I want to preface this by saying, that one of my primary motivations for going to the gym, besides cutting weight, bulking up, etc., is seeing the occasional sexy/hot woman. Not on some purvy type stuff, but purely because it motivates me to get back into shape. There are a couple of ladies that I see and I admire the work they put in and it gives me that extra push I need to go harder in the gym. Mind you, I don't stare, or make up some silly reason to talk to them. I respect women's boundaries, get my workout in, and leave.
My question is both for providers and clients. For the clients, let's say you saw a woman in the gym and you checked Eros or P411 (or wherever providers post ads in your city/state) and saw that she was a provider. Would you reach out and request a session? And then, would you mention that you've seen them in the gym during said session? On the flip side, for the providers. Let's say a potential client reached out to you and a date was set and when you went to let them into your incall or met them at their location, you recognized them from your gym. Would you follow through with the date, or decline to see them because of that reason? For both, would it be awkward after said session if you ran into them again at the gym?
If your interest in her is as a provider, stay out of her personal life unless invited. That's it, there are no exceptions or "what-if's". If you want to talk to her at the gym, now that you know she is also a provider, DON'T. Nothing good can come of it. If you truly don't want to come off as pervy, this is the best advice I can give you.
If you make the date for the session, YOU must act like you don't know her before that day. If SHE recognizes YOU, and brings it up, then she obviously doesn't mind talking about it, but if SHE is not the one bringing it up, keep you mouth shut about the gym and enjoy the session regardless of how bad you want to tell her you ogled her at the gym and then stalked her on the internet to find out she is a provider. That is not a good look on you.
I have a home gym because I hate meaningless chit chat when I am in the zone. If I drove to the gym to get my workout on only to have to run into someone who booked my time with a chance of no repeat, or repeat is either one better? No.
The gym is a meat market. If you read some of the posts here guys prey on MILFS. I’m a bloody target. 🎯 Losers pick up on females at the gym. It’s supposed to be a safe zone to go to focus one thing yourself. Mental health is equally as important as physical. No one wants to have their blinders on to dodge unwanted attention. My two cents. 20 years experience & 45 years young with lots of expertise. Live & learn. Sometimes it’s best to keep your mouth shut & enjoy the eye candy.
Damn "Losers pick up on females at the gym". How?
But CDL is right. Don’t try to stick yourself into her personal life.
You don’t say a word unless she does. Don’t be surprised if she doesn’t recognize you from the gym until the next time you see her at the gym after the appointment. If you see her professionally, then when you’re at the gym or anywhere else, you don’t know her. You don’t recognize her. She might realize who you are, but it would be absolutely shocking if she came over and said “hey howya doin I remember boinking you!”
Whether or not it is awkward for YOU at the gym after a session depends on how the session goes and if you come off as creepy through this deal or not. If you never see her at the gym again, or see her once and then not again; congratulations, you made it awkward for HER and she had to find another gym.
If you do a session with her then at the gym or anyplace else, you’re total strangers. Forever. No giving her funny grins or winking at her or whatever.
How many pictures of this woman, or any other women, have you taken at the gym?
to say this at all. Everything you added is well-taken and I agree with you on your added details.
To the OP: looking at everyone who’s chimed in so far, there’s a somewhat rare level of agreement happening here about this. You take a chance getting up every morning and crossing the street, or sticking your face in a fan. This particular chance is probably one you don’t want to take.
If I saw her at the gym, which means she could have seen me, or may see me in the future, I'm not going to reach out to her as a provider. That's mixing personal and professional lives. If you're going to do that, you need to remove yourself from that gym to avoid bumping into her there, but even than it might be too late because she might recognize you and than it gets awkward.
If you think about chatting up with her in person, don't do that either. It's too late. You have already seen that she is a provider. You don't want to play the "pretend I didn't see that" role. Eventually, these things go South.
Bottom line, admirer her from afar and find someone else to admire from up close.
Do not ever, as in ever, tell a provider you saw them at the gym, or grocery store, or in the park and that you want to book with them because you saw them in public. It comes off as stalker vibes (even if you are not one.) Follow the protocol that you normally would to book an appointment with any other provider. If you see a provider out in public after you have had a session polite eye contact and a head nod are acceptable, but that is it. And this is ONLY if they are alone. Otherwise no acknowledgement. I kind of get the vibe you think this will give you brownie points if you mention you recognized her in public but trust me 100% it will be the exact opposite. If she is very private she may even change gyms. In short....don't do it!
