This topic is about manual clit manipulation and stimulation (No oral). For the longest time I was so lost when it came to isolating and stimulating a woman's pleasure center. First, I would isolate it and within seconds, well before I could work it,  it would go back into hiding. Once I got past that, came a wide range of techniques that worked for some while killed the mood for others.  

Is definitely an issue, I'm hooded and when I masturbate I wet my fingers and pull the hood back but I know when I'm becoming too sensitive.  

I have found that when a woman "gets close" I don't really need or want to do much of anything at all where it comes to pressure.

As you said, you have been playing with your body for a LOT longer than I have, I usually just keep the same speed and let the lady push against me as hard or as soft as SHE likes. I also tend to use my lower lip instead of my tongue at times as it's much easier for the woman to push against my lip than my tongue.

The only thing I know for certain when DATY is that every woman is a bit different from the others and trying to do things the same way with every woman is a strategy doomed to failure.

Don't like a guy going for the gusto in minute 1. I like/need  a certain level of arousal BEFORE being touched and I will let my partner know when that is.  

And for some reason that is the hardest thing to get guys to understand about me. Do it and you can guarantee I'm not going to orgasm. Do it more and I'll dislocate your shoulder with my heel.

Steph xoxo

I didn't even read the OP, just the headline.

I guess I just figured it was just another troll post, but the OP is not one of our usual trolls, so my bad.

Tick-tock.  

so if you were moved, I am sure it was only a bowel movement. lol

I really shouldn't hold your fathers sins against you, but it's so much fun, I can't help myself. lol

You became so honest just there... I am moved

I know girls like you
I'm like you in that way.. I call it ticklish.
Once people like us get warmed up?
Watch out!

We aren't all wired the same down there and my little joy button needs some pressure not attacking it directly. And I was the same at 19- 20.

My first orgasm ever was an accident. A BF was giving me a back rub sitting on my ass. we were fully clothed BTW. The pressure I felt was delightful. When he kept shifting his weight around it got even better. The next thing I knew I was having spasms, my toes curled and I couldn't breathe. I was having contractions so hard I had to put my hand between my legs. I was 19.

My joy button so extremely sensitive so indirect pressure works fine. I learned how to work a guys face into just the right spot if he's going down on me and it works out just fine. It means I'm highly orgasmic once someone 'gets it' and mine are strong, very strong!

I've notice not all guys like the head of their cocks rubbed or sucked right after they orgasm because they are so sensitive. Same kinda feeling I'm guessing.

So it ain't an age thang bucko!

BTW how was Cali?

Steph

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When I came too quick for her liking with one of my favorite GF's, she would ask me to keep rubbing my softness on her almost there clit, no too fast not too slow, continue the same motion for the glow .  
  She had better O's than any GF's I pounded .  

Spank material? Have you read the reviews?  Last i checked they were loaded with spank material. Oh, silly me... Some of us  contribute reviews so we have amassed plenty of spankmaterial. Where are yours?  

but it's not just right after O, but right before and during.  I am always redirecting ladies' hands and mouths away.  I'm just super-sensitive, and I know it's far more than most guys, because I always get the surprised look from ladies as I move their hands down or instruct "more on the shaft."

Please don't attack it lol! It's very sensitive. It likes it soft. I hate when guys try to like isolate it. It hurts! I don't even like it right on the clit. I need it on the hood actually.  
It's weird cuz I love to be fucked hard. But it'just different when it cums to the clit. Lol

Regular soap is already really harsh and the clit has incredibly sensitive skin. Rubbing soap in it might be uncomfortable or even painful to her. She might even be in pain the next day

actually it was soapy circular massage but around it, not directly.

It's not just the clit, all the tissues are very delicate. Soap is irritating. Why do you want to rub soap on pussies so badly? When women masterbate in the shower they usually use water, not soap. *hint* *hint*

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I am not a fan of a guy yanking my lips apart as if he is searching for something. And as far as I am concerned. please do not push the hood up.  

Who knows what goes on "down there" with all you estrogen types. Smell of fish, fighting the forest & bush, blood every 28 days (well not for you any more. THOSE days are long over. lol), numerous dried sperm from all your johns, etc. Crazy shit for sure. Thank God I am a man. A REAL man too.  

I am also in the camp of NO direct stimulation.  I like indirect stimulation and will never get off from direct stimulation.  I am just too sensitive.  I love circles AROUND my clit, fast and light pressure with good lubrication (spit or lube).  No flicking over the clit either!  Just around it in circles.  Gets me off so delightfully like clockwork!  Direct stimulation actually HURTS me.  As in, it's painful.  Not a good way to turn me on!

with those hot young thangs! with ALL of that going on!



Steph

PS f-you for that period comment!

