hobby? I often wonder that, especially when providers I know developed a relationship (Romantically) with one of their clients? I mean you have to figure that the minute you start spending all this free time together that he will never pay for your time again and you also have to consider that sooner or later if it gets really serious he's going to want her to stop.  

so all we have to go by are any isolated cases that we know of in our personal lives, or that get cited on here.

Great answer. I have always wondered that. Congratulations on your marriage. You guys would be consider unicorns I bet. Does she still provide and do you still see other providers?

So yes this is a pay for play hobby but I found some really good lady providers friends too.

I don't know if you can quantify how successful some of these relationships are.  One thing you can do is make sure it is love and not lust and make sure you are compatible outside of sex.  Jealousy obviously can creep in, as long as the two of you are honest with one another from that point on.  There are two facts, one is that you are a provider, and the second is that he sees providers.  If a relationship were to blossom out of this, the two of you would need to be open about that, should you continue to provide, and if he were to continue to see providers, although I see no reason for him to continue to shell out money to see someone when and if he were seeing you.  The best way, and for his peace of mind, is for you to make that decision.  Men are weird that way, so its like if you said "I don't want to continue providing" then that would sit better with him than him demanding you stop, because that would to him seem like you really didn't want to and just did it to please him, which is the same thing, just played out differently lol, see what i mean, weird.  I have heard plenty of stories of couples meeting in this business and continuing to have an open relationship.  To each his own, I just hope you're happy either way.

Is the relationship completely open?

serious romantic relationships.  We first met 18 months ago and became romantically involved 15 months ago.  I'm not going to pretend and say we've not had our share of challenges but we continue to work on them.  

Like Mr. Fischer said, there's no way to know other than personal anecdotes. I've heard of quite a few hobby relationships over the years. Most don't last. One atf came back after a 5 year absence, her relationship having broken up. Of course out in the west the famous jealous murder of a provider ended badly when she didn't want to stop for him. It went deeper than that. My own romantic relationships (tons of otc) all ended, as they are prone to do. Currently, from my own personal knowledge, there are still two active relationships going on. A marriage of under a year, and a marriage of over 3 years.  

One of the things I will say is dead on is that while I would prefer she stop, I wont demand it.  It has to be of her own free will.  We've discussed and we both know each other's perspective.  

Who took a "break" because she was in a relationship, but now she's back and the relationship is history. Most romantic relationships don't last. A provider and a hobbyist already have a tough time unless they have an "open" relationship, which comes with its own set of issues.

it happens a lot but what do you mean by successful?  Marriage?
Most relationships change/end over time.

The rule was he could hobby as long as she was providing. They quit on the same day and never looked back. They seem very happy and eight years is a good marriage.  I know civilians who haven't made it through an eight year marriage.  

but relationships that start through the hobby have a better understanding of sexual needs.   It would be tempting to say "It won't work" but that would not be fair to those who want to give love a chance & go in with their eyes open.  I know of several who later came back after relationships.  But I will not judge them nor do I know how & why their relationship ended.  

I have had several LTR's with providers without getting any blowback from the peanut gallery.

none of them lasted , and as i mentioned before once you take it to the next level, you cannot go back to simple p4p, but with both of them i still have strong friendships with, and i know i can trust them 100% if i need help or advise with anything...

i think i'm already in love with  you octavia and we haven't even met!

never wandered into the love arena in the hobby, by conscious choice.  whenever i start to develop feelings above and beyond the parameters of the client/provider relationship, i purposely stop seeing the lady and see others to replace those feelings.  i figure nothing but madness lies that way.  but congrats to mr. fisher on his success story.

Funny, of all the folks here it was you I expected to receive the most from.  Was I concerned about it? Absolutely not. I'm my own man. I certainly don't live my life based on the opinions of others.

Not to sound condescending, but you really need to work on fundamental life skills. Writing being one of them.

There is no dressing it differently. Those are cornerstones of any relationship. Without them, you have an illusion. That's a simple fact.

I give people a lot more grief for whining about shit than the decisions that grown ass people make in their personal lives.

I had a 6 month "relationship" with a provider. We saw each other off the clock once a week. No drama at all.

And the girl was REALLY poor at math. LOL

weekly, 1 hour at a time.

I met a man here.  He's happily divorced as a result. Stuck in a sad marriage for 23 years until he met me. We aren't getting married but we are close friends. He thanks me for saving his life and I thank him for saving my 401K. It's a mutually beneficial relationship with no strings attached.

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