I have only done (4) one-hour dates, and do not care for them at all. It's different if it's a repeat or a regular and they just have time for the 'lunch' hour or the 'before hitting rush hour' and serving up a quickie is really fun for those clients.

But, normally, on first dates, I much prefer a minimum of two hours. Certainly, you know your business, your preferences, your schedule and the schedules of your clients. If it seems that the one hour dates don't quite do it, then I'd make some changes on your website such as a 90 minute minimum, for an attractive rate, and mention that it makes the time so much better, as it does! (#2)

I'm not a clockwatcher, and while that doesn't mean someone can take advantage of that, I'm saying, I have a set idea of where I'd like to 'go' with my client, and usually my time's not 'up' until we get there! BUT, my schedule allows for that. If the shower time puts him at an hour and ten minutes, that's ok, right? He certainly shouldn't be in the shower at 50 minutes. Here's a motto I like to operate my businesses on: "underpromise, and over-deliver" - and you'll always have happy customers.

(#3) NO WAY, BABY! Do NOT state in an email or phone conversation anything you know to be presently considered illegal: money, and sexual acts. You'll know what he wants when he gets there. If he's made the appt. he's presumably read your profile and reviews.

(#4) If you have Greek on your menu, then prepare to offer it, in the event he requests it. I don't know how you ladies do it, as it takes real body preparation (colon cleansing, etc.)

It sounds to me like you should just go with the 90 minute minimum, particularly with new clients and I think that might solve your concerns. That extra 30 minutes could be 5 or 10 in the shower, 10 in the 'getting to know you' time, and 10 minutes you might need for extra prep for certain menu items.

Here are my answers.

1) Should showering afterwards be included in the 1hr date?

No.  A shower should be offered both before and afterwards, but should not count against our paid time.  Obviously it costs you the extra time, but it's a customer service thing.  Charge a little more as a base price, if you need to.  Personally, I prefer to pay a higher basic price, and have extras included, rather than feel like I am being nickled and dimed and rushed out.  This is all about how the session feels as a whole.  Unless you are scheduling multiple appointments one right after the other, you probably have room on either side of the appointment to let us shower and it will give us a better impression of you.  Make us more likely to come back.


2) Should we mention in our websites that one hour dates are very limiting?

No.  We know that they are, and it depends on each person.  Some people can perform 3 times in an hour.  I need 1:30 for a 2 performance session.  I would recommend not saying that hour sessions are limited, but indicate a preference for longer sessions and offer a price break on them.  ie.  If you charge $300 for an hour, offer $350 or $400 for 1.5 and $450 or $500 for 2.

3) Should we ask via email if you are interested in anything specific (ie. multiple pops, bbbjtc, greek, fetishes)?

Obviously, this is a touchy issue.  Many providers don't want anything explicit discussed via e-mail, especially with new customers.  But, yes, the more you know about what we want, the better prepared you can be, and therefore the better the session will be.  


4) If yes to anything in #3, do you feel you should upgrade to 2hrs or more? If not, why?

Not a requirement.  Like I said, some people do things at a different rate.  My experience (limited though it may be) is that I pop twice in an hour and a half. An extra half hour would be wasted on me.  But perhaps some items to require a minumum amount of time.  I don't know.  BBBJTC and Greek don't seem like big time adders.  But some fetishes might.  If you find certain activities always make you run over the hour, then definitely, you can say "I only offer these certain activities in extended sessions..."

My $.02

YMMV means really two things. All reviews are subjective by nature so one man's fantasy is another man's 'left much to be desired'. There are two people involved in any encounter so sometimes an encounter that does not go quite as well as anticipated can be largely attributed to one of the people in the equation and sometimes the other. Also, sometimes it might be a factor outside of either person like time constraints or other general difficulties that can occur.

If someone gives you a low performance review and also puts YMMV, to me that is an acknowledgement that, while the reviewer did not have as good a time as he might have liked, there is inherent quaility in the escort that would allow a different hobbyist to garner a much more enjoyable experience with her. Or, if you will, the reviewer is taking a significant part of the 'blame". Otherwise the reviewer would just cover the experience and let it stand on its own.

To your questions:

1) Showers - If the appointment time is 1 hour then any showers, before or after, should be available but take place within the hour contracted for.

2) Website - I have seen several websites that say something to the effect of '2 hour appointments preferred' or the like. It is patently obvious that a 2 hour session is prefferable to 1 in pretty much all aspects, but this in no way influences my decision to have 1 hour dates because I, and I am sure quite a large percentage of other hobbyists, have monetary constraints that make it a burden to schedule multi-hour dates. I.E. can't afford it. So I, we, have to make do with what we can afford. This should however be taken into account by the reviewer and  not reflect negatively on the escort.

