This is really a double edged sword. I can appreciate why the ladies need the information for safety and security reasons and I can also understand the hesitation that we guys have in providing "alot" of information up front. Just as you don't know us, we don't know you either and I for one always have to think hard about just how much information I am willing to share in initial contacts. I agree with some of the other posts here in guessing that your experience is more of the type I described above as contrasted with a respect or control issue. The good news is that despite this reality, it usually works out OK for both parties in the end.

This was supposed to be connected to Vickinboston's thread below.  And Sedona just gave a lesson in how to do this properly. Sorry Sedona, my fingers were working faster here than the Brain............