I had a one hour apt. with a young lady yesterday, she was nice looking and I was enjoying myself.  After 45 mins. I could tell she was really disgusted with me because I hadn't gotten off, and the fun ended.  I told her this was common for me, that I liked savoring
the time I had to spend with a beautiful woman.  She wasn't buying it.  I told her she could go ahead and leave if she wanted, which she did.  My questions are; did I offend her, did she think she was doing something wrong???   IMO she was great.  And, more importantly, doe's my ATF feel the same way???  But maybe doesn't
want to offend me by saying I am more trouble than I'm worth.  TH

on what you were doing and saying and how you were doing and saying it and how she took it.  I used to have a provider come to my place a number of times a few years ago.  I liked her well enough but I am sure she did not find me attractive either physically or otherwise.  She never really said anything and I did see her at least four times, but she was clearly not thrilled with me.  

I don't think I was doing anything wrong, just the way it is sometimes.

I doubt that you were being offensive, at least that's what I get from your post. Some women get sore from prolonged PV activity(if that was the case) and are too afraid to say so, so you both can move to something less uncomfortable. You could be rather thick or and or long and she might have had trouble accommodating this for a prolonged period of time..again, she could have said something.

Then again she might have thought it was her and that upset her. Either way, it would have been beneficial for her to communicate what ever it was that bothered her.

Seriously, there are times, as we all know, where there is simply no chemistry between two people.  This is true about people you meet in the hobby as well as socially and even family.  Also, everyone has good days and bad days.  She may have been having a bad one, you never know.

Time to move on and find the providers you do "click" with.

You offended her...this is Your time...and You should be able to Enjoy Your Fun anyway You want...within reason of course...and I believe she had the wrong attitude...how and why should she look disgusted with You because You haven't gotten off...I have a couple gentlemen friends...that are one pop guys...however they know how to control themselves...so We Enjoy a lot of Fun...and BTW...anyone who thinks You are more trouble than You are worth...isn't worth seeing...in my opinion...and also I think she should have given You a discount for leaving...You compliment her and the choice she makes is to leave...if anything...for me...it would had been Loud and Clear...I needed an Attitude adjustment...and as far as Your ATF...just ask her...afterall communication is the key to All the Fun and Pleasure We All Enjoy

Many providers, especially the very young ones, are very insecure. If she's used to guys finishing much quicker she might be thinking it's her, that you don't find her attractive.  I think lots of us know 10s who are convinced they are 5s.

Simple solution to the problem: write a review, don't ever see her again, and find an asp who really understands how bussiness should be conducted.

a clockwatcher.  Wants to get you off and leave ASAP, but still wants the amount of $ for a full hour.  Having her leave like that, prior to finishing, AND the end of the scheduled time is really shitty!
No you didn't offend her, and since you say you have an ATF, and have seen her multiple times, I'm sure it's not you.  You just got a bad clam. LOL

Don't let it bother you.  She was the offensive party, and if you stick to well reviewed TER ladies, this is very unlikely to happen.

the most naive hypothesis I could ever hope to imagine!  "She's insecure, and thinks you don't find her attractive". HUH?  This lady is a bottom feeder, and could care less whether he likes her or not.  These type providers make a living off of a lot of one time visits.  Hell, she walked out before the time was up, and he had finished.  And she'll do it to the next guy, and the next.
Hardly insecure.  Just Lazy and wanting $$$ for her next crack fix!!!

and just move on.  If this type of mindset continues, try the LG on the Erotic Highway for help.

You are correct, up. I read the same as you do.
She lacks professionalism.
The OP should also post a review. He can save other hobbyists from her laziness and bolting early.

if you are going strong for 45 min. you might be wearing her little box out! LOL! If that is the case, I would say she is just uncomfortable and not used to clients like you. Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy her job as much as some of us do.

If you really want to know what your ATF thinks then ask her. Most of us will tell you the truth in order to make the appt. comfortable for both you and ourselves.

If you have not run into a lot of very insecure young girls in this business than you haven't been looking.

The OP contained too little to tell what was going on inside her head.  Your interpretation may or may not be right.