3) Email - If you set up your dates by email then by all means clearly communicate what is expected and preferred. (Before posting this I checked back on the boards where Sedona had the opposite opinion on this issue due to LE concerns. I yield to  her better judgement.)

4) Upgrade - Sorry in most cases no for the reason specified in #2. The hobbyists who can afford more time seem to schedule it up front judging by the 3 hour 2$$$ sessions I have seen that  boggle my little brain. I mean for that kind of $ I would have had 6 one hour encounters that kept me smiling over the course  of 3 weeks to a month with money left over for a couple of nice tips for excellent times rather than just that 1 encounter.   That is the thinking of many hobbyists I am sure so anticipate it.

Hi CG,
I think that your questions are timely, at least for me. I am fairly new to the hobby and I have read many reviews and some of the providers seem to work it in ( a shower) instead of a second pop, however while in the shower, both parties avail themselves of each other and sometimes a second pop occurs for each.
I believe that the specifics should be addressed by both parties BEFORE the appt.
It's only fair that the provider know beforehand what the client expects in a one hour appt. If an early popper i.e. one who cums in 15 minutes, then certainly something can be worked out.
If a hobbyist ( I hate that term ) would like to spend more time DATY then the provider should know.
Also, the provider should let the client know if she expects him to be freshly shaved, (face and balls) etc.
To sum it up CG YOU ARE A THINKING LADY.
Luv ya XOXOXO

I always ask a gentleman if he would like to use the shower ahead of time (Him being clean makes my time with him much more enjoyable. Maybe he was unable to get to a shower before the appointment, some guy's leave straight from work.) I also always offer them a shower after our encounter......Most guys I see have a S.O and believe me women can pick up on another womens scent, so they are smart to take a shower after.

About 15% of the guys take a shower before. 35% take a shower after and about 5% take one before and after. Guys usually take very quick showers....so I really don't count that as the time we are together. If an encounter runs a little bit over the hour I don't stress......but I also give myself plenty of time between appointments so that its not a problem. *Most* guys are very considerate of my time and I appreciate that. If I feel someone is taking advantage of my kindness then I certainly don't have a problem saying so.

I too think a 1 hour encounter is very limited and enjoy sharing at least 2 hours, that is why I offer a discounted rate for longer meetings. Most guys have a limited schedule and an hour is all they can sneak out for....so I'm sure they are aware of how quickly an hour flies bye.

No-way would I ask what they were specifically interested in. Any guy that emails me request's like that are definitely ignored and deleted.

It all comes down to your own comfort level and finding what works best for you.  

~Chrissy~

I tend to agree with Waterclone. A shower should be an option for the gentleman outside of the hour appointment. While I concur that the gentleman should be freshly showered and clean upon arrival whenever possible, I can envision situations where a guy might be coming directly from work or returning to his office or home (wife, SO, etc.) where a shower is an absolute necessity. Think most of us know that 1 hour is not a lot of time, but I feel that most of us know what we are interested in and can get to it within that time frame. Certainly the more time available perhaps the greater the "range" of activities that one might explore in any given meeting. Getting into specifics beforehand is very tricky. While I wish it were not so (it would make that first meeting a lot easier for both parties), I think the only way to approach this is for the provider to be fully prepared beforehand. If you are offering BBJ, toys, greek, etc., then you should be ready to offer it if requested during the session. The only exception that I can see here is if the guy is interested in something that is going to require some special set up time or props. Then somehow that needs to be communicated beforehand.

Re:YMMV

After reading this and rereading this I believe we are using the term "YMMV" incorrectly ... I have always used the term when I benefit in a way from a provider that is different than the norm in her profile ... If her profile states that she doesn't DFK and her reviews back this up, but when we are together she's caressing my tonsils, then I will post a "YMMV" to cover my ass in a sense.  If your date wants to do something that is in your profile and you don't do that with him (but you may with others) just not with him for some reason then I can see him posting a "YMMV". It appears that your main issues are one of time (1 hour vs 2), if he justs runs out of time before he tastes all that you offer then it is poor time management on his part.

It seems that whining about reviews have reached epidemic proportions.  

It seems like most ladies claim to be GFE these days but of course not all of them are GFE.

Some ladies like to multi hour appointments because they actually have a plan to provide a GFE.  Others like to have you book a 2 hour appointment because they plan to talk for the first hour or more and give you what you would have gotten in a 1 hour appointment in the second hour.  It is an easy way for them to make extra money without the wear and tear.  So yes sillyrabbit if you expect to get value with some ladies you may have to tell her to get naked and let's get it on.

I find it interesting that this thread seems to be dealing with whether a 5 minute shower should be on the clock or not.  It sounds like some low volume providers are booking appointments back to back.