I like ladies who can accept same day appointments since sometimes things come up on appointment day.  What is an acceptable amount to time to cancel before an appointment?  I know there are probably differences in appropriate time depending on whether a lady is traveling through the area or living in the area.  Is 5 hours enough for a lady living in the area?  Is that not enough time?  I was just wondering.  I hate to cancel, and do my best to make it, but sometimes I still need to cancel or revise the appointment.  I like to hear from the women on this also. Thanks!

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Rarely accept a same day appt, so will address appts booked 3 days to 2 weeks in advance.  We women set time aside, an entire evening in my case, with the opportunity cost of being with another client or out at an event with girlfriends for the evening.  So any necessary cancellations are most appreciated as far in advance as possible.  (Fortunately, I rarely have any cancellations.)

Of course, things come up -- changes in business travel/ schedule, a cold, and for us, an untimely monthly thing.  Since this additional burden can happen once in a while on our end, I similarly understand an occasional, absolutely necessary cancellation from a client.

One charming guy I've seen several spectacular times had a changed flight, yet kept his early evening appt with me just to be polite, knowing it would be very rushed and not telling me til the end, knowing I'd be upset (we have such fab times tog!).  So had to rush to help him pack, check out -- was so upset -- and ride partly in a cab with him.  Only had 45 mins together, instead of the planned 4 hrs, for which he paid fully, unbeknownst to me til later...  A great man.... and so many of you out there!!

I have my own policy regarding appointments.

When a client books a morning hour (between 8 and noon) I ask him to confirm his appointment the day (or night) before.

If he books for the afternoon or evening, I need a confirmation before 11am of the same day.

This way, in case he needs to cancel, I can schedule one of the guys I have waiting for an opening.

For "same day" appointments, I start to get calls around 8am.

Sometimes I can accomodate a request, sometimes I can't because I am booked.

If I am booked, I ask if he wants me to call him back in case I have a cancelation, so is important for me to have all my confirmations (or cancelations) before 11am.

I am very honest with my clients. I tell the truth. I do not double book or schedule "back to back".

I understand that shit happens sometimes, but my time is valuable too.

I am very professional, I seldom cancel...so I expect the same from my guys.

Also, if a guy cancels with me at the very last minute, he need to have a very good motive. If he does, I suggest to reschedule for another day.

I don't have a problem with cancelations because I am always busy and I have to turn guys down when I am booked.

But, some girls are not that busy or require multiple hours...they get real pissed when guys cancels because they're losing a big chunk of money  or they don't have anyone else to fill the time slot.

BDG

would you cancel on one of your clients? Business is business no matter who or where. Like you, it costs us time and money if you cancel at the last minute. Just a thought.

Communication is key to good judgment and good business. If you have to cancel, I hope it's a good reason and be honest.

Hugs,
Ciara

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my business clientele start to look like strippers, and perform a mean BBBJTCCIM.

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constantly... but in this hobby, I have had to cancel due to loosing my car keys..., loosing my ATM card, and loosing my way (could not find the place - fortunatly Arizona is on a BIG map!)!  

It does happen, I have also been in the lobby of the incall hotel when the lady cancels... not a biggie.  But the cancellations are infrequent - and not many of them.  soooo, it is just a part of life.

Worst cancellation?  Went to close on a house, with the movers outside the house.  The mortgage guy forgot to show!  we had to move the move-in date 10 days!  Now that was a cancellation - at the time I had a broken leg.  My ex and I were both a bit angry... we can laugh at it now, but at the time, it was not funny!

...You're so right Smelly.  As I've said many times, "Pussy, not money, makes the world go 'round!"

I found out a couple of months ago that back East 27 hours isn't enough time for cancellation of a TENTATIVE appointment--not fixed as to time or place--just basically an expression of interest on both sides.  Go figure.

I've never cancelled or rescheduled any dates. I've blown off many business meetings because of that.

It depends on whether I was going to be able to fulfill whatever the client needed.  I've had a meeting that I had to reschedule for an indefinite time in the future because the guy who had the expertise to do the talking was in the hospital; I had no alternative there.

With a lady... I will explain the situation, and leave it up to her.  I've called a lady and said, "My keys are locked in the car, and I'm waiting for Pop-A-Lock to get here, so I'll be at least 45 minutes late," whereupon she said that she had other commitments, so we rescheduled for the next day.  I've also felt like I was coming down with a bug of some kind, and left it up to the lady about rescheduling; she said she had the constitution of a horse, and wasn't worried about catching anything. (The session turned out to be *fantastic*, too.)

The key is to be in communication with the lady.  Let her know what's going on; if you might or might not be available, be honest, and see if she'll book the appointment anyway. I had a lady "pencil me in" once -- we tentatively booked it, but if she got a firmer offer, she was going to take it and work me in at some other time. Since my schedule was iffy, I was fine with it -- I knew I'd be free the rest of the day *after* we got done with a conference call, but I had no control over whether that would be at 11 or at 2:30. I got finished early, and we had an excellent lunchtime session. I had seen her before, though, and she knew I was serious about booking at some point that day, so she was willing to take a gamble on me.

This is one case where I might be understanding about someone asking for a deposit.

communications.  Indeed, where the lady cancelled on me, she let me know that due to outside committments beyond her control she could not make it... I was very much ok with that... hey - life happens to us all.  

However, in the case of the mortgage broker not showing up - cause he "forgot" well, lets just say there were some business paybacks that were a bit costly to him... like his job!  Had he called, had he even been sorry....  you get the picture.

I agree with your take on this as it recognizes the variables in day-to-day life.

those men who cancel without any notice because of silly reasons or at the last minute when they have booked with someone else. That's just plain rude. There will always be emergencies but remember our lives are important too. Like you said, communication is the key to anything.

Hugs,
Ciara

I've seen a few ladies' ads who have policies something like "If you have to cancel, you owe me a $50 'I'm an asshole' fee before we can ever meet up for a date in the future", and that seems a little... adversarial. I don't schedule a date unless I'm damn sure that I'm going to follow through, but I realize some other guys are less scrupulous about scheduling. Still, I prefer to not get painted with that brush if I haven't done anything to deserve it.

On the other hand, though, I can certainly understand a lady saying that a gent who stood her up would find it difficult to schedule her time in the future -- it's like Charlie Brown and the football, or at least how that would be if Charlie Brown weren't a fucking moron. I've given a lady that flaked on me a second chance and had it work out well before (in fact, it was amazing), but that was because I got a real sense of contrition from her. If there isn't a sense of "I screwed up, it's my fault, let me make amends", I wouldn't blame the wronged party from just being unwilling to ever do business with you again.

What a sweetie you are.  I have had reasonable cancellations and rare no shows.  The worst case was a lady I had seen many fabulous times, and this was booked 2 weeks in advance.  She had my cell phone, as did her assistant to boot.  My drive was two hours, I showed on time, and even though she was dressed and ready she informed me on arrival that it wasn't going to happen 'cause she felt ill.  That's excuseable, but her failure to phone or have her assistant do it caused me a lot of grief and upset.  I expressed it, and she decided not to see me again.  A simple courteous phone call could have prevented it.

I appreciate all the input and absorbing it like a sponge.  Thanks.

As much nitice as you are able to give is appreciated greatly... It is always nice, even if it is 10 minutes beforehand! Things do happen and that is understandable. Notice of cancellation is a courtesy that we do not get at times and THAT will cause some problems for future bookings with the client if it is a pattern.