Some conversations lately with both providers and hobbyists have led me to this question: is it wrong to look down on an escort for fucking guys for money when the guys here imply condoning it by paying for pussy?  We've all seen the I've fallen and can't get it up posts where some sap has got it bad for his hooker, and had too many verses of would you date a hooker?

So as a variation on a theme, is it OK for her to fuck guys while you buy girls?  Can the relationship survive that dynamic, at least to the level that any other relationship could work?  People in the know, or just people with opinions please.

I've got to remove the coat now before I start to stink.

If you want to pay for play, then someone has to be there to play with you.

I'm very happy that there are gals willing to do this.

I also see nothing wrong with this, laws and religion not withstanding.

Love thy neighbor AS thyself, as the good book says.

Isn't that attire + a Depend diaper a prerequisite for this board?
It seems like it.

I can't even parse this post.

What relationship?

1. "is it wrong to look down on an escort for fucking guys for money ... ?"

Yes. Whether you see escorts or not, the woman is offering a service for a price.

There are men who compromise every principle they have in exchange for money until they end up completely unprincipled contradictions of all of their own values. There are people who literally kill for money -- sometimes legally. There are people who figure out clever ways of cheating other people out of their money.

Providing value for value -- delivering what was promised in exchange for what is given -- is about as honest and decent as it gets. Whether that product is a roll in the hay or repairing a computer; those who deliver actual value as promised are, IMO, to be highly esteemed over those who figure out clever ways of fucking people over for a living.

An escort, a good one, EARNS and DESERVES her pay. It is a free market and she has ZERO power to force that transaction.

Contrast that with the myriad times you are essentially forced to accept patently unfair terms in exchange for a needed service; or the times you have to pay people far more than the fair price for what value they delivered.

YES -- it is wrong to look down on an escort for selling sex for money; because if she's doing it right, she is delivering a good product at a fair price -- which is more than I can say for most of the transactions in modern society.

Compare a highly rated provider with a politician.

The politician is held in higher esteem, even though, for a price deposited into his campaign coffers, he compromises the wellbeing of people and lies like a rug.

On the other hand, I know providers who can be trusted implicitly as thoroughly honest people.

2. "and had too many verses of would you date a hooker?"

People are NOT defined solely by their occupation. Independently of their occupation they can possess courage, insight, integrity and more.

Such questions are, IMO, failing to see the forest for the trees.

3. "is it OK for her to fuck guys while you buy girls?"

Please research "ethical non-monogamy." It is okay if it is completely understood and accepted by BOTH parties.

4. "Can the relationship survive that dynamic, at least to the level that any other relationship could work?"

It would depend completely on the characters of the people involved.

It would particularly depend on their understanding and capacity for love.

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Yes, it is wrong to look down on an escort for P4P, but people look down on others for much less.  Often those looking down are the people that should not be casting stones.  Just look at Congress.

No, I would not date an escort, but others have no problem doing so.  If I were to get into a relationship, it would have to be monogamous.  It has nothing to do with the morality of her profession, but more to do with the fact that I won't share, even professionally.  

If you are going to hobby, then why shouldn't she be able to earn a living doing the same thing?  I believe that any REAL relationship, based on love and closeness could not survive this, but others have proven me wrong.  I can only speak from my perspective.

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Yes I look down on these girls, unless she is on top...then I look up.  Love these girls in all positions.  I also like looking in a mirror while doing the act.

Love them again, and again, and again!

What is a mangina coat ? Sorry if this is a dumb question, just wanna know ?  THANK YOU

Here is the answers to your questions.
Q.  Would you date a hooker?
A.  I would not date a provider knowing what I know now, but I am staying married to one.
Q.  Is it wrong to look down on an escort for fucking guys for money when the guys here imply condoning it by paying for pussy?
A.  It is wrong to look down on anybody, except for those people who prey on innocents, and it is hypocritical to look down on escorts and then pay for there services.
Q.  Is it OK for her to fuck guys while you buy girls?
A.  If one is OK with in the relationship, the other should be too. As they are two sides of the same coin. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.
Q. Can the relationship survive that dynamic, at least to the level that any other relationship could work?
A. Yes the relationship can work. I am making it work. My wife is an escort, and I hobby from time to time. It is much harder to maintain than a normal monogamous marriage. Jealousy issues pop up. Self doubt creeps in. You find yourself comparing your wife to the escorts you see and you see escorts at there best and often you see you wife at her worst. I would not recommend it to anyone as marriage is hard enough with out all the added strain. Remember escorts are people and aren't always the perfect GFE you get in a session. Sometimes it is hard to think that your wife is putting on her perfect escort face for other guys as she sucks their dick and puts them ahead of herself, while with you she sometimes need to put herself first, doesn't put her perfect face on and sometimes is not in the mood. To make it work you must realize that you are getting the whole women, the great, the good, the so-so, the bad, and the really bad, and all they get is fantasy. They get her for a short period of time and you get her for life. In the end you must remember it is you she comes home to and really needs and that you come home to her and not the escorts you see. So, yes it can work, but it is much harder than a normal relationship to make it work. I know because I am living that life.

Any more Questions?
Please note this is based on just my experience and no relationship is typical.

-- Modified on 8/18/2010 7:06:35 AM

hobbyists and providers have a good thing going here, that benefits both of us, fulfills both our needs.

Not only that, but encounters "work" better on mutual appreciation and respect

I do not feel the urge to look down on anyone

Those who do are in transference - "dumping" their Ego Dystonia on others as an ego defense mechanism. This is not a mentally / emotionally healthy thing to do.....