I tend to put a lot of passion in my forum responses.. Sometimes, I admit, I come off a bit dramatic. It's probably due to the fact that Ive always shown just as much adoration to my lovers whether they've paid or not. For me, the act of sharing your flesh with someone is actually sacred. (I'll Pause for your cynical laughter)  
Whether I meet a guy at a bar and fuck him in the bathroom 10mins later..only to never see him again.. That moment in life, to me...meant something. If I cross paths with this guy, years down the line...There's something in me that will feel some kind of connection to him.  

anything you read on this discussion board personally.  There are many participants, like you and I, who are 100% sincere when they add a post here.

Just remember that not only are you dealing with the general public but you are also going to come across some bozos trying to walk on the dark side and dehumanize you.  
Why? Their insecurity...their bad attitude...their problem.  
Don't allow them to put their bad shit on you.

Richard Gere, WHERE ARE YOU?!?!?! 😂😂😂

Hell No you ladies aren't Meaningless. Most ladies I've met I've become friends with. I consider my ATF special. We have a pretty good thing going beyond our sessions.

Not only " meaningful "
But "powerfully meaningful "

I take care of patients in a special situation where members of my group have a lot of time to care for older patients many of whom are very sick.  We develop close relationships.  I believe what I do is profound (sacred some would say.) I believe sharing moments of intimacy like you do is also profound.  I have had what i feel to be deep feelings for many of the providers I have seen. Some I saw for years, some as briefly as once, but I have been deeply touched.  
I am in my mid 70's and I can't imagine not doing what I am doing professionally.  It is easy to dismiss what i do and what you do in a cynical way, and I can list many other work as profound as well.  
Incidentally, I get called for jury duty and where I live I am automatically excused if I wish because of my age and because of my profession.  I never asked to be excused as I think serving on a jury is also a profound and almost sacred duty and experience.  I get ridiculed for that as well at times. I fell sad for those who are cynical about things like this.

do not have any real meaning. They assume the lives of others do not, failing to realize it is really only within themselves that the cynicism and emptiness resides. When they meet someone who is whole and full of life, their emptiness resonates and this angers or upsets them. They feel compelled to drain the joy and beauty from others.

any limitations that will render our interactions meaningless. What makes this all meaningful to me is the interplay between a man and a woman that range from let me clean my pipes to how thoughtful you can be for and with your temporary lover. I prefer the latter.  

no matter how long the duration.  I mean how many truly perfect moments are there in life.  Not many because assuming sobriety, I bet each and every one of us remember them all.  

Point me to one person who will admit he/she is meaningless. To understand the other person requires a lot of efforts or sympathy or even the color of her blouse/his slacks. Not much things in this life is quite primitive, but plentifulness of view angles, view points sometimes makes it difficult to distinguish. Different backgrounds, education, interests; different books people read and believe in different things. Emotion, passion - that's what drives these relationships. Well, money too, but I won't go into this discussion now, enjoying this peaceful thread. Have everyone great morning. Xo

are those I feel something special with. I know we're not supposed to get emotionally involved with providers, but I do care about the special ones. I think about them often, hope their lives are going well, hope that whatever plans they had when I saw them are working out, and I miss them.

Every time you open the door for me it is a major event for me...sometimes I still can't believe that you make fat old me feel like the most important man in the world...I thank the gods every day for you...

I enjoyed reading this thread and everybody is different in this hobby.
We know it's about the sex and money.
It's nothing wrong with enjoying your work and acting like a real person too.

Those of us who participate are not meaningless. There are different types of players. Since I have a family and a social circle I look at it as a sexual encounter. It is not an emotional encounter for me. I don't see how the hobby could function if emotion beyond sexual was involved.  

..but we are all grown ups (well most of us) and the reality is that it still is a business transaction. Some really seem to lose sight of that. I treat my sessions like I treat my lapdances and stripclub VIPs- I'm deeply in it at the moment, but afterwards it's back to real life.

All the providers I have met have been treated special.    They have given me the same in return.    I always take a small gift and dress nice out of respect for the ladies.     What you give and how you treat people will always come back 10 fold.

If it's not meaningful to someone, then to them, none of this is meaningful. But if it is to you, then it is meaningful. Obviously using discernment and constantly checking in to make sure we're not lying to ourselves or allowing people to break our hearts over and over would be a good idea. lol.

