I saw an ad today for a new British 'romantic comedy' film and it reminded me of staying with a guy I'd been dating weeks longer than I would have just because we had great sex.  He was quiet and shy till we got in the bedroom then he was transformed!  I got bored with the general relationship weeks before I could drag myself away from the sex.  Have you ever done that?

(btw, the romantic comedy connection is that the final straw came when he insisted we watched Sleepless in Seattle and he loved it and I was bored to tears.  I knew then that I really couldn't stay with him any longer!  lol)

But I happen to love Sleepless in Seattle..

Yup,

She was the first person I had ever slept with when I was 18.  She was a walking Penthouse Forum column, but she was NUTS.  Things were great in bed, but I could see the Helter Skelter eyes getting ready to bug out.  Nasty temper too (Passionate goes both ways I guess).

Then one day the condom broke.  All of a sudden, the spell broke as well as I did not want to get stuck in a permanent relationship.  My next girlfriend eventually became my wife, but a part of me misses those crazy times.  My wife is much more stable, but I guess with the dialed down "crazy"-meter comes a dialed down "nympho"-meter.

Which probably explains why I'm here in the first place.....

i had the near opposite actually happen when a girl who'd evidently stayed with me just for the sexual "kicks" (long after the relationship had come to a standstill) finally called it quits two days after i made her watch Mike Leigh's NAKED with me

evidentally she was shocked and came to realize that i was afterall (in her eyes) the dark brooding misogynist misanthrope she had only suspected before! LOL

as to the veracity of it ... no comment

story of my life

most i have left because i am a very highly driven individual. i like it ALL the F*in time. Most of the people that have been in my dating circle were older profss and the stress and duties of day to day can often kill a gentlmans libido. Unfortunately that leads to the demise of the relationship because I look for those needs elsewhere pretty quickly.

I will volunteer for that duty.!

I am free all the time. My libido is fine as far as I can tell and there are few limits to my imagination. LOL.

I seem to find women that want to hang on long after its over with seemingly no sex!!!! Should I take that as a statement of my ability?

ok so you get no nookie but they hang on?
I hang on only to try to get nookie until I get bored..lol
Brotha man where were you several months ago!?!?!?!?!
I went through the I WANT IT NOW- every  hour or so..

Every hour or so sounds about right.

Tell me when you get back to needing a volunteer? I'll wait...

Nope. Once the feelings aren't there, I see no reason to stay with that person. I can get sex any place if that's what I want. But I see why you might stay, since you're comfortable with him and the sex is great. And I loved that movie too.

Hugs,
Ciara

You can get sex anywhere, but I would rather go with the stability.

Shaye

Yeah, I knew this one girl when I was in training and we would have sex everywhere but we just couldn't connect otherwise.  She was great though, at the time my perfect body type and willing to do anything.   Finally reached the heights of idiocy when I had a girl move in with me but ended up still screwing this other girl in my on call room.  Finally ended when I was shipped 2000 miles away otherwise I am sure we would still be banging each other.

I ended up marrying the girl who moved in with  me.  Should have known there was going to be a problem but here I am 21 years later still oding the same old stuff.

That's one of my FB's favorite saying - the crazier she is the better the sex and that I'm the anomaly! LOL

Or maybe 'crazy' just needs to be defined! LOL

Uhhhh, no.  YOU can get sex anywhere.  You're a woman.

(Not that I resent it, but that's the way it is.)

Back back when I was a junior in high school I met this gal who was much like the poster Bob described...incredibly good looking & it was lust at first sight the moment I laid eyes on her.  Ended up as BF/GF for about 2yrs & the relationship was as rocky as the sex was good...fought like cats & dogs, but screwed like rabbits.  Broke up a few times but always ended up going back together.  And to top it off I did the dumbest thing of my life...I married the gal.  The marriage was about like the relationship...argue, then sex, argue again followed by more sex.  Lasted for almost 3yrs that way until I finally moved out.  But even then we continued to see each other once in a while for more of the same...went on like that until I met the gal who became my second wife.  

But that first time was the only time I've ever stayed around for sex alone, & I'd never do it again.  The lessons hardest learned are the lessons learned best.

Yepper !

When I was in college almost 20 years ago, I stayed with a girl I didn't like at all... I was always more into girls that were outgoing and down to earth and this one was quiet and kind of mean with an attitude......but she was cute & insatiable in bed....moreover, she loved anal sex which I never had experienced before and it was great...that is until I got a major prostate infection from this unprotected act at the time....needless to say I haven't been with anyone since then that was into anal or for that matter insatiable like this girl...but it was fun at the time.

