There are those that hobby be cause they want the variety of partners in their everyday life. Then there are those that hobby because there is NO sex in their everyday marriage.

Although hobbying because you seek the variety in your life is certainly acceptable,  to complain out loud because your wife is still willing to fuck you is inconceivable and disgusting in my eyes.

Someday I hope you know how it feels to hobby for the latter.

I do it on occasion myself. Another thing I will do is bang the wife two days before a session and that usually satisfies her. I like to have at least one or two days without sex before seeing a provider, especially if I know that a facial is going to happen

"Crimes against nature".  Come on fellows, the dude is coming to us with a problem that many of us could have faced at some time.

Firstly, you have to fuck the wife.  

Now the question is how do you handle the date the next day:

Two options:  Cancel or go through with it.

If you cancel, a new problem is pissing off a good provider whom you might want to keep on the good side of, so I'd say go through with it and make the best of it you can.

Guys:  Some people don't function as well as others, and two days in a row can be tough to do.  I'm 59 and make a point to stay in tip-top shape, so I've been able to handle this, but it's a good reason for everyone to stay in shape.

To close, I once had the opposite situation when I was married.  Despite the fact that the ex hardly ever responded to me sexually, on occasion she would want sex the night after I saw a provider.  Forntunately I was still young enough to pull this off, but it always struck me that her womanly intuition was behind the timing; and I bet there's something to this in Squeezy's case as well.

Cant you just rub some Mandelay on the peter and not bust with the wife? Tell your just worn out. Feed the full load to the provider.

Is it the protein?

In any case, this tread reveals something that should be noted by the gals:

Sex is hard work!

Sure we enjoy it, but the next you lie back and enjoy all your multiple orgasms, remember who is buring up tons of energy to make them happen.

We don't even ask for much in return except a big smile and a kiss to say "Job well done."

Ok, no "might" about it, but for ANY married guy to get judgemental about someone else cheating on his spouse is the height of hypocrisy IMO.

I am happily divorced, no SO, and I am not cheating on anyone when I fuck a stranger. Does that give me the right to look down on you married guys that are cheating on your wives? Of course not, and Romeo, you don't have the right to look down on other married guys who are cheating for "their own" reasons, just because your reason for cheating is "more valid" in your opinion than someone else. Or do you tell your wife that you fuck prostitutes?

Truth is, unless and until you know all the details of someone else's home sex life, you don't have the right to judge them, especially if you are a cheater yourself. No sex at home, wife not interested, whatever the fucking reason, unless you are doing it with your wife's blessing, like Scoed for example, you are still a cheater and have no right to call out anyone else for cheating.

I can't believe I just White Knighted Squeezy fucking labeef. Damn, I must need to get drunk. lol

If no one else has noticed, for a bunch of cheaters, and whore dogs, TER sure seems to be populated by a rather narrow minded, judgemental bunch of people. Just how can you ask for tolerance from society at large when you are so unwilling to give it to your fellow mongers?

Ok rant over.

serenading and singing on his knees.
I hobby for my own pleasure and whether or not I am getting it at home has no relevance.

or not book with you at all. Yep too busy fucking the wife to pay you. She won, you lost.

But everything to do with how one feels about ones own personal married relationship. A relationship that under your own admission you do not have.

Do I cheat, yes I do.  Are there different reasons for cheating, yes there are. Some bad reasons and some worse.

It's no secret that you and I don't see eye to eye on most topics and not surprised that you piped in on this one.

Sometimes contributing to a ridiculous thread post by way of a rant is simply that, to vent ones own feelings.  We both had the right dispite the disagreement of each others reasoning but we both did our share anyway.

Hope you are feeling better for it.  I certainly do.

Whether it's "My cheating is more acceptable than yours" or "My fetish is less sick than yours", or what have you. There is still this hypocritical, narrow minded, element here that seem to be the rule, not the exception.

Just like the Puritans who fled religious persecution, just to become persecutors themselves. There is a huge factor on TER that seems to think that they are somehow superior to their hobbying bretheren because they have some kind of special dispensation to cheat because of whatever hand life has dealt them, and that those who cheat for other reasonS are the "true cheaters" and are thus beneath contempt.

With the exception of the single, unattached guys, and the ones hobbying with their wife's knowledge and permission, everyone else here is cheating. To claim that one reason for cheating is valid (my wife won't put out) and the others are not is complete BULLSHIT.

and yes Squeezy posts some really dumbass shit ALL the time, just not this time. lol



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Is one really better than the other?

and just because I am not presently married doesn't mean I don't have perspective on the subject. I was married, didn't like it and am now happily divorced. I never cheated on my wife EVER, but I don't claim to have some sort of moral high ground to condemn those that do cheat on their spouses. It's their (your) personal choice to make and I don't claim to have the right to make those choices for you. I would only ask that you give the same consideration to others.

