#1. I've known my ATF for more than 4 years. We send each other little texts or pictures from vacations, etc... We send a text to follow up on a random conversation we had during a session. We sometimes share life's tragedies so the other isn't wondering why no contact lately. We occasionally plan some OTC time. It's never about the next appointment. Those are separate and to-the-point communications.

I have no way of being contacted.

someone will overdo it and blow up my phone.  

The call on the 29th sounds familiar along with.. I'll give you 3 hours if.... what will i do with her for 3 hours?

I tend to repeat with favorites of mine and along the way of a few sessions together, we've built a rapport that supports occasional conversations...usually an email or text conversation.

both make good points.  As Fisher says,  I think we can all make time for someone who's interesting, but they can't be a pest, and as Larouche says, if the connection is good, you really don't need to text that much.  You can text about something for a few days, then stay silent for a month, and then come right back with more thoughts on the same subject, like you just had the previous conversation yesterday.  To these, I would add that you should avoid coming off as needy, insecure, or lacking in confidence about the depth of the relationship, and high-volume texting, even if you like the guy, makes the guy wonder if you have anything going on in your life.  If the friendship is solid, then you really don't need to communicate every day, or even every week, and if you are burning up a guy's phone everyday, you are going to come off as needy and insecure.  

I don't mind a message or two every now and then.  Frequency depends on the lady.  As long as she doesn't send another message until I respond.  And as long as she doesn't get upset if I don't respond for a couple of days.  I've had a few ladies that send an email or PM and then follow-up with a note drawing my attention to their email that I was mulling over how to respond a few days later ... and sometimes even follow-up with a third note before I have even responded to the first.  That is a boner killer.  The best messages are those where the lady tells me that she is craving me and how much she wants to rock my world again.  Instant boner and probable booking.  

As a married guy I have strict rules about when a gal can text or call me.  (I prefer email).  Usually weekdays between 9a and 4pm.  But, as long as she is fairly discreet and not a pest then I don't mind talking to pretty much anybody.  Now, if it gets obsessive, then I pull the plug.  I have been seeing my ATF for a few years now, (at least 5-8 x a year) and in between sessions we occasionally call or email each other just to chat and catch up, tell stories of our lives, etc.  Its all good.

As a fairly new newbie, I think its nice to be contacted via text or email for social stuff or touch base.  However for me, it is tricky to discern if the contact is genuine or to drum up business.  If its the latter, then I preferred not to be contacted.

Personally, I have a lot of hooker buddies that I talk to all the time and who I look forward to hearing from. There are actually a couple that if I went more than a couple of days without hearing from them I would start putting together a search party to look for them. lol

Or do you mean that marathon phone calls aren't always welcome?

Aside from a thank-you text, I normally would not welcome contact from a provider that I have only seen once, unless maybe there was really good chemistry during that session. I would just assume that it was aggressive marketing on her part. There is one provider who I attempted to book with three years ago when I first got back in the hobby. She didn't even replay to my email for two months, but then put me on her email list for semi-regular marketing emails. By then, she had significantly increased her rates, so I never saw her. She went silent for over a year, but sent me another email just last week.

Some gals are great at being entertaining, and I love to take them out as well as talk and text.

..... I only get contacted by hookers that I like..

...are as verbose as GaG? I'm shocked!

Presuming you have established a connection beyond buyer/seller then the question is the same as in regular life. How much commincation is desired by both parties? This can vary over time based on many factors. Ironically, better friends may need to contact each other less. But their short exchanges carry a lot more meaning. Remember also the other side is probably wondering the same thing... am I talking too much, not enough?  In general I personally try not to blow up their phone or emailbox. I'll write when something reminds me of them that I think would amuse them. But I probably think of then a lot more often than I write them.

If it's a provider I like, I enjoy maintaining social contact, (aside from the "hey come see me" texts).

My hobby phone is off unless I'm close to the time for an appointment (I prefer to start via email and it has been several years since I made initial contact by phone) so the only way for a provider to contact me most of the time is by email.  Occasional social notes are fine as are alerts on her being in town or offering a special.  However, I don't want to be bombarded with emails about making an appointment.  I'll make my own decisions about that and getting multiple emails asking me to schedule something is a good way for me to never schedule with her again.

Over the past few months, I've had this great e-mail correspondence with a lady I've not seen yet, due to travel and schedule issues, but will see in the near future. The correspondence (quite social and non-play topics) has certainly sealed the deal for me. If there had been little contact (i.e., just the basic transactional requirements of when and where), the pilot light would have gone out months ago. However, her style is responsive and she's interested to staying in touch; this has made all the difference and I'm waving her in as soon we get our schedules lined up.

My lady friends are always welcome to contact me.  Since my early days as a hobbyist over a decade ago, I've most often met with ladies where we both made that connection that others criticize as not being realistic or even possible (which is bull$hit, BTW), and from there, friendships and ongoing relationships have developed.  Some of these have lasted for almost a decade or more, and these ladies can contact me anytime.  I'm always happy when they do...    

Hi Smartie,

And as a every human some of them can have education or not, psychological stability or not, common sense or so inappropriate, you can know how to behave... Or not.  It has nothing to do with the profession, it has to do with the person with whom you relate.

and as much as I agree with you that hookers are women first, there is a different dynamic for many people in being "friends" with people they are paying to have sex with. Not with me, I fully subscribe to your philosophy that hookers are just women who happen to sell sex for a living, but the vast majority of society and even the vast majority of johns don't agree with us. It is what it is. lol

no honey, I'm a woman, my work It doesn't define me,  I can be very sexual and not charge, your work is a part of your day like a dentist or an insurance salesman. Is just people who connect or not, sometimes people misunderstood the signals others take it easy.

my work was on par with going to the dentist or listening to an insurance salesman, I would find a different kind of work that I could enjoy doing.