She expects that you expect to get to the destination agreed upon.. She also expects that it will be easy.. ( I don't mind working for it as long as it does not seem never ending) You gave her an out...

I suspect she has some ego hung up in the experience and or some immaturity or both....

With age and maturity comes wisdom.. Would we all like to get to the destination.. Hell yeah. but sometimes the journey is much better then the destination...

Just keep being you and keep being honest..

Thanks for the input.  I did lose her number and am moving on.
BTW:  She is a well reviewed on TER,  I am just average in size and appearance and I was constantly telling her how she was turning me on.             Water under the bridge.         TH

It's not you.

Years ago, I booked a lady from a reputable agency for 1 hour. I expected two 30 minute coital sessions and 2 pops.  After the first pop, she was done and suddenly dressed up. I was shocked. She had a lot of moans and enjoyed DATY, but that was that.  I gave feedback to the agency that we only did 30 minutes and it was suppose to be 1 hour. So, the agency said 'we'll make it up to you' next time.  True enough, they sent another girl and gave me 1/3 off full price.

I was with another lady recently who after 10 minutes of riding me CG said "Have you nutted already?"  I said "No".  Looks like she was too confident she could make me cum in a few minutes. She was really rushing, but I still need to go for mish and doggie and use my full time.

I'm inclined toward Ashlyn's hypothesis. Communication is very important in intimate encounters whether P4P or not.

I go out of my way to let partners know that they should tell me if anything I do makes them uncomfortable, or for that matter if they like what I'm doing  

It goes a long way towards preventing misunderstandings like this one and helps all concerned have a better time.

She's just lazy and doesn't want to earn the money you are giving her. She probably expects you to just pay her, hump and get off, then beat it.

If it's more work to get a guy off you do it. I mean, this IS a service not a princess party.

Too many goofballs, not enuff experience!  I have met one in her young 20's that was great, others....not so much!  Upper 20's min.... 30 on up are golden, the best!  (I do draw the line if I can smell Geritol on their breath!) LOL

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We are all different and all enjoy different activities.  Of course, when you meet someone for first time it is hard to "time the session" in way most benefitial to your date.

That is why communication is so important.  Have you mentioned that you are looking to prolong the sensual experience and not someone who is done in few minutes?

Your ATF may be more familiar with you and thus is capable to cater to your desires in ways most beneficial to you.

Lina

It's not your problem, just don't book her again.  I had a similar experience with a 18 years-old a few months ago, it was horrible and I would never go young provider anymore.  As matter of fact, I haven't seen anyone since then.  It happens when you and provider want different things.

This is one of the genuine post I have seen in here.  This happened to most of us I assume.  I am a good looking guy (ya, you don't need to believe it) and I could tell there were a few times my lady friends just want to kill me during the sex.  They just thought I was disgusting like a pig. I guess money doesn't do all the tricks. In those cases, you should just leave the fucking room and never come back.

Totally agree.  This is YOUR time, you can do with it as you please.  The only way I'd side with the provider is if you were rude or physically threatening!  She needs an attitude adjustment for sure!

Is there a time limit on duration intercourse?  What would that be?

Enquiring minds would like to know.

I see my barber once a month and he generally does a great job. But about twice a year, he's having an off day and the end result is just not up to his usual standards. Normally, it's no big deal and will resolve itself in a few weeks when it grows out. Now, if he messed up 3 times in a row, we'd have to have a conversation and, depending on his response, we'd either continue to do business or I'd take my money elsewhere.

This is a service industry and if you're not getting what you reasonably feel you're entitled to (you're "paying the freight," after all), then find a provider who does.

It might take a bit of searching before you "click" with someone but the search can be fun, as well.

Now if you can get her to trim your eyebrows as part of the package --

signaling the end of your session goes off.
Some are more creative and recieve a prearranged phone call about 5-10 min before the scheduled end time that she "just has to take"!  

I more often then not pay for 2 hours but rarely use the entire time. It is about the fantasy, intimacy and human touch. It is ALL about the journey!!! The destination is just the end.

Hello!!!! You are paying for her time not 45 minutes not 37, whatever you want (within reason) should be OK within the time allotted. Don't get me started about "wanting different things" JHC give me a fucking break.