Some of what we do is forgettable.  

On the contrary, providers are absolutely, without any doubt, my favorite people.  

If we hook up, even if it's only one time, you will carry a piece of me, and I will carry a piece of you...forever.  No provider is unimportant or meaningless to me; each one is unique and special in her own way.

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I'm sure I will be pounded by the WKs. This is a business transaction brought about one parties desire to experience something different. Perhaps they lack the skills, or time, to experience what they want in the civvee world. So we have the envelope. Two ships passing in the night who choose to bump uglies for a while.

And I remember the good things about them.

or self worth.

...but I don't know when I'll next be in NYC.

Damn , why haven't I ever met a girl like you in a bar...lol
But on a serious note , ignore the morons .
You are who you are. And that needs no explanation . Nor should it require validation from strangers.

What happens when a client feels too much meaning from visiting with you?

Nobody can make you feel bad about yourself except for you.

It has been my experience, far more than I care to count, the provider has been devoid of emotions. They waltz out the door as if I wasn't even in the room. Picked up the envelope, without even saying thank you or good bye. So, it must be a very rare provider who gives a shit about the time spent with  a gentleman.
Just the facts from my own experiences.

Be nice. Do your best. Treat others like how you want to be treated. If they don't find it meaningful, let them be.  We all know what we are here for and the job can be done with the choice of it carry out beautifully or bitterness and ugliness. Just like anything, no one is forcing us to be here. We might have a situation or whatever the heck that we have to do what we do as how most things in life is but we can either enjoy it while we're going through it or we can have a bitch resting face. ; )I was at Trader's Joe the other day, one of those food stall that make sampling food for you to try. There was a girl and I swear both times I was being very polite asking for couple plastic spoons.....not a word or even a glance up from her. A bitch resting face as if it she had just been to a funeral. For which I was so tempted to ask did your family just all died? And you have to be here working at a job you hate? How much of a difference of someone who's handling the same job whether they like it or not for whatever reason they have to be there but with an appreciation or positive attitude or just a smile would do. Maybe at times you can't say anything nice but a smile would do...

And maybe thats why they hobby....it seems from listening to some of the guys on here, it really is meaningless to them .....I know for me I'm actually surprised at what providing has done for me....I thought maybe it would be a meaningless no connection type of thing but I find that a connection sparks pretty easily and it can become meaningful....don't let it upset you...your simply just passionate and that's a good quality....

was it oldfartmonger?  bs4ever?  the jack dunphy school of i know what everyone should think?  

Even if it means paying for it, when I click with a lover I feel I’m in heaven with her, and that is enough meaning for me even if short lived. Stay strong.

was suffering from severe burnout from working too much. The constant stress and anxiety of working this particular job basically put me in a straight jacket. I would up having an anxiety attack at one time, followed by a few months of severe depression.

enjoy seeing if we were in the same city and not over 1000 miles away.

Now stop whining about that and stop BSU'ing too.  

You're just playing devils advocate. But, even still..I love hearing different opinions because it causes me to look at things from every angle. Non of us have denied or are forgetting that we are entering into a transaction.  

There is no intimacy when someone pays you to be their friend. "Want to" will always trump "paid to."

Sure, I could have gone to a traditional therapist, but I'm more than happy with how things turned out here.

My participation in this hobby completely changed the course of my life. Nothing meaningless about that.  Who can explain why certain people come into our lives. Why I chose this provider over that one. I tend to think there is a bit of destiny involved, and that for reasons I can't explain, I was supposed to meet these women. And every one was unique. Some of the ladies I connected with emotionally, but not sexually. Some sexually, but not emotionally. And yes, some I didn't connect with at all. The best ones I connected with both emotionally and sexually. I can honestly say I love these women, and that these relationships have as much weight and meaning to me as any outside this hobby. I see nothing wrong with a provider and client sharing mutual attraction and affection for one another. Doesn't that just add to the session for both parties? Alyson Parker wrote in an earlier post that human relationships are complex, and I agree with her. They come in a lot of different shapes and sizes. I view this hobby as another means of experiencing relationships in my life, no less valid or meaningful than any other relationship in my life.

But it reads like you’ve already decided to bring it to the table beforehand in a hopeful state of mind, so then it is left up to the other to reciprocate.