Judge not lest you be.....Oh fuck it, you get the point. lol

You know, kind of pay him back. Of course, if blomeo posts tomorrow we can fix him too.

What to do?  Sure I want to sex the wife, to avoid suspicion if nothing else, but I also want to have maximum fuckability working for me the next morning.  At the very least to get my money's worth.  What do I do?  Tell her I have a headache?

Why not Cialis before the session ?

it sounds like your living life like an accountant or Ebenezer Scrooge: squeeze every last little bit of profit / juice out of every situation. if it works for you, great. i've observed that it often doesn't work as well as the folks who practice it think.

i'd relax and try to make the best of each encounter as it presents itself. when i was "dating" in between SOs i'd sometimes find myself in a similar position. i'd line up a date with someone new and interesting and find myself getting a booty call from a different lady just a bit before.

i always said: "sure... be right over." i was often surprised how well the subsequent date went.

never turn down acceptably desirable sex. it's unnatural, unwholesome and a crime against Nature.

Hope you're not around the Boston area.

that your wife wanted to have sex on a particular night?  Do you have "scheduled" sex with your wife?
Sounds odd, but I agree with Claudius - fuck em both and have fun.  If you don't cum with the provider, who gives a fuck - it will still be fun.

Reminds me of the old joke:  A young bull and an old bull come over the top of a hill and see a bunch of cows down in the valley - the young bull says to the old bull - hey lets run down there and fuck us one of them cows - the old bulls say - lets just walk down there and fuck em all.

You can't fuck 2 days in a row ?  Or blow a load 2 days in a row?  Why do you ask dumbass questions all the time?

A few years ago I would do the wife, exercise and then see a provider later on the in the day. Now I will only make an advance appointment if I can stay away from home for a real or fake business trip. You might have to down grade and see providers who let you book 1 hour to 2 hours before an appointment. Only book if you did not have sex with the wife the night before. If you can do that, just book a 1 hour appointment and go for 1 pop. If you can make up an excuse like the others said (being to tired, etc), you can enjoy yourself more with a longer appointment or 2 pops in 1 hour if the provider is really hot.

Make sure you get plenty recover between having fun with the wife and the provider. I remember a few years ago I did not do that and could not cum the 2nd round.

if that means you don't cum with the provider, so what?  Your fun with the provider will only last an hour or two.  Your wife will be your wife for much longer than that.  She wins.

I have been in the same situation, having sex the afterwords with the wife. I barely made it home. Get home at 1:00 am in the morning then at 3:00 am the wife wants to have sex. I fuck and fuck and fuck. Then she asks "why did it take you so long to cum". I tell her I can't get enough as a excuse, but in reality it took a long time  because I was spent sexually from seeing the provider before.

Another time with my crazy self I drove to another state (left early in the afternoon) and fucked a provider for 2 hours. Drove back home. The wife wants to give a snife test. I refuse, got to to gym. Get home and fucked the wife. The next day I was way too tired.

Another time I had a 2 hour session with a provider near the airport before the flight took off (I made an excuse that I had an early flight). Go away for a week, fuck a provider 2 different times during the week. The last night was the night before coming home. I get back home and make an excuse the flight has been delayed (it was delayed but I stretched it out). Saw another provider for a 2 hour appointment. Got 4 hours of sleep. Made sure I got a steak before going home. Sure enough as soon as I got home the wife wants to have sex. I was glad that I had the the steak and plenty of water before going home. I had a good cum and asked "Why did you cum so much". I told her I had been away from her so long. It was the steak that got me super charged before going home. It also helped that while I was away I got my cardo and weight training at high altitudes (6500 feet above sea level), lol.

First of all, thanks for the comments that were good and supportive.

A little background:

This scenario hasn't happened yet.  But I keep thinking one of these days it will.  I'm not solely in the hobby for variety.  Sex with my wife occurs on the frequency of once every 6 weeks - not enough for me - that's why I'm here.  Yes I do like to maximize my pleasure especially with a provider who has a much more expanded menu than the wife.  And I'm one of those guys who has a pretty good volume of cum and if I do a COF or COB I like to see it all on the lady.  Also I like to get 2 shots with the lady - hitting it with the wife the night before might get me 1 shot the next day.  Me personally, I would consider a date with a provider to be a failure if I can't get even one shot out.  There's always a small chance of chafing with the wife which could ruin the ability for me to get pleasure with the date.  Breaking it down to dollars and cents, the usual cost is near $500 and I want to make the most of it.  

Sure pleasing the wife is most important in the great scheme of things.  But then again, she'll cancel on 'promised sex' with me in a heartbeat.  I agree there should be a couple of days in between sex romps with anyone - I like 3 or more days.  I'm in my 40's, not 20 yo.

