Although my situation is different I can appreciate your thoughts. I happened across a website of a provider who was an old friend of mine. She is in a different city though one I travel to. Knowing her as I did, I am sure she would not want it to be public knowlegde of what she is doing. I debated emailing; I wanted to really just make contact again and catch up on the years. I opted to not contact her via her site and instead made some inquiries to mutual friends. I finally acquired her email address from her mom of all people and made contact with her that way.(It was a different address then the one posted on her site) We have since stayed in contact and made arrangments to have lunch when I was in her city. unfortunately had to cancel, but hope to reschedule. I know exactly what you mean about the enticing part of seeing her, but...

Now I digress, I wanted to at least give you the history. I am back in the debating stage of bringing up the topic but am still unsure if I will. What your post reminds me is that it is unclear how someone will respond. I think that the way you are handling it is great. I also think an email would be appropriate if only to assure her that you will maintain discretion if you were to meet again at a social function. As far as scheduling time I would advise leaving that alone until more dialog can take place...at her discretion of course. Thanks for the post. You never know who could be lurking behind that door.

Yes. I met an older gentleman during the summer who just happens to be a friend of my grandfathers. We found out over appetizers and went on to enjoy some very special time together. I didn't skip a beat. Treated him just as well as any other client and when we run into each other socially, we simply nod hello, just as we would to any of the other people in the room.

I was just about to sign off when I remembered a few more.......

I have been seeing a male nurse on and off for 5 years. One night mom calls to say grampas in the hospital. I head over there and guess who's taking care of grampa. Again, we greeted each other with just a nod hello. We actually hadn't seen each other in a while so that sort of rekindled things and as you had stated, made it more enticing and he called that night to set up an appointment.

I have been seeing an anesthesiologist from my local hospital for 7 years. He knows my parents who are both in the medical field and has been the anesthesiologist for many of my family and friends procedures (when they've needed one) including my own daughter and another providers son. (and by the way yes he sees her as well.)


I have been seeing a car dealership owner for 7 years who lives down the street from my parents and my dad, brother and 2 aunts buy all of their cars off of him.

Again, when in public I either ignore them as if I don't know them or if it's a slightly more intimate setting I say hello in the same manner as anyone else there.

What I think is odd is that she became flustered that you knew what she did.  I am assuming that she felt a little embarassed you knew but she shouldn't feel embarassed, I mean even though she is an escort... you are a client.  She may feel uncomfortable that you know her secret... but she now knows yours.

One of my best friends used to tell me about his "mentor" at work, who was also like a best friend to him.  For years I heard wonderful things about this man.  My friend moved out of state and never learned about my transition into this industry.

His mentor called me one day (not knowing who I really was) and as I was getting his screening info, I realized he was the "mentor".  It turns out our mutual friend had told both of us about each other over the years even though we had never met in person.

We agreed that we would keep our knowledge a secret and we met and had a wonderful time.  The twist definitely added some excitement.

I worked with an agency for a short period some time ago, and on one late night call to an affluent neighbourhood, who should open the door but someone I'd done business with in a very minor way, (and a completely different business!) two years prior.  He remembered me but couldn't remember where from, that kind of thing.  Being something of a public figure, he was taken aback at first when I reminded him, but I think I put him at his ease. He told me after he slept better than he had in days, I take that as proof.  Me, I thought it was fun!  

-Anya

I had something similar happen.  I was dating a girl for about 6 months when I accidently found out she had been a porn actress.  She was terrific in the sack and now I understand why.  When I asked her about it she didn't mind at all.  It actually improved our sex life because I saw her do things I was afraid to ask her to do.  We do them now.

"Has this aver happened to you?"

Yes, several years ago. I was in another state And made an appointment to see a local provider who had interesting pictures, but the face was blurred. Most of the contact was via email (her screening was very light) and we only spoke for a few moments during a confirming phone call. So, when I got to her incall, she opened the door while hiding behind it. When I stepped in and my eyes adjusted to the light, we were both staring at each other and simultaneously said "you??"

It turns out she was a former employee of mine when she was an undergraduate at the university I work at, now escorting to pay her way through graduate school at this city's university. I had had no idea where she had gone to school and we hadn't kept in touch, so neither of us had a bell ring in our head during the contact and screening phase. And now she was standing in front of me in lingerie.

Well, there was an uncomfortable moment at first, but then I started laughing and so did she. I asked her if she was comfortable continuing the appointment and told her she could rely on my discretion -- after all, she had something on me, too! I also confessed that I had had more than a couple of daydreams about her when she worked for me. To make a longstory short, we were both comfortable with the situation (it helped that we had enjoyed a good working relationship) and spent a lovely couple of hours together, and then coffee and dessert at a local restaurant after the session. So what could have been a train-wreck of a situation actually turned out quite nice.

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I've never had anything like this happen but I kind of wish it would.  There are actually posters here on this board who I suspect are a father and son.  I think I used to be their babysitter.  They had distinctive nicknames and these members have the same handles.  LOL, I have a rich fantasy life.