I prefer more of a friends with benefits atmosphere where we both can forget that my time is being paid for.
I agree with you 1000%. Thank You.
Agreed breanna hey you ever in charlotte area?
Eh, been there once or twice... I'm more comfortable with repeat clients so I don't tour very often.
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but most do not have any.
but, usually after a 2nd date.......Respecting privacy regardless of what happens in the relationship is tantamount.......
I've helped several with different things.
so far only one has gone awry, but we maintain our respect and privacy
I start tuning out after 20 minutes of conversation. I actually fell asleep on a date as we lie there and she is talking about her ex. I guess that's what's called a true GFE.
When I view the above post it says it is from sweetnicole, but when I open it, it is from oldted.
By the way, this was written by mrfisher. For all I know they'll change me to londonrayne.
How many other screw-ups like this have happened?