I got the line "I'm ready whenever you are" once. I had to go into my hurry up offense and managed to cross the goal line with seconds remaining. Moments like that make you appreciate the kind of pressure quarterbacks must feel.

For one, you're buying her 'time'. One hour, two hours, what-fucking-ever. You paid her rate, and that's the time you were alotted. Whether you got off or not, while I admit is the ultimate concern whether it happens or not, is your concern.

Now, I've been told that the lady takes pride in what she does and if you don't bust a nut, they might get hurt. Is she doing something wrong? Are you on Viagra? Are you not attracted to her?

The ladies are just as fragile as you and I and at times need to be told they are infact sexy and there's nothing wrong with them.

But if and when you splash on her is your deal, not her's.

You said you have an ATF. Does she act the same way? I'd assume not, since she's an ATF.

Are you more trouble than you're worth. Who's paying who?

Nothing wrong with savoring your time. It's your time and that's what you paid for. Everything else is just gravy.

Maybe she was thinking you were trying to take advantage even if you weren't especially well after 45 mins after into an hr you didn't seem close lol. I've had a few people even regulars try to get more time w/o paying after time was up. Not saying this would've happened if your hour was up but I can see a little why she was offended, she could've even thought yeah it can't be me he must be trying too hard to hold back. I mean I don't clock watch but maybe if this was her first time with you she thought that's what you were trying to do...even though you still had 15 mins. left...most guys even the ones that like to savor show some signs if you will they are about to reach cloud 9.

I doubt it and that really is something each and every escort determines herself according to what her body can take. Some can go strong for the whole hour and still want more...others would be so freaking sore or stopping to apply a bucket load of lube...this you'll never know if it's the first time with your lady of choice.

...." This is YOUR time, you can do with it as you please.  The only way I'd side with the provider is if you were rude or physically threatening!...."

Pavil, while I respect your interpretation of paid time and what it entails, you might run into some issues (in reference to the time) with the "do with it as you please" portion.

Please remember you are meeting with a human being and not an object that does not feel anything. Because we are providers does not me all of us have a robo-pussy and can take vigorous sex for the full 60 minutes, or robo mouth...you get the point here I'm sure.

In my case, I would certainly, very gently say something and suggest a change in activity to give whatever part that was sore a break.

Now, if the gent was unhappy with my breaking proceedings, he can speak by not ever seeing me again. If I felt that the session was too hard on my body, I can choose not to re-book. We both speak with our action after the session.

Her bad was to get up and leave and NOT talk to him. He seems a nice guy and open to communication.

What we don't know is what was going on for her to get so pissed. Was he mercilessly pounding her for 45 minutes? Was he above average in size? Who knows but the two people involved and we are only hearing from one side. Not defending either party...just being objective.

Again...she should have spoken up if she was having difficulty with the session...and I will stress from a pain/soreness POV if in fact that was the issue.

To Pavil..there are many ways a guy can make a session very uncomfortable without being just rude or physically threatening....and with some women, a hard pounding is physically threatening (not saying this happened in this case, but an example for you to think about).

Literbike, of course, I agree totally.  I didn't mean to imply that everything was fair game.  I assume that guys will be reasonable during their time with a provider.  Maybe it's a bad assumption, but I always treat my guests with the utmost respect.

Apologies if my comment came off in a negative way!!

No apology necessary Pavel. It's just that some men who are paying for this have the attitude that once the money has exchanged hands, she is fair game to do with as he pleases with little or no regard for her personal /physical well being.

I am just as ticked off by her behavior and there was no excuse for her NOT talking to him and simply leaving. I have been in this situation many times and have spoken up and things went quite well after the fact. And as I said before, if there is a discrepancy in style, each can express that by not returning or not re-booking. I will do what I can during the appointment (within my physical limits of course), to make things fair and equitable.

Most seasoned hobbyist are mindful of the time or at least ask. Pushing limits does nothing to garner a good working relationship either way.

Holding off to the last second and taking extra time to get washed up and leave is as bad as kicking someone out before the paid for time has expired. I don't mind a little time over but there are respectful limits to at least make a concerted effort to adhere to to make the whole encounter a pleasant one all round. Or at least that's what I thought this business is all about.