And Mr. Dunce Cap, flame me all you want.  It doesn't get to me as much as it used to.  But nonetheless, your vitriol behind an alias is pure cowardice and I think deserves a response.  I would recommend, guessing by the intelligence exhibited in your writing, that you should concentrate more on your job shoveling elephant shit at the circus.  It may be your only reasonable employment option.  

And please don't cut this one my moderator friends.  I avoided unnecessary 4 letter insults.  You should understand that responses with a hint of anger should be allowed to malicious insulting posts.

I already use it.

invite the provider over and  have a threesome

best of both worlds, and let us know how it turned out

Yes protein helps. Sometimes I don't have the time to get a steak. I will woof tuna a small pack of tuna one hour before the appointment. Does wonders for getting 2 pops in 1 hour. Pineapple juice/pineapple helps for the energy levels.

and then seeing a SO / GF, in that order, results in the risk of spreading STD.

If the girl is sensitive, she can get yeast / uti / or some strange bacterial infection.... kinda cornering you into having some explaining to do. lol

Way better than mine.  I thought mine up in about two seconds because back when I joined TER, the boards were more about info exchange, and not all this other crap we see today.

The pre-internet guys like me were mostly here to share info in a way never before possible.  G2 was the department designation for military intelligence, so it seemed to fit the info exchange concept.  Now, few people here would understand "G2".

The body does give off a sex scent...  not just the other woman.  I have gotten home and wifee comes up wanting/demanding a kiss.  After being on the road I gotta hit the head first...  run...  quick wash up before coming out.  (Unfortunately, sex was not on the plate, though performance might have been tough, just an hour after...     It's easier if wifee wants it after because there have been rare occasions when I was not able to complete with the limited offering wifee offers, so would not have been a surprise.  Since I too have to use a small bit of Viagra, it's by appointment & frankly, wifee has been avoiding sex for several months now.  

In all honesty, if wifee cared to perform with any sort of reasonable frequency, I'd retire from the hobby.  

Lots of folks get run down around Christmas...  too tired or a tension headache.  Give it a try...  just don't make a habit of it.

performing when I'm home after playing on a trip.....

Yes I do post some dumb ass shit at times meant for humor.

I do post serious stuff at other times.  This is one of those.  So thanks again for the support.  I'll deal with your little flames O great one.

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My very first time I saw a provider I picked her cold virus but it did not show any symptoms(I did not daty or kiss), I went home and gave it to the wife. I felt pretty guilty afterwords.

Later on my doctor told me that washing out the mouth with water is the best way to get rid of those types of bugs, lol. He recommended to do asap after doing daty. He got a laugh and told me it is amazing how strong our immune systems can be sometimes to fight off infections. I do take a nice long shower before leaving the incall. If times runs out I head to the gym workout and then take a long nice hot shower. Sometimes I have to buy some new underwear to avoid bring home underwear with cum stains in it.

Of course down stairs I always put the condom on.

Multiple sessions with the same woman are more difficult to achieve than when switching partners.

A human male has a hard-wired psychological limit on the number of times he can become aroused by a given female within a day. However, when presented with another attractive female, he can exceed that limit. This is called the Rooster Effect.

What I am saying is that the mere fact of a change of sex partner will likely be sufficient. Nothing further is required. All I'd suggest is showering thoroughly between partners because some ladies don't wanna taste your wife's juices on your penis.

In my opinion, and it is JUST my opinion and worth exactly what you paid (and such opinions represent my own moral biases which you may not share), I agree with NatashaLynn: if priority must be given, give your wife priority. If you are blessed with a wife who actually wants sex with you and she wants sex, she must be prioritized over any other. I have never had to face such an issue myself, but in theory what you should really do is cancel the appointment with the provider so you don't feel the need to hold back on your wife.

Squeezy is dumber than a baked potato.

Surprise your wife by giving her the best DATY session she has ever had....and if thats not enough, when you fuck her after (if you cant come twice in two days), just fuck her and fake it!

She's prob faked it with you before

The answer is simple....pound away...Enjoy both encounters as if they were the most exciting sexual experiences of your life !!

This ain't stamp collecting

Our biologic equipment can only handle so much in a given time period.  My provider dates start at 5:30 am.  So if I hit it with my wife at 11 pm the night before, there isn't all that much recovery time.  Also almost no way to cancel without NCNS or calling a few minutes before.  Also, sometimes I've already bought the hotel room.  As I said before, I expect a lot out of these dates and I want to hit it with my A game.

So maybe I am Ebenezer Scrooge, but like I said, the wife will drop having sex all the time for little to no reason.  Why can't I do the same to maximize on the provider now?  Maybe I'll hit it with the wife 3 days later and everything's hunky-dory.  It's all about strategy.

