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Schneeky 9 Reviews 330 reads
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..She's in the know. And all is good.. Matter of fact we're meeting with my ATF tomorrow for a little shopping and mebbe some "fun". It's all a little complicated but it works. A year or so ago we came to the conclusion that we were very much in love, with a strong relationship, but "sexually incompatible". So we decided to start swinging. Which has worked out OK. It's just really hard to find civvie women who can deal with it. The few gals that did come over were treated like family. But eventually they wonder off or wanna move in and take over it seems. That ain't happenin. Friggin guys are a dime a dozen but flaky as hell and fulla crap mostly. But we've met a coupla really nice fellas that have ended up being great friends.

Got up with my current ATF a while back. Her and the SO met and hit it off real well. And it's all been good since. The SO and I have our fun. The SO has a beau or two that come around. I have my ATF and the occasional "new girl".. Seems I always end up happier with my gals, tho'.. Fun as the newbie's may be.

It's all in how you approach the subject and timing. Being honest helps. As long as you use tact. Having a good rapport and very strong relationship with yer spouse is key. We never argue over anything and do not hide anything from each other. Still, not recommended for the feint of heart, tho'. That's a really big matza ball hangin out there if it doesn't "go well". Be sure to wear yer big boy undies.

..My bestest friend, who's in the used car biz, says I'm "Salesman of the Year" whether I sell another thing this year or not.. He still doesn't "get it". But I think that's funny anyways.... Schneeks.. d:^)

NuckyT1622 reads

Anyone talk about their hobbying with their SO? Perhaps it is a tacit compliance, an unspoken understanding. Anyone's SO know they hobby? Curious how that conversation goes.

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HillaryLynk507 reads

I think its something that could be held against you like in a fight or argument.also i dont think too many guys can truely be ok with there chic seeing other guys for money.I think jelously would definetley be an issue as well.I am curouis how other providers deal with it though??great post enzo214

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inicky46480 reads

I was never comfortable with the idea of deceiving her.  But when our marriage became very troubled -- and sexless -- I told her I cared enough about her to work on it but only if we had an open marriage (originally her idea).  She agreed.  But later, partly because of some slip-ups I made, she became very uncomfortable with it.  Now it doesn't matter because we've decided to get divorced.  I don't judge those who don't tell, it's just not me.

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GaGamblerssmarterbrother348 reads

So there is no "hobbying closet" for me.

I am too lazy to lie, and just plain don't care what others think about where I stick my dick.

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inicky46339 reads

I am just lousy at it.  It's better to tell the truth than have to explain a bad lie.  At least for me.

-- Modified on 7/29/2011 7:08:25 PM

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OSP429 reads

It was a miserable experience. My S/O thought she had made a great choice but the LIES I discovered made me resistent to any other efforts. My S/O wasn't able to fulfill her wifely(her words not mine so STFU)responsibilities at the time. SHE GOT BETTER lol

She was my steady(do they use that word lol)for a while before......well you know. She knew I was engaged, romantically, with others.

SHE was the one who wanted to know the WHO'S and WHEN'S! So I told her so she could research them.  


THE END

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Sexy Carolina349 reads

Not to an SO or to family, including my children.
I can only imagine, lie upon lie, upon lie.
So I haven't lied. And right now I don't have an SO.
Life is good. :)

Posted By: enzo214
Anyone talk about their hobbying with their SO? Perhaps it is a tacit compliance, an unspoken understanding. Anyone's SO know they hobby? Curious how that conversation goes.

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mrfisher431 reads

and then caught me a second time.  I figured that was the end of the marriage but she instead decided to let me continue to hobby (We actually did a few three-somes.)  and she took that as a license to start dating which she did (With married men exclusively.)  However, after a few years she decided she didn't want to stick around anymore and served me with papers.

It was hell and very costly, but I'm much happier today the way things are.

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Schneeky331 reads

..She's in the know. And all is good.. Matter of fact we're meeting with my ATF tomorrow for a little shopping and mebbe some "fun". It's all a little complicated but it works. A year or so ago we came to the conclusion that we were very much in love, with a strong relationship, but "sexually incompatible". So we decided to start swinging. Which has worked out OK. It's just really hard to find civvie women who can deal with it. The few gals that did come over were treated like family. But eventually they wonder off or wanna move in and take over it seems. That ain't happenin. Friggin guys are a dime a dozen but flaky as hell and fulla crap mostly. But we've met a coupla really nice fellas that have ended up being great friends.

Got up with my current ATF a while back. Her and the SO met and hit it off real well. And it's all been good since. The SO and I have our fun. The SO has a beau or two that come around. I have my ATF and the occasional "new girl".. Seems I always end up happier with my gals, tho'.. Fun as the newbie's may be.

It's all in how you approach the subject and timing. Being honest helps. As long as you use tact. Having a good rapport and very strong relationship with yer spouse is key. We never argue over anything and do not hide anything from each other. Still, not recommended for the feint of heart, tho'. That's a really big matza ball hangin out there if it doesn't "go well". Be sure to wear yer big boy undies.

..My bestest friend, who's in the used car biz, says I'm "Salesman of the Year" whether I sell another thing this year or not.. He still doesn't "get it". But I think that's funny anyways.... Schneeks.. d:^)

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inicky46258 reads

But I hope you realize how unusual a relationship like yours is.  You are both damn lucky.  Honesty is the key.  If you are sexually incompatible but don't speak about it, anger results.  Kept iniside, it corrodes everything.

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Schneeky255 reads

I know it's extreeeemely unusual and I'm wayyy appreciative. Funny thing is, I'm one of those souls with a very "checkered past" and experience with plenty of "wild" women. And this little church-flower I ended up marrying the 3rd go'round has been the most fun, easy-going, open-minded and SANE gal I've ever known. Whodathunkit.?
We coasted for 10 years but somethin had to change 'cause I was goin batshit from "wild-hairs". Kindof one of those let's-turn-up-the-juice-and-see-what-shakes-loose moments. Turned out good and away we go...  
She's lookin for me a "Premium Grade" provider for my 48th b-day this year. Can't wait.!! Tryin to schneek her in something "extra studly", too. But all the male providers around here look like friggin thugs.. And she ain't into that at all..  d:^)  Schneeks..

Posted By: inicky46
But I hope you realize how unusual a relationship like yours is.  You are both damn lucky.  Honesty is the key.  If you are sexually incompatible but don't speak about it, anger results.  Kept iniside, it corrodes everything.

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inicky46218 reads

The idea of going for a third appalls me!

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Schneeky241 reads

Posted By: inicky46
The idea of going for a third appalls me!
But get it right and ya have a permanent "partner in crime". Lots of possibilities.  d:^)  Schneeks..

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Krista.Pleasures417 reads

My bf is aware that I am a provider and he is knows 100% what that entails.
He loves me for me and not what I do.

But I have had other relationships where if they found out I was a provider they would have broken up with me.


xoxoxo,
Your Rockstar Barbie Doll
Krista Starr

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scoed353 reads

I posted about my introduction to the hobby when it first happened. I have been very open with my story on how I got here. Here is how my wife gotten me to start hobbying:

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=20&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&SearchType=1&Author=scoed&DayFrom=3000&DayTo=0&MessageID=15949&frmSearch=1#15949

The rules have changed sightly after I learned about her little hobby. I learned much more about how often my wife escorted sense that thread. Things where rough at first, just search for my first alias AnEscortsHusband posts over the last year and a half for details. I will spare everyone else.

I just want to say I am glad I stayed the course. I love my wife and are open marriage while hard at times is working. I love more then ever.

Related Link: My intro into the hobby

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