I came across a media report on a particular website (seeking arrangements.com) which purports to hooking up sugar babies and sugar daddies.  The thrust of the article I read was talking about the high cost of college/university education and how many co-eds are signing up for sites like this to help finance their college education.  A potential sugar baby puts up a profile and a photo and the potential sugar daddy does the same.  Now, my guess is that there are probably some girls who list themselves expecting they will provide companionship (go out to dinner, hang out in art galleries etc) for some specified compensation and no sex will occur.  Others probably figure (and correctly I might add) that most sugar daddies at some point are going to look to get laid in the sugar relationship.  Maybe not on the first get together, but hey, why is some guy going to lay out cash on a regular basis and not expect some bed time.  I suppose there may be a few who will but I have to figure over 50% of those in these relationships will figure its gonna end up there at some point.  Apparently the financials can be either monthly types of retainers or cash for individual get togethers.  So lets assume for the majority of these situations, sex is expected (by the daddy) and will be given (by the baby).  Does this present an alternative to the typical client-escort relationship?  I think there are probably some interesting pros and cons to this.  On the pro side, the sugar baby may be young, nubile and hot.  She may not be jaded as some escorts become who have been in the business a long time.  She may actually have or come to have some decent feelings for the sugar daddy.  She may be quite personable and interesting to talk to, and a lot of fun.  On the con side, she might freak out at what she is actually doing (the human psyche can be a tricky thing).  She may be relatively inexperienced sexually so the quality of the service may not be as good as a professional.  She might come to be overly attached to the sugar daddy causing other problems for the guy.  She may end up becoming more demanding or what she wants.  So potentially a mixed bag here...in some cases could be an outstanding relationship, in other cases, it could turn into a nightmare.  So for the hobbyists out there, has anyone tried one of these sites and hooked up with one or more college co-ed types?  How did it work out?  Would you do it again or avoid it like the plague?

You answered your own question...some of these things are great and some are total nightmares.  

Know you will have to put some actual WORK into these things, before you get laid (unless the SB is also an escort). Rarely do sugar babies fk you on the first meeting. Some want as much as 10k a month, and others as low as 150 a week. It all depends on the deal that is worked out. I can tell you, it is A LOT different than being with escort clients, and because of that the lines often get blurred, people fall for each other, etc.  

Discretion is another issue...a sugar baby does not owe you shit as far as that goes, and don't think your TER handle is going to mean a damn thing. They KNOW about you, and usually everything, as you do with them, so be sure it's something you want to do. Be prepared from some rejection as well, because unlike many escorts a SB won't fk a guy she is not attracted to for very long. They are looking for both attraction and money.  

Some want to be paid by the week, others by the month and it is always UPFRONT. Each time I have had a SD type thing, it was understood my MONTHLY bills were paid for him to get that discounted benefit. If not, he could continue seeing me at the higher escort rate and pay each time. It's one or the other.

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Actually saw same ad in NYC ...

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Big "selling point" is they claim it is "cheaper" in the long run finding a sugar baby than paying escorts all the time. They say some girls only need a "little help" now and then with some expenses; maybe to make their car payment or their rent, etc. and in appreciation they will have dinner with you and spend time with you, even sleep with you. Supposedly there is no "time limit" because it is like a regular date.
For example, they need $2000/month for rent which you pay them each month. You take them out to dinner once per week and then f*uck them overnight; so you get 4 overnights per month for $500 each plus the cost of dinner; sounds like a good deal?  The main selling point is that you are "never on the clock." Also, since they are not "hookers" they don't F*uck a lot of other guys (supposedly only you!).
For some this may work - if there is a good match between the SB & SD.

Yep. The parts you don't hear about are the stalking (from either end) the blackmail when he cuts her off, telling his wife, showing up at his house, constantly texting for something even when they are not fkin that week, etc.

Most are also very immature "girls" who have no clue what a man wants. They are (very many of them) lazy in bed, do the bare min. and think looking good and being a guy's trophy is enough, and for some men it is. For guys in the hobby, who want some bang for the buck, not always the case. There is a lot of drama that comes along with that so called "cheaper rate" too. Sometimes your sanity is worth more than the money you save.

as you go is a much better and sane approach. If you have a favorite lady, see as often as your time and wallet will allow. Each time you leave, you kiss her goodbye with no further expectations until you book the next visit.

Just don't get the SB thing. If I want drama I can just stay home.

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Many who like that route have no reasons to hide anything however.

It can certainly be much cheaper for fucking a hooker...err sugar baby..going this route.

And if the hooker..err sugar baby wants to create some drama, old johnnie boy pulls the plug and finds another one.

Heck...sounds a lot like P4P  

Well I must hand it to those that have that kind of tolerance for drama, even if eventually pull the plug. Patience not one my strong virtues