Honestly, you left me flustered with that message. I can not even imagine what he went through when you contacted him. That is just too hot.
If a provider contacted you via e-mail and said she knew of you through TER and said she would be interested in visiting with you, would you indulge in this? Of course, you would do the neccessary research and what not on TER to see if she is valid, nevertheless, wouldn't you be a little hestiant to visit with her??
Nope. I think it's awesome if a provider were to contact me.
In fact, not so long ago a provider here in Florida messaged some guys on TER, simply stating she saw I had some reviews in the central Florida area, introduced herself and invited me to visit her website, and contact if her I liked what I saw.
I thought it was a nice gesture, nice way to introduce herself, and good marketing.
Others however felt it to be spamming, and she was banned from TER and her reviews taken down. Which I 100000% disagree with.
I think it's cool, if a lady has or makes or takes the time, to check out some guys, and email them as a way to introduce themselves. How often are we, guys ... hesitant at contacting for whatever reason or fear? Her making the first move, puts her higher on my To Do list.
Jimbo
If it were via PM on TER I wouldn't have a problem with it. E-mail would be a different matter -- there's no telling who else mmight be seeing those, and so would be a major breach of discretion.
Perhaps a new field in the user profile: 'Provider Solicitation Permitted [YES|NO]'.
Cheers!
I got one email last week. Do not know how she got my email address but I did visit her website so maybe the address got picked up by spyware. I was taking a break from hobbying at the time but would contact her at some point during the future. She is well reviewed and occasionally visits my city.
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Depending on what they say in their initial contact, it can be flattering, but usually I view it as simply good business, and still choose to set a date with them based primarily on their reviews. Quality is quality no matter who contacted who.
Jacksonlips
It's just that we have had this topic a number of times and the responses were more negative.
As long as everyone's fine with it, that's good, but I was 'raised' to do differently, and I'd much rather be pursued.
It's different if we've had some correspondence for awhile but to just contact somebody out of the blue..I dunno..
Or, there are a number of guys that want to be notified as an fyi whenever I have an incall location (such as the end of this month! Woohoo!), but I make it just an announcement, not a solicitation.
However, you guys make we wonder about something. How many guys have wanted to make a date with the ladies but were too shy or afraid (as Jimbo suggests?)? Does that ever happen? I never even considered that..
Correspondence from someone who I would have seen if the time was right is not a problem, I simply read it and delete it if I am not interested at the time of her visit.
I normally set dates when the timing is good for me, as a consequence I sometimes pass on someone who I would like to see, as happened recently when a provider who I had seen came back to my city for a visit. Shyness is not a problem with me, or the real boss in such matters, the little head. If I want a date then I contact the provider who I am interested in.
I have been contacted twice in the past year or so. Both times the Lady wrote and said she did so not as a mass mailing, but in response to things I had posted (messages or reviews).
In both cases the geography was prohibitive. I will admit that I was flattered by both messages; they were clearly individualized and they had each taken some thought and time in writing them. As a result, yes, I believe it increased my interest in seeing them. A general mass mailing would not have.
Sedona, as to your last question: yes, occasionally I have had feelings of being so in awe of one or two Ladies that I would find it hard to contact them. Not often, but it has happened. Contrary to many myths, I think a lot of us are shyer than we try to act. Age, looks, and the like have kept me from approaching a Lady who has stunning reviews and truly does look like a 20 year old starlet. There is always a small nagging question: Why would she want to see me when she can pick from any guy out there?
I’m not really looking to meet new Ladies much any more, so it isn’t as much of an issue now, but I’m sure glad I made one recent exception!
You know, I had to do it. I am the infamous one.
I gotta represent.
When I first started escorting and joined TER there was a bit of a bruhaha on my regional board over a somewhat less than flattering review that had come out. I thought the review was one of the funniest things I had ever read. I eventually had the review half memorized, and loved using its quotes. I just loved thinking about the person who wrote it, what he was like, and how bad I felt for what he went through. Anyhow, over the months I would look for his posts, and always thought they were insightful and just fabulously bizarre. Fast forwarding a bit, there was another member who refused to hobby for moral reasons but posted often, and I offered him a freebie if you remember, to "take one for the team," in serious jest to proove that he wasn't le, anyhow he turned it down. He turned down free pussy!