Nick

In my mid twenties I dated a woman for about 6 months. The sex was AMAZING but we both realized or knew that our relationship was purely sex driven. Anyplace, anytime, anywhere..etc. We came to the agreement that aside from the sex we were not very compatible so we ended the "relationship" part of it and kept it to "booty calls" only lol. Once a week, sometimes days in a row, other times weeks between. It was a great deal for both of us. This lasted for about a year or so. It was around that time I met the woman who was to become my future wife; the best lover I have ever had.(I miss her )

Oh yeah!

One GF (not a provider) I always remember the sex was amazing. Well, let me be more granular: the actual sex act was fine, but what was great was the way we got to it. The context. The unusual places, the unusual times. Anywhere, everwhere. It made everything so exciting, so full of possibility. The sheer joy of coupling in every look, every breath. To feel sexual all the time. So...inappropriate

But she was also NUTS. I was hit in the head by an iron skillet. Thank God it wasn't aluminum, because the weight of the iron made it difficult for her to get a good swing with it! She dented my sports car by kicking it. She sent inappropriate photos to business associates. She drew blood biting me during a particularly intense climax. Ok, that last one wasn't all bad, I guess.

It turns out she was a drug user on the way down (which I found out after I made my emotional committments), and I ended up putting her through rehab several times. I have to confess I stuck with her for a long time not only because of the sex, but also because I had strong feelings for her. But in retrospect, it was a truly foolish relationship, since the only thing that kept me around for all the abuse was the memory of the sex, and an unrealistic image of the potential of the rest of the relationship being just as good. (Oh, and an overblown sense of responsibility always helps these things overstay their welcome!)

I also had a college GF where we used to have great sex...the actual act. Although it was early in my experience, so that might taint my rating of the act. Anyhow, we'd argue like cats and dogs about the most trivial things, and then have sex like rabbits. We were eager like beavers. And stupid like oxen. And that's all the animal similes I can generate right now.

Live and learn.

but GREAT sex is hard to find.

Life is very ironic. I have stayed with my wife over all these years for both the sex and companionship. Now that the sex is ebbing all that mostly remains is her companionship.

OK! time for russian roulette, I have stayed with my wife and dont have sex or companionship. What is wrong with me.
Oh yeha, I am doing it for the kids!!!1 (what a crock)

somebody take me out of my misery.

most of them- until my latest - 13 years and counting- sex still awesome- other stuff pretty cool too-  just no massages and few bbbjs!

this board is for providers and hobbyests...the rest are offline...all 2 of them!  

So you are like angry Johnny, huh?  Did you ever hear the song by Poe, "Angry Johnny"?

You remember Katrin Cartlidge from "Naked" (the skinny, dark haired girl)?  She sadly died a few years back.  She was a really good actress (check out "Breaking the Waves", "Before the Rain", and my personal fave with her in it, Leigh's "Career Girls").

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Not really but it did sound good.....

"Sleepless in Seattle" was the first movie that I had ever (at the time) walked out of the theater on halfway through the movie.  What a cheeseball!

I have to love any woman who thinks that SIS is boring (and I haven't met many).  There are lots of good romantic movies out there (I can think of at least ten in my personal video collection), but SIS is not one of them.  It is cliched shmaltz, and the leads are about as appealing and unique as dinner at Hometown Buffet. However, I am sure most would disagree with me.

By the way, I have definitely been in that scenario.  Both myself and the woman were staying in the relationship just for the sex.  We truly disliked each other, to the point where we would do thing to hurt each other, but wouldn't leave because of the sex.  Sexual intensity eases up eventually in ANY relationship...however, if you have a good partner, that can last forever.  Sacrificing a little sexual intensity for peace of mind is a compromise worth making...but only a little.  

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Amen!! When I was in college, I once had a girlfriend who was a real sexual animal. However, our "relationship" wasn't so hot, so we landed up becoming "boinkin'-buddies." Every now and then, she would grace my doorstep looking for only one thing, PRIMORDIAL SEX!! I still remember one late night when she showed up in a trench coat with absolutely nothing underneth!

I am still looking for the same nowadays.

"Life is very ironic. I have stayed with my wife over all these years for both the sex and companionship. Now that the sex is ebbing all that mostly remains is her companionship."

I see providers who tend to give me the companionship I crave.  The fact that they're gorgeous and we have great sex is just the icing on the cake.


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