So I don't have rimming on my menu. I was asked, 'Can you go any lower?' While licking the nut sack. I plainly said, 'You didn't look at TER? That's not on the menu.' 'Whats that?'

We don't take the TER profile literally.  Having spent so much time in the hobby, its not uncommon to experience things that were NOT on the TER profile. At the same time, its also not uncommon to wonder what happened to such and such thing, which was supposed to be on the menu.  

He may not be VIP, in which case he won't see the menu.  So probably safe to assume that either guys haven't read the menu or are going to push even though they have.  I think your response of "sorry, that's not on the menu" is perfectly acceptable.  I think most guys understand that not everything is on the menu. I might be disappointed but I'll respect it.

TER is a guide not the bible.
I have experiences where activities on the menu weren't - she just said I don't do that which was disappointing but part of the game.
I have had experiences where activities  on the men were No and Don't Know and surprisingly were; some for an up charge sometimes not.  
If you do not ask you do not know.  Respect the provider and YMMV.

Not only should he have consulted the reviews I think it only fair that a lady's prerogative is to change her menu at any time and/or to withhold a particular specialty in a session as long as she's up front about it.

You didn't say Curly?lol.

This post was crazy frenetic. Not judging.  

He is definitely not sharing whatever he is on [e]

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Why even bring up "TER" or "menu"?

Most guys aren't stupid, if they ask and we flat out don't do it, he'll probably get the hint. Just make whatever else you have decided to do just as fun. In fact, words very rarely have to come out of your mouth, honestly. Get good at the fake chow, and you'll never have to worry about it again

I'm not going to hand him a laminated card with what's allowed and what's not.  
Besides P411 has/used to have a check box of things you do or don't

I expect the basics but extras, sorry...  he has no right to expect rimming.  Lucky to get what he did.  I would not ask or offer unless we'd spent serious time in a bubble bath together immediately prior...  and maybe not then!

I haven't beenin the mood to post much lately but I'm glad to see you are still slinging "logic" and "common sense" whenever possible

and "Just Say No". TER or otherwise.

I know very few ladies who have a set "menu". I'm comfortable/uncomfortable with certain things as a rule...certain other things (submission, role-play) are grey areas and depend upon client/context/amt of vodka, lol.

But now I have wised up, that was DRUGS...Not ass eating...

Yeah... but clearly for some, ass-eating is an addiction!

Would that be like "I can do that for another hundred"?

Now that I think of it, I think my care to be perfect had flown out the window as I had already been cut down three times in the appointment. I could already tell he wasn't pleased with what he saw… at least that's how I felt… I was just trying to get through the appointment, honestly.