if you want to see her again, get screened again. If you don't, don't. The rocket science.
Aka, yes completely reasonable.I reached out to a provider I last saw just over a year ago. I wrote her first review here and she whitelisted me. I pm'd her to see up some time. She remembered my real name, but she asked me to do a full rescreen. Does that sound reasonable?
(Posting under alias so you cannot backtrack to the lady in question.)
Are you sure it wasn't a screener or an assistant? You said you "...reached out..." But if that was via email you might have been communicating with an assistant who's just doing what s/he has been instructed to do.
I have NEVER run into this. Really, some kind of communication glitch.
But if she wants to rescreen just give her the info for the last two you've seen. Balking probably will make matters worse. You might ask her what's up in the pillow talk as the session is drawing to a close.
If you only saw her once or twice, then yes it's reasonable that she'd want to rescreen you. A lot can change in a year. Since she already knows your real name, I'm surprised that she hadn't proceeded with screening without telling you.
What are your objections? Are her screening requirements too laborious?
Maybe she was concerned when she saw your ankle bracelet?
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Communication all via TER PM. Screening was only overly onerous. I object in principle since most ladies accept the white list #or first time screening. (That along with my genteel email demeanor...)
Most women I know do NOT accept white lists as a form of screening. but they suppose if SHE were the one who gave said whitelist, that should certainly be good enough.
I have to agree that if a woman is going to try to make me jump through hoops AFTER we have already met, my tolerance level is going to go down to about zero. Anytime screening gets anywhere near "onerous" levels, you can probably count on me simply moving on. I get the need for a woman to feel safe, but this is recreation for me, I am not "applying" for the honor of giving her money. In short I refuse to "beg to pay for pussy"
who said "I will pay for pussy, and I will beg for pussy, but I refuse to beg to pay for pussy!"
I think those are reasonable and wise words to play/live by!
but in all fairness I borrowed the saying from somebody else. There really is so little original thought left out there. It's hard to be the first at anything with over 7 BILLION people on this planet.
Whitelist can be helpful IF other info is included in the screening process.
But a whitelist on its own does not mean anything to me unless it is from a provider friend I know I can trust.
The reason I do not accept whitelist on its own due to the fact that providers will whitelist a gent who she has not had an appt with.She might have talked to him via email or pm and decide to whitelist.
Believe me I have heard this many times.
If you are not comfortable resubmitting your screening info then move on.But being that you have seen her before I don't see the problem.I wouldn't ask the gent to be re-screened but that is just me every lady is different.
if you want to see her again, get screened again. If you don't, don't. The rocket science.
Aka, yes completely reasonable.
...White Lists do mean something. Maybe not to you but not everyone uses your method. I have found my white lists to be very useful. There are many ways of doing things in this world of ours. Yours and mine are a very small sample.
I will add that while I have found WL to be useful I agree with GaGambler that it would be incorrect to say most providers accept WL. The OP's experience not withstanding.
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I've only ever been me so I can most accurately speak from my perspective. But even if I do take into account others, the majority of ladies I've spoken with feel the same way.
They aren't references, are more easily manipulated, and give less information. My personal experience with them as a naive newbie was contacting one provider who had whitelisted a guy and her saying that he was an absolute DO NOT SEE. I asked her why she had whitelisted him then and she said so ladies would contact her...umm wtf?
Sounds like you told her that you're SinghfromTER and that you are a good guy....using no other screening info.
Or have you given her a name that one might find on a legal document...and able to google it?
You should see if there are some "clues" on sale at the 7-11.
If you reviewed her, she is almost obligated to give you a whitelist referral...either that, or she risks a bad review and negative backchannel. So a WL doesn't mean sh** to me as far as screening goes. If a guy has a few WL's that are relatively recent (within the past 6 months), I'll contact a few ladies, and ask if they have any additional info to share. But I rarely accept them w/o additional info. In fact, I don't think I've ever done that.
I personally don't rescreen existing clients, even if I haven't seen them for a year or more. If anything, I might run them through the blacklist, just to make sure they haven't acquired any bad habits since they saw me last. However, I can definitely see the sense in asking for recent references, etc. People change. She has every right to ask, if that's what she needs to do in order to feel comfortable. And as others have said, if you're not willing to comply, then don't. Move on.
In addition, it sounds like you feel some sense of entitlement, because you gave her a first review...one of the worst things about the review system is that exact quid pro quo mentality. Don't be THAT GUY who tries to use his reviewer status to extort favors because 'I did you a solid back way back when
He's already seen her, he gave her a good review, and now a year later he wants to give her more business. In what world is that "asking for a favor"??
She re-screens all clients she hasn't seen for X amount time. That includes him, whether he gave her a 5-5 or a 10-10.
I'm not saying that I think it's a sensible policy (I don't have such a policy, and could never imagine enforcing it against a nice client), but that's her prerogative.
Sounds like she forgot your info. And doesn't feel like doing the research so she just asked you to rescreen.
If you still want to see her I'd reiterate the fact that you've reviewed her
Some ladies have rescreening policies, some don't. My screening practices have changed dramatically since I first started, so if someone contacts me and tells me they saw me at x location y amount of years ago, I rescreen them regardless if i remember them or not.
Every lady has different levels of comfort.
It all sounds ridiculous to me. Its her body and her business, though. You should move on if you're uncomfortable with it.
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I refer myself to that client? Especially if I've seen them once for an hour back in the day. Though I haven't had to with people I've kept in contact with, I have had clients who took a year off from me, then went BSC on someone else.
I guess it would be a matter of whether the provider is storing the client's information in a database, which people around here don't seem to like. Hey, at least you know she hasn't stored your information?