I actually don't give a fk if hookers cum so there is no need to ask the broad what she likes. I pay for what I LIKE and to tell HER what pleases ME.

Oh how I LOVE a man that greets me, then excuses himself to the restroom to wash his hands first!  If you want to be exploring delicate, sensitive lady-parts, clean hands are important.  Some ladies are resistant or avoid this type of play because of post-manual stim fallout (UTI's or BV) because of unclean fingers.  Washing hands is a great way to show you care about her comfort and hygiene, which will always get you further...

Clit stimulation and FIV are some of my favorite things to do BUT only if the lady enjoys it! Be sure to ask and get specifics (clit only, FIV, gentle or more forceful, etc.). I spent some time w/ a very nice young lady while on a biz trip to LA and she really gets into it and was surprised that not all ladies do. As always YMMV so be sure to ASK!

And IMO Jack wants the gals to feel good because when we feel great when we are with a man, we 'perform' better!

Correct?

Steph

you'd probably blast her. And some people do care if a restaurant enjoys them. Some pick restaurants that do just that, pick places that enjoy serving them, it's a win win and how the establishment gets regular customers.

Just saying...

on the benefits that come from mutual pleasure.  There are some things money can NEVER buy...

we do not know how to do it, it is because all kinds of women have permitted us to fumble around.   I don't mind being told what to do, actually I like it, nobody likes to make an asshole out of himself and I would prefer if my partners at least have a shot at having a good time.

So we can discuss these things. Like I said in my opening post, that clit stimulation may be the most complex aspect of sex. I am trying to learn but this is a very tuff subject.

normally in good shape but I always make sure that I have a manicure a day or two before a session.   I figure that if I am going to fumble around,  like most men per H+T's reply, at least I will do it with good hands

Mutual pleasure is not something I pay for. When you go to a restaurant, do you concern yourself with how much the place enjoys YOU?

The soap circles was a one time thing and I only did it following the girl's instruction. I have done similar things with lube, saliva and even nuru gel with mixed results. This is a work in progress. As I am sure you can tell that it is great fun for me but I want it to be just as enjoyable for the girl. The last thing I want to do is to kill the mood.

as I am likely to start seeing members of the OTHFBC. lol

but I guess it does fill up threads.

My point is that there can be a different level of service that happens when you treat someone as a human being in exchanges of personalized service.  You would be hard pressed to convince me that treating someone as a paid servant/worker for the time you are together is getting you the best they have to offer, be it an escort, a nurse, a waitress or any other job that entails personal or intimate care.  A good waitress will do her job no matter how considerate I am of her job or not, but I have many examples of having servers go above and beyond because they enjoyed waiting on a table I was at.  Do I "care" that my waitress enjoys *me*?  No, but I care that she enjoys what she's doing, and do my part in contributing to that, because that will usually reflect on the service I receive.

We allllll know how much of a man you are, we allll know you are in charge of every session and the hooker does it your way, you know, no boundaries and all.  

Very true. In this line though I can tell you that I am not concerned about getting off so I don't care to instruct. I just don't want it to hurt.  So my "instruction" is to lessen the damage than to get off.

I am him but from the hooker perspective. He can come across as a bit of a douche though but in reality I have more in common with him than most of the men here.

If ladies throughout a man's life have faked enjoyment or said sex was great when it was mediocre, why would he know differently?
 
Whether you are a man or a woman, you must give your lover feedback (even if it's just louder moaning) to let them know what you enjoy more and what you enjoy less

Don't you just love it??? lol

Of course the two of you are bursting all those little fantasy bubbles that you hookers create, and these lovelorn "hobbyists" love to live in.

Jack does tend to "say it like it is" the same as you do from the hooker perspective, It's a shame that you two ruin some many carefully crafted fantasylands. lol

+100. Overstimulation or changing the pace when she appears to be getting close to her climax are almost sure-fire ways to completely ensure she will not get there. And personally, once I cum...I do not like to continue to have stimulation down there...it is just too sensitive. Which is something you'd think guys would REALLY get, because I have rarely every come across a gent who wanted continued stimulation once they have come...most become overly sensitive...just like we do  

Posted By: anavictoria

Is definitely an issue, I'm hooded and when I masturbate I wet my fingers and pull the hood back but I know when I'm becoming too sensitive.  
   
 The worst is when you're close and the guy starts jackhammering you because you're getting into it. I was on my way there and now I'm done, no climax just pure frustration. Keep the same tempo unless the lady asks you to go harder. I know my body, I've been playing with it longer than you have!

Aside from the obvious question, "What do you like? Check out an article titled "Owning Pink" in which the following statement
"There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris, dedicated exclusively to female pleasure. The penis only has 4000. Who says God didn't take care of us girls?"