However, I had put it out there in the universe, (a freebie) and I was by golly going to do it. I posted asking if providers ever fantasized about the reviewer in the reviews, and a couple of you said yes. I got the nerve to do it. I thought about this other hobbiest from before that had written the funny infamous review months back, and sent a PM offering a session, free. He didn't believe me. (He probably thought I was a psycho provider!) We went back and forth for a couple weeks, and then we met. It was fucking fabulous. I am very happy I did it. Its was incredibly kinky for me to break free and just have wanton sex with a stranger I had never met, but knew was safe, and happens to be hobbiest. For no money. Before everyone gets bent out of shape, think about it for a moment from my perspective. I can't have sex with just anyone. I would not have sex with someone that did not know what I did. Also, I wouldn't want bad sex, I would shop for someone that had a compatable mindset. I wanted to have a good time! I picked someone I admired, and from his reviews it was clear I was not the kind of girl he would usually select, so I had to make the move. I am glad he did agree to meet me. Against my wishes he did make a donation, but it was much more rewarding to me that he was willing to play along, and pleasure my fantasy. That was a risk he took, and I am so glad he did, because I had a blast.
Now when new clients contact me, I read their reviews. I pay attention, I learn, and I try to raise the bar. I want to make their experience memorable, I try to blow their mind.
There once was a gorgeous young woman who went to confession. Upon entering the confessional she said, "Forgive me Father, for I have sinned."
The priest said, "Confess your sins and be forgiven."
The young woman said, "Last night Von Ryan made mad passionate love to me seven times."
The priest thought long and hard and then said, "Take seven lemons and squeeze them into a glass and then drink it."
The young woman asked, "Will this cleanse me of my sins?"
The priest said "NO, but it will wipe the smile off of your face."
Cheers!
Honestly, you left me flustered with that message. I can not even imagine what he went through when you contacted him. That is just too hot.
That's absolutely awesome, Michelle!
What's important about it is that you're way out front in terms of making the changes this business is going thru, in recognizing that we're all people who need to live in the sunshine, not the shadows; that our physical and emotional needs can be expressed without shame.
I wonder how many hobbyists have helped out providers w/o asking for or expecting services.
Be proud!
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I have had several ladies open dialogues with me over posts or somesuch.
My only hobbying buddy calls this my "literary award"! Not as formal or credenza-worthy as a Nobel, but more visceral fun!
I probably disappoint the ladies concerned when they meet me, but I have had a good time...
I Was saving that fantasy for me!!!.... Sob Sob!!!
Besides being flattering, it might be possible to hook up with a provider who is under the radar, likes what I'm into and wants to play my game.
So if any of you ladies are into dirty talk, porno-style BBBJ with swallowing (DTBBJ, asian [giving], Los Angeles availability, videotaping are preferred but not required), let me know!!
B
I was contacted by a European provider in the fall asking whether I was traveling to Europe again and if I would review her web site and give her a ring if interested.
I did, was impressed enough to call her and spend some time with her a few weeks ago! I was glad it worked out well. The early bird does get the worm!
Sorry, that was the Mr. Hung from teh American Idol show.....
I've contacted a few clients/friends, but I have already established a repoire with them and find that they enjoy an occasional sexy and flirty email from me. I also make sure it's okay, beforehand, to email them because you never know who might be on the receiving end. Sometimes I let them know what I'm wearing (if nothing at all). I just cannot do this everyday or it would be like chatting and I don't have all day for that. However, once in awhile I like to email them to say hello and tell them of specials I might be running and that I was thinking of them (truly thinking of them).
Hugs,
Ciara
and a pretty gal with the moxi to market herself aggressively is sure to capture my interest.
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