Please don't put words in my mouth. The post was a hypothetical question. Further, I don't see how you get any type of "vibe" that I would say something that would make a provider feel uncomfortable BCD.
which was very similar to the other points made here. It’s not that you would say anything creepy. It’s that anything you say in the hypothetical you laid out could very well be construed as creepy and make the provider very uncomfortable. Stick to your ogling the girls in the gym, but if you’re thinking on hitting on one because you think she’s a provider, don’t do it.
I understand her point. There was just no need to throw shade as if I don't understand not to get too personal with a provider during a session. And I most certainly wouldn't assume or think that just because said lady is a provider, that would somehow give me leeway to blur the lines. Truth be told, I have actually seen a couple of local providers out and about (e.g. Walmart, Gym, restaurants, etc..) and I'd never speak to them, nor would I try and get brownie points BCD by approaching the topic of seeing them out in public. I don't hit on anyone in the gym. I mind my business, get my workout in, and get out.
Many providers go to great lengths to separate their civie life from their SW one and understandably so. Too many girls I have become close with tell me one of their biggest fears, if not THE biggest, is psychos and stalkers. There is hardly a day goes by that some sick individual hasn't attacked one of our lovely and amazing SWs.
Just let them be. Let them have their anonymity as best they can. They take great risks being in this profession, for numerous reasons, so no need to add any potential undue stress to their lives, even if your intentions are noble ones.
I work hard to keep my gym / training job separate , I’m an IFBB Competitor, trainer by day and what I do otherwise is business and private, I agree on getting “stalker vibes” if someone said they saw me at the gym / store etc. but if they go though the prober screening set up an appointment, then maybe ran into me after I hope they act like gentleman or just wink and keep waking.
Would I ?!!
Would I ?!!
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Classic.
I love that joke.
Given the lead off of "Would you..." isn't the response supposed to be "Pegme, Pegme!"
davincib1,
Are you trying to say that the Gym is what you are using to focus what type of providers you look for? Are you saying that you are going to the gym to see if any providers go there and they will be who you mainly deal with sexual?! I never go to the gym and I can sexual as good as other females who do. So, yes GYM does make most people feel better.......It is not for everyone. It does not mean that if one or more females go to the gym and others don't.......That the sex is different. Not every person likes the gym. Some are active on so many levels outdoors and they feel just as great as others. I just turned 48 (And although I don't feel like I did when I was between 12 & 21) I still have a decent sex life and get enough sex.
No, I'm shaking my head as to how you even pulled your questions from anything that I said. I go to the gym for the same reason as everyone else does, to get back into shape and or to work on my physical conditioning. Like anywhere else, there is almost always some eye candy there, and occasionally it serves as motivation for me push my limits that much further. Why would I need to use the gym to focus on the type of providers that I'm looking for? That's what TER, Eros and other sites are for, and there isn't one specific type of provider that I look for. I like women of all shapes, sizes and colors.
Don't shit where you eat, real simple stuff.
It's not just her life that's bleeding over into the real world, it's yours too. You really trust her to not cause a scene in the gym for you? You shouldn't. Nor can you tell if the guy running the front desk wouldn't turn over your PII in exchange for a god-tier blowie, and fair chance he would tbh, you would, hell, I probably would.
So act accordingly.
Several times I was grocery shopping and I literally bumped into a woman who I was quite sure I had seen her advertising. I never said anything other than “excuse me”, and have a good day. It was about six months later that I decided to have a meeting with her. As we started to chat, she said that she recognized me from the grocery store. It was a great weekend together, including a shopping trip. To this day, we politely acknowledge each other in that store, less anyone in the neighborhood catch on.
THANK YOU
This is probably the only reply that I've read that understands what I typed and responded accordingly. Literally the same thing happened to me the other day. Maybe she just had a familiar face, but I'm sure I have seen her ad before.
it would be a small female only gym. I am very private and I only see a few locals because I have screened them very well and I know they are far away from my area. This is why I also don't visit private residences, airbnbs and I prefer out of towers only. I haven't and never want to run into a client at a grocery store, gym etc. That would be super uncomfortable and creepy. No thank you!
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Ok, so I understand uncomfortable. But how would running into a client at the grocery store or gym be creepy (clutches pearls)? And I'm not talking about you see the guy on every isle, and he's behind you in the checkout line, and he offers to put away your groceries. I could understand how that would seem creepy. I'm talking just a pure coincidence. He's shopping, you're shopping, he's using his eyes to see where he's walking and accidentally looks in your direction.
As a provider I am giving you the provider vibes. I stopped going to the public gym because too many guys looking at me too much. Either way please DON'T . That's creepy.