All his posts come from squeezing it out of his ass...  lol

I dont know about you but I can't fake it.  Don't forget, women have all kinds of proof.  They can feel the muscles around your urethra pumping when you O.  They can tell whether you dropped a load inside based on what's supposed to drip out afterward (bbfs with the wife).  

There's no daty with the wife, no lingerie, rare bj's, no CIM, no COF, rare COB, no Greek, mainly mish (rare other positions), no hot tubs, etc.  I like to save the best for the providers and at a different time, the best for the wife.  I'd rather not give and get a half-ass experience with one, especially, sadly to say, if that one is the provider.

I'm assuming that comment was for levity.  You have to admit some of them are good.  Well, I felt the love in the past from others anyway.

Thanks again GaG.  You're my WK in shining armor.  Seriously though, thanks my man.  Nice to see some gents here use their brains.  Take a hint Dunce_Crap.  Oops, Freudian slip.

Are they as lame as your alias?  BADmofo - wow.  That's a keeper.

Oh wait, you're not serious right?

for me, It usually the other way around- I've seen a provider and that night wife wants sex!  not comming for your wife, now THAT gets her suspicious!

Keep 'em coming meat heads.  I got all day.

Have sex with your wife.  Enjoy.  See the provider.  Pay the donation.  Either tell her the truth or say you are not feeling well.  If she's good, you will have a Very good time, if maybe not exactly what you had in mind.  

Viagra might also help.

Relax.  It's not a contest.  You don' t have to perform.

Or did that handle come out of your ass too... just like the rest of your posts? lol

And btw, I'm just fuckin with ya unless you were too slow to realize it.

change your reviews and posts to the NEW handle.  You won't have to do a thing!

I like your handle...it's different and tends to stand out

And nobody else in the country has Italian Beef like we have in Chicago!

That's right! Although the Philadelphia people may argue that point.

Moral police on a fuck board.

Can't go two days in a row? Might need to see a Dr.

When digging for ridiculously stupid shit to complain about.

You want to sex the wife, to avoid suspicion if nothing else, but also want to have maximum fuckability working for you the next morning?

Your wife is one lucky gal.

But since you can’t figure out what to do.... in the event you are actually confronted with this hypothetical potential disaster in the future, here is my suggestion:

Tell your wife that you’re the reason she has a headache. Then, cancel with the provider and jack-off in the shower. And with the money you just saved, hire a consultant to install child-proof security software on your computer so that, no matter how strong the urge is, you won’t be able to post another one of these moronic questions publicly.

Oh...I forgot the smiley face...

and pull poor squeezy from the wreckage.  Poor guy just had no idea how many nasty-assed fuckers were waiting in the weeds.  Personally, I think he's kinda funny, and several cuts above McDonald.

that's one funny fucking post!  LMAO!

3 good quality shots in 6 hours - not really sure I can do it.  Maybe, but I'd rather aim for 2 good ones in my provider hour and the 3rd (and maybe 4th?) with the Mrs. 3 days later.

I realize everyone loves this but I can't help thinking your humor is stupid.  I'll keep posting wonderful threads to torture you with, sunshine.  

I'd also love to see you flame with such gusto from your real handle, not an alias.  But I don't think you have the guts funny guy.

Just for starters, that's not an alias...

bullseye!

yeah...some day I might grow a pair and come out from behind my alias.

But, what if I did and you realized you just got beat-up by a girl........lol....

Inbetween seeing a hooker and your SO? That any cooties just magically disappear if she had any? Or you, for that matter, that she might spread to her SO?

I'd be interested in hearing the logistics of this, biologically speaking.

I mean, if certain viruses had a 'shelf life', I could certainly wait until I was sure I wasn't the infectee or infector.

Squeezy don't you think the hole you have dug for yourself is deep enough already? I think it's time to drop the shovel now. Stop fucking digging your hole deeper and just STFU already.

just a thought. lol

but then when you created your account, I wasn't even born back then...  lmfao

Its your wife... She should take priority!!! Reschedule your damn appointment! If my wife was still into me I'd forgo the Hobby all together!

Just sayin!!!

Fog

How is that proving your point?

Sure.  I'll take my chances.  Maybe you are a girl.  Care to divulge?  You can PM me.

Never mind my crankiness.  I still have my anger management issues when I get flamed in a way I consider particularly insulting.

I'm beginning to think y'all are right.

As I said above I hobby because sex with the wife is rare and relatively uninteresting.  But the one thing she does afford is no guilt which is turning out to be a HUGE deal and is really fucking with my big head which in turn affects the little head and not in a good way.  I've now had 2 provider dates in a row where I couldn't get hard enough for intercourse.  When I'm with my wife (rare and uninteresting as it is) I'm rock hard.  Sounds like it's time to take a break from this.

Done.  After the post below.