No one is going to look in Bianca's direction by accident and not stare at her. The accidental glance is not creepy, it's the ogling and stalking you do AFTER that first look that is creepy. The best course of action at a gym is to let the women who may be interested approach you first. They are used to guys hitting on them at the gym and it's mostly a turnoff, except for the fat girls. They love any attention they can get from a guy.
I always wait and if we catch each other's eye, I will smile and go back to my workout. Sometimes, the next thing I know is she has moved to where I am and asks me a question about an exercise I'm doing as a ruse to strike up a conversation. This can lead to some hot sex if you are a good flirt. If you spend your workout time chasing random women around the gym to get a closer look, you will never attain the kind of physique that gets THEIR attention.
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And you know what they love too? I never knew they were your type. Good for you bro!
I have been OBSERVING the behavior of 1000's of fat girls at the gym for 40 years. You don't have to hear anything. Just the body language and facial expressions say it all. You obviously don't have much gym experience. This is common knowledge among dedicated gym-rats. I'm more than qualified to speak as to the behavior of fat girls at the gym. The only thing you got right is that they are not my type. Read my reviews and you will see that 95% of the women I see are "slender." THAT'S my type. The other 5% are "skinny" in review vernacular.
So now you obsess over what fat girls do too? And for 40 years??? Thats called stalking bro. And why is it your defenses of your initial ridiculous post are always worse and make you seem even creepier? Hmmm...I wonder.
How do you turn observation into obsession? If you watch the news on television everyday, does that mean you are obsessed with the television. You're not very good at connecting dots, are you?
The only thing really creepy on this board is the suck-ups and simps. You kiss every provider's ass, even the ugly and fat ones. Is that the only kind of provider that will see you?
No, it really is just you. You are the problem and the creepy one. Just you.
for the simps? Or did you only respond because you have become obsessed with me as I'm the only one that responds to you? Can we agree that you are the creepy obsessed provider? The first step to recovery is to admit you have a problem. I think there is a 12-step program somewhere to stop CDL from living in your head. Lol
Success here is not about "likes" because there will always be the simps here who avoid controversy. A better gauge of your writing is found in "reads", not likes. Controversy sells, sucking up doesn't. Lol
Running around with a fire hose trying to put all the fires that his hateful posts generate is so pathetic, and yet...so him. At this point he needs our pity along with our condemnation. He hates woman and has numerous racist posts as well. He is a bigot and a misogynist and really should seek out professional help. And that right soon.
I generally have two to three sessions a week with providers, and often pay more than I would to a therapist. You got any links to me being racist, a bigot, or a misogynist? I treat everyone the same, so it's inherently impossible for me to be any of these things. You, on the other hand, clearly treat women differently than you do men. Whether you call if gender-bias or misogyny, it's the same. Show me a single instance where I have said anything to a man that I wouldn't say to a woman and vice-versa. Same goes for different races, I say the same to everyone. Only the intellectually weak play the race card. Oh wait, you are the king of the simps. Here's the tough one . . . . show me a link to anytime I have said I hate all women. Go ahead and deflect, King Robert the Simp, it's what you do. Lol
Anyway that's why it's good to be polite and respectful because you never know who you will be fucking. She don't care what your body look like, she will fuck you as long as the money is good and she had no other issues with you.
I’m too lazy to read through the thread, so no idea if anyone else has said similar.
I would find it unique and possibly fun if I saw a provider at my gym if she didn’t get spooked. I wouldn’t approach her there and give her anything more than a quick smile and maybe a what’s-up-bro nod. I would, however, later text her and check her interest on a session after a workout in the future. Maybe increase the donation for some discreet consented creeping/peeping at her while she worked out, maybe she dresses slightly sexier or purposely does stiff-legged deadlifts in front of me, then not leave with her but meet her at her incall for some post-workout extra cardio. If there is fun to be had, then have it. What guy wouldn’t like to bang the hot chick that they were checking out at the gym? If she gets spooked by seeing me, a client, at the gym but I’ve done nothing to elicit any response other than recognition and maybe a smile and nod back, then there’s nothing I can do about it.
I saw a provider at an Hmart about 30 minutes after a session once and we recognized each other while passing one another, and we just laughed and did a hi-hug. No biggie and all good. It was nice to see that they’re human and buy groceries too.
as you do, I know I do, but the problem is that it's NOT cool for the provider most of the time. They don't want to be outed while they are in their personal life space, and if you do, you probably won't ever see them at that gym again. So enjoy the view, from a distance, but resist the urge to strike up a conversation. This is one of these lessons that you often learn the hard way, and then regret that you even did it in the first place.